I have a black eye, but I did fall in the bathtub. I DID!!
By cyntrow
@cyntrow (8523)
United States
January 26, 2008 1:36pm CST
OK, so Thursday night, I was showering and I slipped. I fell in the tub on my face. Actually, the whole left side of my body took the impact. My husband and three of my kids heard the fall and all came rushing in to the bathroom to see if I was OK. I was lying there with a shower curtain on top of me, totally naked and it was a totally embarrassing situation. LOL. The next morning, my chest, my arm and my eye were all bruised. Then I went to work.
I had people ask me outright if my husband had hit me. When I told them what had happened, I could feel that they didnt believe me. My husband does not do that and it sort of made me mad. I lived with an abusive husband. My first was a bast ard. I fell, for crying outloud.
So I must ask. If a coworker has a black eye, do you think she is abused, or do you believe her when she tells you the reason?
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10 responses
@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
first impression yes..
but if i will hear her story and looked into her eyes, i can sense people lying and telling the truth..
nowadays there 70% of abused women lie according to cosmo magazine. thats why when people see some bruises and knew you are with a partner, they will maliciously think abuse is present.. and we cant blame them..
well, i can say just ignore them, besides when they file some case against him, your children you yourself and the lie detector test will clear it all..
and ouch! that is so painful, next time be careful ok?
i advice to put on some ice to the bruised area, it will help lessen the sore.
drink vitamin C, this will help regenerate and heal wounds faster..
thats if you need a little advice^_^
get well soon and take care always^_^
@cyntrow (8523)
• United States
26 Jan 08
Oh I understand. And I can't say that if the shoe were on the other foot, I wouldn't fear the same thing. But I think I would also look for a pattern rather than automatically presuming the worst.
Thanks for the reply and the advice. I already have my vitamen C intake on the up because of this flu bug that has taken over my house.
@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
9 Feb 10
I had a co-worker who didn't come to work one day and the next day was all beat up - saying that she was beat up by the school that just so happens to be near where my mom lived - and I said "I don't really think that could happen there."
I even asked my mom if she'd seen anything suspicious and she said no - tho observant hasn't ever been one of mom's strong suits.
Later on I realized that she was covering up for her husband, but I'm so clueless it took another co-worker kind of spelling it out for me.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Jan 08
If a co worker or friend told me that she fell in a tub, I would believe her.If we are friends , then I should be able to tell when you are lying to me.I have a good B.S. detector.I would know if you were trying to lie for him.I guess it is the times we are living through. It is good and bad. Good that there were many who Wanted to know if you were being abused and wanted to help. Not too long ago, they would see the blackeye and they wouldn't ask about it. "It's none of my business."But it is bad because innocent people like your hubby will be seen as abusers.
How are you?I hope you are feeling better.
@fpd1955 (2074)
• United States
27 Jan 08
I am so glad you didn't break anything. And...thank goodness your husband was home. I am sure you are very sore and tender.
I have never worked with anyone that came to work with visible bruises. But, if I did and I questioned them, I would have to observe their behavior when they told me what happened before I believed them or not. I most certainly wouldn't challenge what they said, I think I would just leave it alone. If someone was being abused by their spouse and I became their friend, I would hope they would feel comfortable enough with our friendship that they would tell me and then I would do my best to get them to seek help in getting out of that type of relationship.
Feel better, cyntrow.
PEACE
@Jimmy3371 (142)
• United States
27 Jan 08
Ouch that must have hurt real bad. You know people want to think the worst of everything, it's boring to hear the truth so people want to think the worst of everybody its maybe its cause their life is a mess so they want to think everybody's live is the same the bad thing is if you do lie more people will get in trouble. just stick with the truth and if they don't like o well myself I believe what people tell me I don't even question it
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
26 Jan 08
Well, I feel the other day ion the kitchen and totally banged up my leg so I was limping around, I understand where you are coming from. it is one thing, if you come into work one day with a black eye and other injuries that are from a fall. Another thing if you come into work with a new injury every week. So if you came in one day with a black and said oh I fell, and I had never seen another bruise or any other sign for abuse, then I would have no reason to not believe you.
@mummymo (23706)
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26 Jan 08
I believe you sweety - you know I do! I too was married to a violent man before I had the sense to get out and I remember making up stories and knowing NO_ONE believed them. I guess when I see someone now that has a black eye or similar I try not to judge but if I am worried they are being abused I tell them I am not calling them a liar but if they ever need to talk I am there - that is all you can do I guess! Hope you feel better soon sweets and that people start believing you.
Just wondering if you felt they didn't believe you becauses it triggered memories of the way you used to feel when you had to make up a cover story? xxxx
@sabbathandruth (567)
• Canada
26 Jan 08
ouch
yes someone once asked my that cuz i had a cold sore and they didnt know what it was
DUH
@SukiSmiles (1991)
• United States
26 Jan 08
Ouch! I hope you are feeling better. I would believe what my co-worker told me. If she was getting hurt on a regular basis I would begin to think that something was going on and that she was lying about it.
