Answer me this... Tell me if I'm wrong... Does he love her?

Jamaica
January 23, 2008 3:33pm CST
A friend of mine asked her boyfriend to take her out to see a movie and her told her to go out with her friends because he doesn't want to see any movie... uhh!!! When they do go out, she spends... Uhhh!!! I told her he doesn't seem interested in her, and she needs to make a serious decision, because, to me, it doesn't seem as if he loves her... Tell me if I'm wrong... Does he love her? Is he at all interested?
2 people like this
14 responses
• India
23 Jan 08
Well, there could be a possibilty that he is not interested in her. I don't think you are wrong because you obviously are thinking good for your friend. But I would also suggest that your friend talk to her boyfriend about this and ask him some straight forward questions. It could also be possible that he may be going through a bad phase or something in his life. I feel your friend should talk to him in person.
• United States
23 Jan 08
I agree. She needs to have a serious talk with him and find out where she stands. Friends need to look out for one another.
24 Jan 08
The truth? He doesn't care of her...I'm a boy,and I can tell you that,if we are really interested,we are far different from that stereotype of brutal hardness of heart and soul...Everytime I notice one of my friends to be so insensitive to girls attempts, it's mainly because they're not at all interested: my experience? Once a girl was deeply interested in me, we knew each other, but I refused to stay with her: I was honest, cause I didn't feel anything, but (as she was a cute girl) I could "enjoy" her: the subsequent situation would have been the same you're describing now. She would deepen her love for me, and I would be more and more indifferent (physical attraction can't resist forever...) 'till I have to be extremely unkind and careless to show her I'm not involved in the relation as she is...Now, isn't this boy you're talking about yet "unkind" and "careless" ? The previous are my reasons for that... Don't worry,world is full of lonely guys... :-)
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
24 Jan 08
If he is interested he has a funny way of showing it. I hope she would come to ths conclusion on her own. But alot of the time people can't see what is right in front of them. Or don't want to. Perhaps in her discussion with him she should show an interest in seeing other people. That way she may find someone who will be interested in taking her to a movie and spending time with her.
@nkhanna (925)
• India
24 Jan 08
well it would be really inappropriate if i say that because of this point anyone should come to this conclusion that the guy does not love the girl.i guess you should ask your firend to give sometime to this relation and think deeply before taking any decision.there are many a times when one likes something but the other does not,but it really does not mean that they cant be in love.love is unconditional.however even after deep thinking she feels that he is not caring,sharing,understanding her emotions and loving her to her expectations then she should move ahead in her life without him.
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
24 Jan 08
Well, if this guy is unemployed, his parents are sick and he has to pay for their hospitalization, medicines and surgeries, then it's understandable that he would have no money for dating. But if he has money and lets her spend for their dates, then he's a pathetic boyfriend. It doesn't matter whether he loves her or not. She ought to find her self a better man!
@subha12 (18454)
• India
24 Jan 08
its very difficult to say so in just one instance. may be he really does not like to see movie. Also it can be other way round. If he really does not like to go for movie, your friend can try to take him elsewhere and see if he still does not want to. then may be he is not interested.
• Australia
24 Jan 08
If this happens regularly, then he's definitely not interested. I think there are only two reasons he would avoid going out with her: 1) He's lazy - which is unacceptable, if you love someone, you make an effort or compromise. 2) He's embarrassed to be seen in public with her - that's unacceptable too. If that's the case, he's not good for her self esteem. She deserves better. What does she think the problem is?
• Philippines
24 Jan 08
is this a first time situation or everytime? because if your bf always told you to go out with your friends and rejected your invitations to go out with the two of you, that means he is making a way for you to go out of his life..simple as that
@siZidni (1860)
• Indonesia
24 Jan 08
i can't say he doesn't love your friend. he might no like the movie. so he didn't want to spend any for what he didn't like. your friend could be more wise. understanding what her boyfriend like. she should compromise all things what she likes and what her boyfriend likes. i hope you get my point
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
24 Jan 08
He might not be interested, but their conduct and what they do is their business. As for him not wanting to go to the movies, maybe....um well... the guy doesn't want to go. It happens. Also, plenty of girlfriends/wives do not want to participate in dates, events, hobbies of their boyfriends/husbands. In that situation it could also mean something is up with the relationship, but most lines of thinking don't trend that way; instead they opt for personal choice/freedom in a relationship. As for spending, again, I say its their conduct and if they've worked it out thats them. I'd say it be nice if they were to try and equally court each other, but its possible they may have worked it out on their own terms.
@j27366 (294)
• Philippines
24 Jan 08
no,he's not interested in her and worse, he doesn't love her at all. his acts are not the normal acts of a loving and caring boyfriend. in fact, he's a user. imagine, he doesn't spend anything when they go out! what a shame!
• United States
23 Jan 08
well, if they have been dating for a while it is understandable. Maybe he just simply didnt want to go out that night, or maybe there was more to the situation that you know. Like- maybe he noticed she wasnt hanging out with her friends enough, cuz I know when my girl friends get a new boyfriend they tend to neglect their friends, and boyfriends dont want to be hated by the friends. But I think she needs to talk to him still, but there might be more to the story.
• Antigua And Barbuda
23 Jan 08
jur he doesnt love her at all he is using her only when he has no one to be with. he loves her money for sure . she needs to move on and find someone who is totally interested
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
23 Jan 08
I believe she is being used and can not think of another word for it, in a relationship you are supposed to be partners and have respect for each other in this instance it only works if its all about him and his needs defiantly not love in my book