Will Anger Management Calm The Savage Wolf

@wolfie34 (26792)
United Kingdom
January 21, 2008 5:37pm CST
I am the first to admit that I do have a problem with my anger and I have a lot bottled up, I guess my friends here don't see it, but it is there simmering away and I have given away telltale signs through a few of my responses, those closest to me know that I have issues and I don't hide from them, I know they are there like little green gremlins ready to strike. Today I managed, successfully to get myself long term counseling! After fighting for it through my GP, and various other resources! I will be on a 3 month waiting list but as I am pretty flexible and don't mind seeing a woman or male it could be less. I am over the moon because private counseling sessions can be as much as £45/$80 for 50 minutes. But I have managed to get them for £5/$8! I have also enrolled myself on an anger management course, if anyone has been on one, I would be very interested to find out more. Trouble is it doesn't start till April, but at least I have been proactive and put my name down, as long as they have enough people it will go ahead. I do hold a lot of anger and I can contain it, but it's still there and I have to do something about it, one friend who replied correctly that anger will kill me, it is true I do recognize it and that's why I am doing something about it. Only one person ever saw the raw hatred and anger in me and that was my ex but that is past and I am hoping that both the counseling and anger management will dig a big hole put the past and my ex into it and bury it for good! Anger, do you recognize the symptoms?
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@mummymo (23707)
21 Jan 08
You have no idea how proud I am of you Sweety - I'm swelling up here fit to burst! I have never seen your anger but sometimes I sense it and I guess I know where most of it comes from - you are doing the right thing by working on it now before it gets too bad and that takes guts sweets. I'm gonna tell you something now that might surprise you ( I know I've said it before but I don't think you believed me!) I have an absolutely awful temper and when I get angry I really do get angry - I have to have a little tantrum every so often just to relieve the built up pressure but I am getting better with it the older I get! No one ever really knows your temperament for real unless you live with them or are very close and can be yourself around them - so that means it is even more amazing that you have done this sweets. Please let me know how things go and when you start - you know I will be backing you all the way and I am sure these steps will help you with more than just your anger which affects your whole life and as you so rightly said your health as well! Hugest of Hugs xxxx
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 08
You know I couldn't have done half of what I am doing without the help, support and love of my friends and for that I will always be eternally grateful xx
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@mummymo (23707)
22 Jan 08
Surely you know by now sweety that we are all grateful to have you in our live? Love ya xxx
@maximax8 (28547)
• United Kingdom
23 Jan 08
It is great that you recognize that you have a problem with anger my friend. This is the first step into you solving this problem. It is wonderful that you have had enough confidence to seek counseling sessions and go on the anger management course in April. When you go to the sessions you will able to talk one to one with a person that I help you to explain at first and eventually stop your anger. The person might help you to get rid of your feelings of anger or direct your feelings of anger a positive way. You are likely to meet other people that find it challenging to control their anger. This will be valuable for you I am sure. Healing events from the past like your memories of your nasty ex will be a wonderful thing for you to do. Good luck and well done for organizing all this to give you a happier life.
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
23 Jan 08
Being with other people who have the same problems will indeed help a lot, sharing stories, experiences and you can build on each other. Thank you my friend I am quite looking forward to it now.
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 08
Well Wolfie I have always been able to contain my Anger yes even when I was married It actually take a lot to set my Anger of but when it goes it goes And I mean I can go months My Son is like me there as well it takes a lot to get him angry but when he does he does I am glad that you have enrolled in the Counselling and that and I really hope it will help you and you know I will be here to support you Sweetie xxxx
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
23 Jan 08
The anger is not as bad as it was, but then I had a catalyst who would start me off, now I'm more settled the anger has settled down, hopefully along with the counseling this wolf will be a cute little cub LOL! But don't tell Gissi that, he'd tease me for sure xxx
@raydene (9874)
• United States
22 Jan 08
Honey..I so wish we were closer..I taught social skills to inner city youth at a job Corps..Anger management was one of my best classes.. I would love to work with you... I do throw alot of social skills in my discussions from time to time.. I am here whenever you need me raydenee@yahoo.com xoxoxo
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 08
Thank you my dear friend that means a lot, I probably said before if you were my mentor in life I think I would have gone far and achieved so much, but then I guess you have to make some mistakes in life to learn, nothing can be trouble or stress free can it. Hugs xxx
22 Jan 08
i had a bit of a problem between 1939-45. you have been brave in idetifying the cause. but why do you anger the price? perhaps you just need to be looking within yourself! am i a mile of?
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
22 Jan 08
I don't anger the price because it is a valuable investment in myself to having a successful and happier future. Thank you for your response, brave maybe, but it's for my own survival.
@rovian (1927)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Talking to someone about what is bothering you, is suppose to help you with your anger. That is what I heard but I have never done it, so I don't know how well it works. Good luck.
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 08
Thank you, yes letting the anger out is better than bottling it up inside for it to explode.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
29 Jan 08
Hi Wolfie, do I ever understand where you are coming from, I used to walk around in a white hot rage, I used to think of myself as a huge mountain and was about to explode at any moment, and I knew if I did the people in the village below would surly be killed, so I kept it contained but at huge expense to myself. Have you ever heard the term depression is anger turned out side in. I hope you have better luck with councilors than I did, because I was afraid to let my anger go, because it had become me, and if I let it go what would happen to me. And again it was one day I heard those silly words I use so frequently "That was then, This is now" And that told me I couldn't go back and change one darn thing, what was ,was. But how I chose to let it affect me I can do something about. So I mentally put all the stuff in big garbage bags and slung them in to a big pit and walked away. Some times I go back and poke those bags to see if they are still full, but never never open them and let all that stuff out. Now all this being said, I still do have to take medication to keep my anger at bay,and I will have to take it for the rest of my life, but I have a wonderful doctor who saw that anti depressants have never worked on me where as anti psychotics do and they do a terrific job. I admit I was stunned when an anti psychotic was mentioned but maybe I was worse than I wanted to believe but Wolfie it does work for me and now I am a happy well balanced person, as long as I take my medications. I wish you well on your quest for peace in your life, but do not give up you will find it Robin
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
29 Jan 08
Well good for you that you are seeking help. Most people with anger problems don't usually admit they have a problem. So they don't get any help and it festers and who knows what can happen. I am glad you see you have a problem and are doing something about it. It will heal you and you will have control again one day. I am a pretty mellow person by nature so I think I am lucky. My son has a very bad temper and it sometimes scares me. Not for my safety because he respects me and wouldn't do anything to me, but I have witnessed his anger. I am scared for him and I keep hoping one day he will get help for it. He is now married and she seems to have helped him a lot because he is starting to mellow a bit. Or maybe because he has finally grown up.
• United States
23 Jan 08
hi wolfie my new friend. my daughter has a anger problem and she had to go to anger management. i did nothing for her but i think her problem is is does not thing she has a problem. i am glad to see that you see it needs attention. hey u can even yell at me if something makes you mad . rant and rave all you want i will be a sounding block if u need one.have a great day and rest those feet:)
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
22 Jan 08
I have anger problems as well. I coped for years with booze and smokes. Going off them was hard cause I had nothing to numb the anger I was dealing with. I still struggle at times with it. I have done things in the past that are down right scary now. I wish there was something like that to help me here, but I am in the middle of the woods and no programs around. The past couple years I have been learning to mediate which helps me. Also being able to voice my feelings and letting go of it before the bottle is exploding helps me. I wish you all the luck with the program and counseling my friend. Vicki
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
22 Jan 08
It's good to see that you are moving ahead with your life, wolfie, and doing what is necessary for your ultimate well-being. You could not live a very satisfying and fulfilled life if you allowed pent-up anger to direct you. Sooner or later it would have to come out. You've taken a major step towards recovering from a bad chapter in your life. I say, Good for you!