How do you descipline your kids?

South Korea
January 21, 2008 5:42am CST
todays generation...childrens are not easy to handle with...how do you descipline them? or to deal with them.can you share?
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@Stephanie5 (2947)
• United States
21 Jan 08
I try to make my children listen and behave like little ladies and gentlemen but they don't. They are spoiled little brats that take everything forgranted. They are bossy, disrespectful, and ungrateful. I think that in todays day and age you are very limited on how you can parent. If you spank your children, you'll get welfare called on you and they will take your kids. And tthat makes it really hard to keep your children under control. I think if we could punish like they did 20-30 years ago, there would be a lot better and more respectful children running around!
• South Korea
21 Jan 08
yes,you are right...todays children tend to know more,,more than parents.
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• United States
23 Jan 08
Well I'll let you know this you can spank your child as long as you don't leave any marks on them. You can also but them in timeout. If your child is 2 yrs its 2 minutes but the minutes increases for every age.Take something a way they like.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
21 Jan 08
My oldest daughter is 2 and I have been having trouble with her listening and she even acted really bad in her dance class last week. Today I'm skipping dancing. I have started putting her in the corner and it seems to be working really well. She started listening a bit better. I know things won't happen over night and she is just 2 and still learning what is right and wrong but I can say the days have been alot easier on me and I no longer feel like the day will never end. I also feel more in control of whats going on. After putting her in the corner I do make sure she knows why she was put there to begin with and tell her not to do it again.
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• South Korea
22 Jan 08
i did that to my son before it works ..
@Verdem (4)
• Russian Federation
21 Jan 08
When I say - NO, it's always No, my son knows when I mean it.
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• South Korea
21 Jan 08
thats great thanks
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• India
22 Jan 08
it's very simple. Just behave like a friend of your child
• South Korea
22 Jan 08
wow..thats nice
@sissy67 (225)
• United States
22 Jan 08
I agree to this to a certain extent...I am very good friends with both my girls...they tend to talk to me quite a bit about stuff that goes on in their lives...we spend alot of time together...but...there are still times where I have to actually play the MOM roll and get the discipline goin. Its tough to be a mom, friend, fixer upper, nurse, among other things.....and still be the adult in charge to keep them in line and guide them the right way....
• Philippines
24 Jan 08
my two year old son definitely fast learner he speak well when he was only 1 year and 7 months.hes very curious and listen especially if we have some discussion with my husband..one time he asked for a 1 peso..my husband and i ask him what he do for 1 peso...he only said and smile..buy food.
• South Korea
24 Jan 08
thats great thanks
• Peru
22 Jan 08
in the case of children with a big family, it's probable that they'll recieve advice from uncles,aunts ,their granparents since the majority don't like listening to their parents' advice, right? (well just for some special kids, lil' devils).I think kids will adopt all values their family has (and that's where granpa's advice is helpful). It's important also to decide when to give them some space , that will depend on their personalities. What i think kids don't like is a threat of punishment. Like :if you go there, you'll be grounded for days!!But the kid hasn't done anything yet. SO be careful with that
• South Korea
23 Jan 08
thanks
• United States
22 Jan 08
I have five children ages 12 down to 3, and no, discipline is not easy! That being said, I do have pretty good kids. When it is necessary to discipline them it really depends on their age. For example, I can't discipline the 3 yr old like I would the 10 or 12 yr old. With the older kids, they lose priviledges, the things that they love; video games, television time, visits to friends houses, outings, etc. With the younger kids, they get time outs as well as losing t.v. time and playdates. It seems to work pretty well, because my kids are social butterflies and the fact that they are not allowed to go and play with their friends is a huge thing to them.
• South Korea
23 Jan 08
having 5 kids is a tough job as a mother but still you can discipline your kids..goodjob..
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
22 Jan 08
We spank when he deserves it. When my son decideds he wants to back talk me or say a naughty word he gets smacked in the mouth. And for little things like playing with something he's not suppose to or doing what ever just be a butt he get's put in the corner.
• South Korea
23 Jan 08
thanks for sharing tiffiny
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
22 Jan 08
I only have one child currently who I see once a week I'm fighting family for him but how I descipline him when I'm over there is. Ask him to pick up something of his wait 5 seconds if you get no action than ask again and wait another 5 seconds. If no action again than tell them if you don't do waht the action was that you wanted them to do than give them a consequence of not doing that action. I took a 9 month parenting course and that's what they told us to do to descipline. Time outs work well taking away their favorite tv program also works but when you do see the action don't forget to praise them for it. Don't praise for the completion of the product but praise them as they are doing it.Than praise them again after its all completed with a big hug or something.
• South Korea
23 Jan 08
that was great...thanks
• United States
22 Jan 08
I have two daughters and they have know from the time they were little how they are expected to act and they know when its ok to have fun. They have to be reminded sometimes but I have found that if im consistent and let them know from the beginning and tell them i a way they can understand then they do a great job. I feel that my girls are very well behaved. We seem to have the most problem with fighting and it is when we are at home
• South Korea
23 Jan 08
yes,all kids seem to fight at home..
@mychattime (1013)
22 Jan 08
Hi, I've not really read all the other responses so I apologize if I repeat some of them. I have a 4 year old and his attitude is so different to mine when I was young, however I tend to discipline him by using Suppernanny aka Jo Frost's approach, the naughty place, we also take treats away from him especially if he plays up at night, I stop treats and put his favourite toys / games in the naughty cupboard. He gets a warning first and then things go, one every time I have to tell him off after that. It does work to a certain extent but I dread him growing up to be a brat, so if you start young hopefully they will turn out ok, well thats my theory!
• South Korea
23 Jan 08
its nice to know that you can discipline your kids that way..thanks
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
22 Jan 08
My parents never did hit me... But at the same time... I knew that if I did wrong... there was a real possibility of being punish... and perhaps hit by my father (even so... I never did find out). The fact is that in my days... there was a common law know to all kids... that not only you had to respect your parents... but every single adults you came across. And it was enforced by whatever mean. Because if you showed dis-respect for a visitor... it meant that your parents were bad parents. I have seen kids for the past 20 years lounging on the front of the tele and totally ignoring me when I enter the room after their parents invited me inside. In my days... I was required to get up and say "Good Morning... or whatever". I think the biggest problem today... is that parents have forgotten to teach their children "respect". You don't need to hit a child to teach it something. The only reason you have to hit it... is when you did not teach it the rules from the beginning... and now it is rebelling because you want to change what it has been accustom to... by you. That makes you a bad parent. If a kid knows the simple rule of respect... it will never argue with you and will do what it is told to do. It really sound very simple... does it not?
• South Korea
22 Jan 08
yes you are right i did the same thing to my son...he is sometimes stubborn i think,now a days children are being influence by media..
@suehan1 (4355)
• Australia
22 Jan 08
it a hard job and i think all children are different.my children know that these are the rules of my house at that is it.they are mostly polite children,that comes with many hours of correcting them when they do not say please or thankyou.i think you have to discipline from the very early years or you will find it harder as they get older.cheers sue
• South Korea
22 Jan 08
yes,i do agree with you a child can be train as early as possible..thanks
@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
21 Jan 08
My daughter is 1 and STUBBORN as can be. She is my daughter true and true. The only differance is I have more experance being stubborn so I usually win lol. We have started the corner thing. She knows not to leave the corner because her time will start over. She gets 1 minute. I don't know if she completly understands "time starting over" yet but she will. I have to say consictancy is the biggest thing about disapline working. We have been working on her staying out of the dogs water dish and every time she goes near it we remind her you will go to time out. She is getting better ... its been about 3 weeks. I hope I can teach my child early enough so I don't have bigger problems later.
• South Korea
22 Jan 08
they said that you must discipline a child when he/she is still young coz its very difficult to discipline the child if they are grownup.