Would it be right?

United States
January 21, 2008 2:59am CST
My sister is already married with two daughters. She is working as a teacher in a remote areas, while her husband has no permanent job - but as of now according to her, has just started a job. Their kids left with no one to take good care of them. My sister ask my parents to get the kids and take good care of them. But my mother is somewhat complaining about it, because my sister never send any amount to us for her kids. Would it be right to ask a little amount in exchange of taking good care of her kids. If I am in place of my mother I do think it would be right only to receive amount from my sister. But it should be not ask, my sister should willingly give it as incentive. What do you think?
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11 responses
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
21 Jan 08
I think your sister should offer the money to your mother. It is only fair and right even though they are relatives. It takes alot to take good care of children and it should be compensated.
@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
21 Jan 08
Find out whether your is earning slaries, if she does, then she is a very shameless woman-how ould she expect that great woman who nurtured and nursed her to continue dong a responsibility that is not her anymore? Your Mom looked after you, you as her beloved children must look afetr your own children-she needs her break for goodness sake! There must be something wrong with your sister, until I know what it is, I wont like to judge her!
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• United States
23 Jan 08
Well she have earnings from her income being a teacher and her husband work as a casual employee. I think the reason she have is because she wants to spend her money on house improvement, which I think not enough reason.
@chilenita (474)
• Canada
21 Jan 08
it sounds Liek ur sister is enjoyign the free ride... and yes U gotta ask for something in retrun... life aint for free and especially kids there very expencive this days
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@lucy67 (819)
• China
21 Jan 08
your sister should give your mother some money not just because your mother helps her look after the kids. now she doesn't give your mother money perhaps because she doesn't have much money. a teacher's salary is not so high and your brother-in-law has no permanent job. another reason perhaps is that she doesn't think your mother needs the money. you can tell her in a proper way.
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@dta_kitty (192)
• India
21 Jan 08
The mother should by herself give the money to you.Its not wrong to ask if she didn't do it herself.If she is not in a position to give then you should talk to her about her situation and then decide.If she has the money to give, then she better do,after all its her own daughters.
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22 Jan 08
yes i do agree with you, as it is her childrens it is her duty to look after her kids, no matter what the situation are. when you and your momare taking the risk of looking after her kids then it becomes her duty to take responsibility as well, if the children are with her, then even her husband will know the difficulty in looking after the kids, & they will surely go to job anywhere, no matter what kind of job he gets, so one thing you must make them understand the situation or atleast make any one tell them it is her duty to send you the incentives,
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• India
22 Jan 08
Yes definitely so. Both me and my hubby are working. Previously, our only son used to stay with my in-laws and being a son, my husband used to take care of all financial expenses of the family. But recently, my son is staying with my parents after school. When we started this arrangement, I had spoken to my Dad and offered to give a certain amount every month towards the expenses for my son’s lunch and other things. Though my Dad refused, I felt it was my duty to offer the money as my parents are not becoming younger and whatever money they have should be kept for their well-being. Since your sister is earning herself, she should definitely send some money to your mother or at least she should offer to do so. If she doesn’t, then there is no harm in telling her so. If you mom feels bad about doing it, as a sibling you can approach your sister for help.
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• Singapore
22 Jan 08
I think you better tell your sister about your situation... Me and my husband are working abroad also... My mom is the one who looks after my kids... I send money to her because my kids expenses are my responsibility and not my mom's... I have given her the responsibility to take care of them instead of me taking care of them... It is hard to raise kids you know... quite expensive... and it is only right for you to talk to her regarding this... And by the way it is not in exchange of taking good care of your nieces/nephews... It is for her children also, for their needs...
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• United States
22 Jan 08
By all means you rsister should be sending money for her kids. These children are her responcibilty not your mothers. Nor should your mother have to ask for money to feed, cloth and keep a roof over their heads. This makes me upset because I was a single mom for 5 years and always supported my children. I never left them with someone and not given them something in return. It is unacceptable that you rsister send her kids to live with you and your mom and not expect to help out in raising them. Your mom needs to get on her about it or your sister and her husband need to come home and raise thier chldren themselves. I hope this helps. Good luck
@wisedragon (2331)
• Philippines
21 Jan 08
I think it depends. If your parents are well off financially, occasional babysitting for their grandkids should be no problem. But if your parents are not that well off financially and they're taking care of the children full time, then your sister should definitely give money. What else would she do with her salary?
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• United States
21 Jan 08
If your mother is taking care of the children full time, she has more than every right to ask for money. And if she refuses, go for child support through the courts. But if she is just babysitting, even though she doesn't have the legal recourse that she would if she had them full time, she should still get something. Kids aren't free, and your mother should get something to compensate her for the time and resources lost due to taking care of her daughter's kids. Its not her responsibility, and she should get something!
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