how do you talk about your past relationship?

@djmarion (4901)
Philippines
January 28, 2008 3:34am CST
is it easy for you to talk about your past relationship? or do you avoid the topic when brought up?what are the things that are holding you back?
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• United States
28 Jan 08
It is usually pretty easy for me to talk about those experiences. I am now married and my life is much different from the life I had when I was in those past relationships. When I was younger I chose to try and avoid them; I just didn't like talking about them because they did leave some painful memories. Now, they don't hurt anymore, they are just like remembering a story that was told to you. I can look back at those times and recognize that they were a part of my life, but then I can talk about them like it wasn't even me that it was happening to, that it was someone else.
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@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
1 Feb 08
talking about past heartaches when your in a good and happy situation is really very easy. congratulations to your good marriage. :)
• India
28 Jan 08
It depends on how much broadminded our present friend is, to disclose such matters.If he/ she is quite sportive, then I disclose;otherwise, it is dragging something on our head. But if it is brought up by the other party, then, instead of lying , it is better to tell the truth and face the consequences. But the important thing is, why your friend wants to know your past relationships, if he accepts you as you are? The very enquiry from your friend should make you suspect his acceptance of you. I have talked about that to my lady friends and they too have talked about that to me. And, our friendship still remains with the same tempo.
• Philippines
29 Jan 08
its not easy to talk about our past relationship bec. it's hard to forget the past.i'm avoiding it coz it hurts especially when u love the person so much....
• United States
28 Jan 08
I am open and honest about them all. I have nothing to hide and neither does he. He hasn't told me every little detail right down to the moment they met and I haven't either, but I know most about his old relationships -- how long they were together, who ended it and why it ended. He knows the same about me. I'm not uncomfortable hearing about his and he's not uncomfortable hearing about mine. There is a reason they are in the past. Either he or the ex did something to end the relationship and that's all the comfort I need. He picked me, not them.
• United States
28 Jan 08
Sometimes it is easy, but also times it just doesn't fit the moment. The company you keep determines a lot of how you edit the topics of discussion. It is a god send to be around friends and family that just let you talk about whatever you want.The pain that goes with a broken relationship hinder the energy behind a conversation.If the topic comes up I just play it by ear. There is nothing better than being around people that allow you to vent if need be. Most of the times it is just me holding me back.
@miller1978 (1104)
• United States
28 Jan 08
At first I was reluctant to talk about my past relationships with my present boyfriend because of all the pain I have endured in the past. After a few months of just giving him little bits and pieces we finally sat down and opened up about past relationships on both our parts. It lead into several other discussions about the future and what we expected of each other. In the long run I believe it helped our relationship grow into what it is today. We both know where we stand on certain matter and get along wonderfully. He is not like any of them from my past and I also believe that is what I needed.
@m3mema5 (90)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Your past is what has made you who you are today.If you can talk about your past relationships with the one you are with than you will not be holding anything or hiding anything from them.Truth , honest and faith in one another is the key.The past is the past and if it help discssioning it your mate. it helps for they will understand you better.