Should I give up on my dream of marriage?

@kiran1978 (4138)
Australia
January 30, 2008 7:20am CST
I really want to get married, I have always dreamt of getting married. I am now 29 years old and I feel like my dream of marriage is slipping away. I want to know that my partner truly loves me and is committed to spending the rest of his life with me. Would you still stay with someone you love knowing that they may never marry you as they do not believe in marriage? Should I give up on my dream of marriage?
3 responses
@littleowl (7157)
30 Jan 08
i have been married and divorced twice-having a white wedding makes you feel like a princess for the day--its all well and good to get married but i have known friends who have lived with their partners for years and they have been quite happy but then they have got married and wanted a divorce after a year or so--i really dont know what that piece of paper does when you sign it but it always seems to spoil your relationship with someone--at the same time i'm not saying to give up on marriage but you really need to have someone who is committed to you and loves you for who you are-dont give up on marriage there is someone out there for you but if you love your partner and he truly loves you then i would stay with him-at the moment i am in that situation and love my man very much we are both very independant he hardly ever tells me he loves me but shows that he does in other ways i can trust him completly and without trust there is no relationship he is neither committed to marriage but that suits me-you have to ask your partner if he he really loves you and how much he is willing to give you can you trust him implicitly if so you both have a very good relationship and maybe it will have to be you who proposes marriages to him-littleowl
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@kiran1978 (4138)
• Australia
30 Jan 08
Thanks littleowl for your great advice. I have heard that the piece of paper does change alot of relationships, it is a shame. I am glad you are with someone that makes you happy and that truly loves you. Sounds like you are one wise owl now with all your experiences.
@dopey22girl (3327)
• United States
30 Jan 08
This is a really hard question. It's hard because you love your partner, but they don't want to get married. Marriage really is nothing more than a sheet of paper declaring you are technically married. It all depends on if you are happy with this guy, and if he treats you right. Good luck my dear!
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@kiran1978 (4138)
• Australia
30 Jan 08
Yes I am happy with him, I also about to have his child. To me marriage is not just a sheet of paper, it is a way of showing your commitment to someone you love. Thank you for your kind comments.
@Galena (9124)
30 Jan 08
why don't you ask him? and if he doesn't want to get married, then that's no reason why you can't have a loving, deep, meaningful, long lasting relationship. but you do need to talk to him about it, and if he doesn't want the ceremony, you can't make him have it. commitment doesn't need the legal document to prove it.