Don't You Just Hate Being Ignored

@wolfie34 (26792)
United Kingdom
January 20, 2008 4:18pm CST
That is one of my greatest peeves in life! Being ignored! It drives me absolutely wild sorry, but you know when you want a response from someone and they blatantly ingore you For example, I upgraded (probably stupidly) to a site and have been less than satisfied with it, so I emailed them via their contact form, I know they received my first email because they confirmed my upgrade but now they choose to IGNORE me. I sit there thinking you were quick to take my money off me and now you have got my money you don't want to know. Or when you are walking along the high street and you see someone you know and they ignore you It's like you are sent to Coventry or deemed invisible or don't exist Sometimes from a friend who've you rang and they never return your call or a company you have rang up to enquire about something and they never bother ringing you back. How do you feel when you're being blatantly ignored? How do you deal with being ignored?
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@weemam (13377)
20 Jan 08
I hate irt pal , I wrote to the DSS about Mum and dads winter payment , Dad put the cheque away in a drawer ( he forgot because of the Alzheimers , ) I emaed the 2 weeks ago ,Nooo answer , I ended up phoning Dundee and they said to send it back to the place I had orriginally emiled Grrrrr , I know how you feel pal , bl**dy annoyed , xx
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 08
I try to avoid the phones especially to big organizations, press 1 for this, press 4 for that, it drives me insane! That makes my blood boil too! But you can't win can you xxx
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@weemam (13377)
20 Jan 08
When they put my new door and windows in on friday they broke a bit of my wall in the livingroom and chipped of 2 of my reracotta tiles on the front step . I am making myself ill because I know I will have to stand up for myself and try to get the housing assosiation to pay for the damage , I am not good at that pal , I wish I was more forcefull to , I think we are alike you and me pal xx
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 08
You get all sick inside and you can't sleep for worrying, oh boy I know that feeling well, remember I had to face the battle with my landlord and ex? It was affecting my health, that's why I just gave in and told them to keep the deposit, I hate confrontations, what we like eh! Hugs my best friend xxxx
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
20 Jan 08
If it is a business, I will re-email once of twice, then I threaten to start getting other people involved, for example, in NY there is the attorney general's office, the better business bureau. Or I will start carbon copying newspapers and tv channels, no one wants the bad publicity. I can be pure evil
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
20 Jan 08
Wolfie, trust me...I can go - to b*tch in 60 seconds or less. Wish I could have helped you...I love nothing more than a good fight.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I do hate being ignored. When a site ignores me I keep emailing and sometimes I get nasty with them.LOL I cant help it. And they still dont get back to me for days. Geez! Thats the worse thing you can do to me. So my friend I do know the feeling well.
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 08
I did that with another site who just couldn't understand what I was saying, it was like they were ignoring what I was saying which was plain English. So I threatened to take my custom elsewhere and to report them! Another customer representative then answered my email finally and managed to sort things out, it left a nasty taste in my mouth so I refuse to do business with them. Trouble is they think they have the upperhand, especially if you get nasty they can refuse to pay out, I am very very careful when I upgrade now. I have had my fingers burnt too often x
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I know about having your fingers burnt too.LOL Its just not right. And I can get sooooo mad all because they ignored me! They know how to pull our strings.
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• United States
20 Jan 08
I don't handle it very well, I am afraid. I bothers me to know end and I just hate it. If it is someone that I know and they are just being rude, it hurts and I cry. If it is someone that I don't know, and I speak to them while out and they sort of turn away and don't speak back to me, I just become hurt and a little angry. It is the way my husband punishes me when he is angry, he will ignore me for days and days because he knows that bothers me more than anything. How do I handle it? I cry..lol I don't think you handle it the same way as I do :) I am a crier though and it helps me to feel better.
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 08
I think you are sensitive that is the trouble and I am very sensitive too we take it personally! I get angry as well and the anger boils inside me and it's not good, thanks for your reply.
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• United States
21 Jan 08
Wolfie, that anger boiling inside you will kill you quicker than anything. Direct it where it belongs. You gotta start somewhere, darlin. Or else, you're gonna have a heart attack or something.. . Go on, give it a try!!!!
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 08
I recognize my anger my friend and I have done something about it, I have enrolled myself on an anger management course, sadly it won't start till April but you are right, I am also getting counseling, long term too, so together should sort me out!
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
26 May 08
Wolfie this happened to me oh lord fifty years ago. I was pregnant with my son .in fact almost nine months so I was totally big, and I was at the doctors for my appointment.' first one and then another pg lady was called in and finally 'I realized they had come after I had. So I called to a passing nurse, when can I see the doctor ,my appt was an hour ago. she 'looked at me and said, ohmy g I didnt see you there. How' could you not see a pregnant woman as big as a house? lol She took me right in to see the doctor then. I told the doctor' that I had become invisible since they could not see me and had not even noticed me in all my maternal bliss.wow He scowled and said there was no excuse for that. he apologized all over the place. I had my baby early that next morning..
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
26 May 08
I guess you can laugh about it now, but I bet it sure wasn't funny then, thanks for sharing my friend
@kylanie (1205)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I hate to sound like a baby but I have a myspace account and when I tried to add one of my friends that I see out I sent her a friend invite I mean I see that she has several of my other friends on hers and then I say what the crap I guess I am not good enough for her. Then I think her lost is my gain.
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 08
That is the best stance you can take, exactly her loss NOT yours, she'll need you more than you need her. There's plenty more people who appreciate your true friendship than hers too!
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
29 Jan 08
I hate it when I am ignored. All I want is the respect of an answer. My hubby has a bad habit of ignoring me when he is watching TV. It's like he doesn't hear me, although I know he does. He just gets into the show so much he just ignores me. I also know how you feel about some of the sites here on the internet. I hate when I send them a contact email and they just ignore it. I will not upgrade to any site that I work on. For the reason you state, they just want your moeny and then they ignore you. Also because so many sites come and go these days and they don't even bother to email you when they decide to shut down, and you lose your earnings and your money. Or when a site owes you money and they ignore your emails, that also annoys me to no end.
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• United States
21 Jan 08
I absolutely hate being ignored as well! Even if I say something less than relevant like Im going to the restroom, and noone says ok, I hate that too. What I have to say does matter so say something. Whether it be kiss my butt or your a moron; at least I will know you heard me! If someone does ignore me, I will keep asking the question over and over until someone answers or stating the same sentence over and over until someone responds. Thats how I deal with it.
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22 May 08
I don't like being ignored but have got used to it over the years. I find it sad when I see people in the street, for example, and I will wave or say "hi" only to be ignored. There are times when I think I must have the greatest camoflage in the world, as no one can see me or hear me. These days when I am being ignored I now tend to make more noise until I am noticed. I will bug people until I get a response, simply because I am sick of fading into the background.
• Canada
16 May 08
I'm really with you on this one - I hate being ignored and I hate when people don't listen to me! It absolutly makes me crazy mad. I think it's disrespectful and just plain old rude to ignore someone in an instance. It's really bad when it comes from a company - they owe you as you are giving them money - the least they can do it treat you with the respect you deserve, but when it comes from a friend it bothers me even more.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
15 May 08
I hate being ignored too. I am guilty of ignoring people at times too though. For instance sometimes I run to Walmart real quick and don't bother "fixing up" and I will always see someone I know. I feel a little embarrassed to have them see me looking that way so I won't go over and say "hi". If someone calls me I will call them back though. If I ignore somebody it has more to do with me than them.
@Breath (1297)
• United States
14 May 08
I pout and sulk...It hurts my feelings more then it makes me mad...:)
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
14 May 08
i feel like i'm a total stranger, stupid and an outcast when i'm being ignored. it's just like i don't exist in this world when they did that. it happened on me when i was in high school. my attitude was like this, if you wanna ignore me then fine, i won't be begging for you to talk to me, i would love to ignore you either, just like what you're doing to me lol
@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I hate it! Every time it happens to me, I turn to the person closest to me and ask them if they can see me or if I finally perfected invisibility and just didn't know that I put my invisibility cloak on when I left the house, instead of my brown corderoy coat. Usually that gets the attention of the person who is ignoring me. I can't say that they are particularly nice to me after my snarky question to the person next to me. But, at least I have been noticed. And, it gets a giggle from the person near me! LOL! I remember once when I was younger, I went to make a purchase. I was maybe 12 and I had the money to pay for it but, the clerk kept ignoring me and having the people in line behind me come up and make their purchases. My mom came up, as she had been standing off to the side to stay out of the way since the space in the lines was limited. Once she noticed this blatant disrespect and saw that there wasn't going to be an end to it, she stepped in and asked me what was going on. I told her that I was waiting to be waited on and that no one would help me. She took over at that point and pointed out that I was perfectly capable of making my own purchase with my hard earned money...and yes, I did have it, and that it was disrespectful of the clerk to ignore me just because I was young. The clerk begrudgingly rang me up and took my money. I was 12 and a responsible girl. I had what I wanted and even had the money in my hand. I realize that I have always looked a lot younger than my actual age...even today no one believes my age. But, whether I looked 8 or 12 back then, shouldn't have mattered. It was her job to ring me up and take my money. Ignoring others is bad karma and when people who do it to others get that karma, they better hope it is a mild attack.
@moondan (714)
• China
9 Mar 08
Some people don't care to be ignored,others are care of it.but I think nobody love to be ignored by anybody specially the important people.If i am talking with somebody and he/she think other thing deeply and don't listen clearly what i have said.I will deeply hurt and feel to be ignored.It will effect our friendship or relationship.when it comes to me,i will remind he/her that i hate being ignored.but one time by one time,he/she however don't notice the question.i won't talk to he/her next time.
@anniepa (27240)
• United States
28 Jan 08
I don't like being ignored either. That's a good question, "How do you deal with being ignored?" because if they ignore you, it's hard to deal with it at all because they just IGNORE you! I know if a company fails to return a call or e-mail from them I will no longer deal with them. It seems "customer service" has become a thing of the past. Annie
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
23 Jan 08
Hi Wolfie, I have a real hard time being ignored because it is like you no longer exist, and that is a real quick way to get rid of some one who you do not want to deal with, but when it happens to us we tend to take it personally, and why not it is personal. but how to deal with it other than an actual confrontation I can't help you my friend
@candytang (341)
• China
23 Jan 08
That's a unhappy thing I think.When I run cross this situation,I feel unhappy and uncomfortant,especially the people is my friend.I am a person who really want others notice at me and never ingore me ,but I know this is ,,, As I know this can't be avoid ,I should change my mind ,my feeling about the things .Maybe this is not so important as I think ,I can get over .
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
22 Jan 08
I'm offended because it's just rude ansd very bad manners. There's not much you can do. I send emails to my brother and sister and I don't hear back from them. If they contact me, I reply straight away. My sister replied in a few days last time but only because she was annoyed with me and the email was to let me know it. Gone was the usual sugary sweetness I usually get, in it's place a newsy but curt and abrupt reply. I'm just realising that's what I do. If I ring a firm and they don't get back to me as they say they will and I have to ring again I'm curt, abrupt and unfriendly and if the situation calls for it I can be demanding. I can do all this and remain courteous. If I get the slightest sign that I'm being fobbed off, I immediately ask to be transferered to a supervisor. That gets an immediate reaction especially if you've remained calm and firm. I've noticed that companies who use the phone are much better these days than they used to be.
@sprout (135)
• China
22 Jan 08
Sometimes I hates it very much,sometimes don't. For example, I do a lot of calls for investigation, a few people recall me ,I'll be satisfied , because I can understand many people are very busy without time to recall me . But ,if I just call a few calls,there answer is very important to me without which I can't make the investigation,I may be very angry and the disrespect may boiled my blood. What I always do is if it's not very important ,just let it go. If very important, just call again and again till you find the answer.