Points of view

By Amy
Abernathy, Texas
January 20, 2008 8:38pm CST
Do you ever talk to anyone whom you know is is lieing - even if you don't know anything about the situation they're talking about - you can just tell? I've noticed this mostly with people who invite drama into their lives conciously or unconsciously and find my intuition proven right. I think many though change things around so they might believe the tales they tale. Have you experienced this - what were the circumstances - did you call the person on it or let them be?
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15 responses
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Actually my bosses do it almost everyday...if someone comes up to them and starts talking about a new business or something they act like they know all about it..if you relay something to them that you know they pretend to know....sometimes I look away....but sometimes I throw in some info that is a little known fact and watch them try to squirm out of it. I really don't know what the pay off is for them to always say they knew before everyone else...there have been other instances with other people. Depends on who it is and what they are lying about as to how I react!
• Abernathy, Texas
17 Aug 08
I guess with your bosses you just kind of have a little fun with it. Do you think you don't get angry because its not you or someone close to you, its not worth it, or is it because its a lie that doesn't hurt anyone?
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
17 Aug 08
For me it's not worth it!
@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
Yes, I talk to people a lot with that kind of attitude. They are the people who are insecure and the only way to make their life worthwhile is to lie. They get satisfaction from that. Most of the time I just ignore them.
• Abernathy, Texas
20 Aug 08
Its true, its some kind of satisfaction bred from insecurity. I talk to them when I need to to avoid being rude but don't go out of my way to seek out conversations.
21 Jan 08
at first, i let them be. if at the second or so on and i still hear the same fabricated tell-tales, i let them know where they need improvement. even in my own family, i know when someone is lying so to avoid him or her to sin, i give a subject that is realistic like electric bills and home improvements so they would be diverted to not going into illusions. sometimes, it creates trouble especially when you're not really into the listening mood and also because you know it's not true. but either ways, it really pays to be frank to them and tell them they are falling off the brink.
• Abernathy, Texas
21 Apr 09
I would agree. If its something that's going to hurt them. Otherwise, if its just something that they do, I just stop being in their lives - or allwing them in mine. Unhealthy.
@limosonia1 (1560)
• United States
21 Jan 08
I have experienced it and recently with the bosses son. While trying to work he will come up with all this crazyness. But there is no way I would call him out because of course he is the bosses son and calling him out i don't think would be good. So instead I just sit there and grin.
• Abernathy, Texas
21 Aug 08
Does it effecth is work, does he lie about it. Whetherit does or not - how annoying!
• United States
21 Jan 08
I don't know when someone is lying to me.But when I do find out that you lied to me, then I Never believe anything you say to me ever again. But if I could detect a liar is lying to me, i would just let them talk and I would just never let on that I knew he/she was lying.I would let them think they are pulling this off. But I would never believe them, and I would tell everyone that they are a liar and not to believe them.And if the proper revenge arises, I will make it happen.
• Abernathy, Texas
21 Jan 08
Sounds like you like the truth thing too. Maybe you're an Indigo. Though likely you're not into that kind of thing. When I was little, I didn't stand for even polite lying like when my mom would say, oh the kids loved the cookies you made! Even now, if I'm at my moms, and she's usually a good cook (and it really hurts her feelings anyway) but sometimes she cooks something I don't like, rather then hurt her feelings or say it all tastes great I say, this is so wonderful and in my head finish - that you prepared this meal for us and we're all together!
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• Malaysia
20 Aug 08
it is easy notice people who likes to pretend and lie ... we name them " drama king " or "drama queen".. some of them lack in experience while some of them lack in the talent ..but you should be able to lead them on .. it is really fun at times .. just lead them on .. do not commit in anything .. just hav fun together and maybe you can laugh about it later
@msedge (4012)
• United States
22 Jul 08
I've been cheated many times by some friends and relatives telling lies to me just to get my sympathy and help.I am a type of person that easily get pity so when told pitful things i easily get touch.But later on i had learned my lesson and try to hardened my heart at times.
• Canada
22 Jan 08
Oh you hit a sensitive nerve with me on this subject. What do you do in a case such as a friend standing in front of you telling you a bunch of lies? Why do they do that? Oh how it drives me nuts? In the past two years I have put friends like that at arms length; now recently I realized I have someone close to me who does the same thing. I never new this before but I sure know it now and it hurts to see it. How can this be stopped? How do I say why do you lie so much? Why do you have to exaggerate a story? What need is in her that causes her to do this? I hate it now more then ever because it is someone so close to me doing it? I have tried on a few occasions to say will that isn't true or will let's not exaggerate. I just pray that she starts to feel sub conscious about it and stop doing it. I have always felt this tares down your character it is not a good thing to do at all.
• United States
21 Jan 08
Someone that I know is a pathological liar, I think that people like that just lie because they are not getting the attention that they need telling the truth, but what they don't realize is everyone is giving them attention just the wrong kind they're wondering where did the idiot come from. When I'm around the person that I know that lies like that, I will call them out no matter who we are in front of. Because I would hate for my kids to grow up believing that lying is exceptable.
@mcjeannie (704)
• Philippines
21 Jan 08
The drama king and queens are those people who feel less important, no support system to turn to or either trying to get attention because of lack of affection.The pathology of their lying boils down to bad childhood experience or in a certain intimate relationship.If I noticed people or relatives doing this to me, I try to still listen to them but call their attention in a very kind and tactful way, explaining how their behaviour affect others.In this case, they wouldn't be repeating their action and their habits would be corrected.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Hi aremis! Yes I can usually tell when someone is lying to me. And it makes me angry. So I dont talk to them to long. Because Im afraid I will say something thats not very nice.LOL These kind of people need to be ignored. Then maybe they would lie so much.
• United States
21 Jan 08
I had a friend like that. He always told outlandish stories about what he had done to make himself feel important. One time I did call him on it, but he only defended himself saying why would he have to lie about such things. I have learned to just leave it be, these type people have an inferiority complex and they need something to make themselves feel important.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
21 Jan 08
I think it's not really that hard to tell, you can sometimes see it in their eyes, hear the words coming out from their mouth, that they are simply splicing up some issues or stories. When I come across that is someone like that, I just let them run their mouth and then I do the "unconscious nodding" thing hoping that they end up all their lies and shut the hell up. I know for a fact that it would be rude of me to tell them that I know they are lying, I just avoid them the next time we'd ever cross our path and move on.
@cosylvia (401)
• China
21 Jan 08
hello,i experienced it also,but sometimes i ignored it,so happy in the rat year
@subha12 (18453)
• India
21 Jan 08
I talk with them still. But mostly not on to topics taht i know they are going to tell lies again.You are right taht peopel who invite drama into their life more often acts so. Buit it is the case.Sometimes they tell stories as the way they actually want the things to happen.