Dreams about the Ex....

United States
January 20, 2008 3:08pm CST
Lately I have been dreaming about my Ex. I really don't have a clue why he is in my dreams. I'm a happier person now, than when I was with him. We have ended our relationship in a mutual decision. Because both of us knows that the only thing we have in common is the ... Anyway my dream is always like, a series of re-curring intimate dreams. In my dream I know I have dreamt of it before and the feeling was so realistic. That when I wake up I thought it was real. I'm living very far away from him and I have moved on with my life. I don't know how to stop these dreams, why do you think this is happening to me? Do you think we need more closure in our lives and relationship? Any help is appreciated, thanks a lot guys.
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11 responses
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
20 Jan 08
Dreaming about your Ex doesn't necessarily mean that you still long for him. It just so happens that you are reminded of him more when he's no longer around. I've read it from somewhere before that the brain often establishes a routine wherein you most common routine are in somewhat recorded, like habit. Having that relationship before with your Ex must've established a condition in your brain that you see him a lot. But, now that you have ended your relationship with him and perhaps, no longer see him often, your brain that has established that routine of seeing him copes with the sudden change by dealing with it on dreams.
• United States
21 Jan 08
Thank you so much for your help, I really appreciate it :). And this goes to everybody who responded to me :) thank you!!!
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
Your quite welcome ^_^
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
8 May 08
Hey Thanks for the best response
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
20 Jan 08
sorry to said, do you think that he still alive, if not maybe he need your help for prayer, that he really feel sorry what happen to both of you.or still you have feeling to him even him but because of the reason you cannot stay together.
• United States
20 Jan 08
Thank you for your help, I don't have any idea if he's still alive. I do hope everything is alright with him. I am more happier than before.
@asunnys (30)
• United States
20 Jan 08
In my opinion you have already started to move on, but may be craving the connection you had with him. Not him, just that feeling of closeness and intimacy. As you start to meet other guys and start bonding with them (and perhaps find one you can build a connection with), the dreams should lessen and stop.
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• United States
20 Jan 08
Thank you so much, for your help. I really appreciate it and I'm hoping that it these dreams someday stop. I'm actually hesitant post this topic, because it's a little too personal. Somehow opening up through here helps.
@dopey22girl (3324)
• United States
30 Jan 08
I dream about ex-boyfriends as well; it's not a big deal. It's just because they are a part of your life, and you dream of things about your life. If you are dreaming about the same guy every night, then maybe it could mean something, but I wouldn't worry too much about it hun.
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
30 Jan 08
I think still its very natuaral. In our subconcious mind, there is always something about the person we once spent some nice moments with. So in your memory he is there. he comes back somehow there.
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@Nikoko (11)
• Nigeria
21 Jan 08
It is natural to think about him and dream about him. Dreaming about him is a natural feeling. Like you know that every broken relationship is like a wound that occured and needs time to heal. So you definitely get over it. It has to do with your heart also; Sometimes dreams are mere reflection of activities that takes place in the heart during the day. Prettie I what you to look into your heart very well if you still have feelings for him and if you do. I want you to see from your heart whether things can still work for both of you. I think it is love and love has to do with the heart. If you love him i think you should go back to him. if you are happy move on. I think in know time you will definitely stoping dreaming. It happened to me before after sometime I get over it. Take care
• United States
21 Jan 08
Maybe it is a sign that you will see him soon.Maybe he has to travel to where you are for business and you will bump into him.Since you said that everything ended well I don't think the dream means you want to get back with him. I had a recurring dream that I was in a big building and there were people sleeping in many different rooms. I had it until I took a trio and I stayed in a big hotel, a building with many beds.
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
21 Jan 08
i think of late you are thinking somewhat about him. may be some occurances or so. I personally do not beluieve there is something unusual about dreaming. But I think here you are dreaming as you are thinking something. May be in your subconcious mind the thought is there that it would have been nice if he was with you and all.
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@palina77 (1178)
• United States
21 Jan 08
i would talk to him about it
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@patgalca (14605)
• Orangeville, Ontario
21 Jan 08
I asked my psychiatrist why I was always dreaming of finding my husband with a different woman, or him leaving me. He told me dreaming is a way for you to work things out in sleep time. I realized that I was insecure in my relationship with my husband and because I realized this the dreams stopped. However, my first husband left in January of 1992. I have not seen him since as he left the province and didn't dare come back because I filed charges against him. But even after all these years he still comes up in my dreams now and then and it drives me crazy. A lot of the times in my dreams I cannot decipher whether it is my EX or my current husband in the dream. Sometimes one face morphs into another. I believe there is a message there. It may be that I stupidly picked another man with some of the same characteristics. Or it may be that I should realize that I have a better man than I did before and to stop focusing on those small similarities. I prefer the latter. Once you come to a conclusion as to what message you are receiving, the dreams may stop. If you are unable to analyze them, seek the help of a dream analyst. Good luck!
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@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 08
You can't choose what you dream about. If I am anxious about something I tend to get a dream like a journey somewhere and then losing all my luggage. Dreams can be realistic and it can be quite unsettling to wake up with such vivid thoughts. Dreaming about your ex means that you have not had enough closure of that relationship. Have you still got photos of him, cards that he sent to you or presents that he gave you? If so these things might make you connect thoughts about him in your dreams. But it sounds like you have moved on in your life. This is great and perhaps soon you will have a nice new boyfriend. Then you will probably stop having dreams about your ex. Good luck.