The Cause of Jealousy

@jhazie (340)
Philippines
January 26, 2008 6:17am CST
Whats the basic cause of jealousy? selfishness? if man jealous is this a self centered,cannot tolerate happiness, or what? a love :-/ what creates problems.
6 responses
@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
jealous woman - yes, i am...
they say... jealousy destroys... and i agree... but sadly, im a very jealous woman.. even if he says he loves me so much.. even if he goes home to me.. when he looks at other girls and hangs so much with his friends.. i get jealous.. sometimes, i know.. that its chocking him, but i am this way.. i show how much i love him.. and i wanted him so much for myself.. he was used to carefree relationship and he can do the things he wished to do... he had cheated his past girl friends.. and he had done so many terrible things.. thats why my trust, is lesser, and the way i see him.. is unfaithful.. i say without trust, love and relationship is useless.. trust is very important, and jealousy says.. theres no trust between two lovers.. i am trying to clear my mind and free this doubts.. being inlove is really hard.. and i know love is stronger^_^ i can over come this jealousy.. because i want to keep him. and this relationship will endure.. take care now^_^
@jhazie (340)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
Oh sad to say, me too :-/ you can overcome jealous i hope coz me too the same as you but i changed it because the basic cause i know is you live for yourself alone,anyway you can do and think all you want. the jealous thoughts we harvour in our minds prevent from enjoying what we have,that is way i keep. maybe we overcome this. thanks for comment my dear friend. take care too.
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
glad to hear honestly.. we both are^_^ we can overcome this.. and we will be better person.. good luck ok?^_^
• Romania
26 Jan 08
Jealousy is produced by the fear of loosing the person you love...
@jhazie (340)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
yeah! thanks for the comment, so its become more complicated. maybe he cant to lose me too :-D
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
27 Jan 08
This is true branzicel, but the person who is jealous, thinks they are holding on to the person that they love..but in reality they are really pushing that person away, but they fail to see that
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
26 Jan 08
On its most basic level....jealousy is about fear...NOT NECESSARILY fear of losing someone you love or care about though. It can go much deeper than that..It could be a fear of feeling "less than worthy", it could be a fear of trusting ppl and so on..the reasons are plenty really
• Romania
26 Jan 08
yea...you have completed me just fine :D
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
I also think that jealousy happens when you do not trust your partner enough and you think that they are doing something behind your back. It's tru that this is triggered by the fear of losing the person to someone else. For me, sometimes, showing a little sign of jealousy is healthy but if it's too much and it causes inconvenience to your partner's work etc, I do not think that is healthy. In a relationship, I believe that jealousy can be avoided if we always assure the other person that we are loyal to them and we love them no matter what.
@jhazie (340)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
Thanks for comment :) instead not satisfied thats it and are tormented by the fact that we performed better ,loyal yes. this will becomes completely unsociable and dangerous which create problems. trust is more important too. hope it works for us.
@piatos03 (397)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
I agree with the post above me. People get too scared of losing the person that they love that they tend to get jealous whenever that person starts getting cozy with others. I think it is also because man gets insecure. They sometimes think that they are not good enough and that someone better could come along and steal their partner. It may also be because they have a poor self-image or lack of self-confidence. They feel like they are not enough.
@jhazie (340)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
i agree with you too, its dangerous sometimes. Problem can come from many sources. he is envious :-O we need to learn overcoming jealousy and selfisness too. yes they insecured. but i think jealous sometimes not love,isnt it! thanks for the comment.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
27 Jan 08
Jealousy is caused by insecurity...In a marriage it is caused because the husband is afraid his wife will ]eave him or she will find someone better,if he does not want her going places its cause because he is afraid she will look at men or they will look at her....Then there is competeive jealousy when a man is afraid his wife will excell above him and he feels threatened...The root of jealousy comes from insecurity, and then it developes into other things such as bitterness, selfishness...The reason it goes into other diretions is because he/she has no secutiy with being who they are,they have a fear of someone being better than they are..Jealousy has been known to be "the green eyed Monster" and can lead you into all kinds of ugly things if not controlled...The jealous person needs to learn to accept themselves, love themselves , and feel that they are worthy...