Garden wedding or Civil wedding?

Philippines
January 31, 2008 6:57am CST
My boyfriend and I have planned to get married this year.We planned to have a garden wedding. But it cost hight and am worried coz my boyfriend is not working this year coz he suffer a pain on his right leg couse of diabetis. He tries to find jobs to have that plan. And he asked me how much is the cost but I have no idea. And I plan to have a Civil wedding so it's less cost. But we all know women dream to wear a wedding dress and merry the man we loved. What should I do? Any way he told me that he find a way to have a garden wedding, still am worried to him. I need your help!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANKS
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• United States
31 Jan 08
We were married in our back yard in a gazebo we made, with just a few friends and family, then we all went to dinner, which we paid for. It was a lot less expensive this way and our wedding was beautiful but simple with no stress. I wore a wedding dress and my husband wore formal clothes. We didnt get but maybe two or three wedding gifts doing it that way, but that isnt what mattered to us. Best wishes and do what is best for the both of you, I hope your fiance feels better soon.
@lala766 (240)
• United States
31 Jan 08
First congrats on your engagement. you all can have a beautiful garden wedding without spending too much money. If you have a nice backyard or have a family or friends yard you can use all you need to do is decorate it with nice flowers you can even build a gazebo or rent one. you can buy the flowers yourselves from a store like home depot or even walmart you do not need to have expensive flowers. I know its stressful but you can find so many inexpensive ideas on the internet or in books and have a great wedding without spending too much money. You can even find wedding dresses at great disccount prices. just relax and be patient and everything will turn out fine!
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• Philippines
1 Feb 08
thanks a lot! give me an idea again! GOD bless!!!!!
@danzer (2732)
• Philippines
31 Jan 08
Trust your man the way you love him. One of the character trait of successful wife is to trust their man to provide for the family - your wedding is not exempted. Let him take charge without worrying too much: why worry when you can pray?
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• Philippines
31 Jan 08
yeah you are right what i need is to pray for him thats the best thing i can do. I never think that! thank you very much!GOD bless
• Philippines
31 Jan 08
any man who greatly loves his girl would want to give his bride a wedding she can never forget. trust him. he will make a way. that's how he truly loves u. he doesn't want to give u a simple wedding. like a wedding similar to what others get. your loved one, wants to give u a wedding that both of you will smile about when u grow old -- together
@schilds (410)
• United States
7 Feb 08
My husband and I were married in a civil ceremony - we eloped. Then we threw a big reception. We had a bbq at the lake. My mom did most of the cooking, and I cut flowers from my backyard. The only thing I bought was the cake and some of the groceries. We spent around $600. 5 years later I am still happy with that choice. It was relatively stress free, and we didn't start off our marriage with a debt.
@schilds (410)
• United States
7 Feb 08
We considered having a priest perform a renewal of vows at our reception, but since neither one of us belong to a church we decided against it. There are bridal stores here that have $99 sales, or you might find a dress on e-bay. We could have added the ceremony for an extra couple of hundred dollars. The $600 included our marriage license, the justice of the peace, our rings, and the reception.
• United States
1 Feb 08
I agree with some of the other posters here -- have the garden wedding!!! It can be just as inexpensive as a civil ceremony, because it's not the ceremony itself that's costly, it's all the "extras." ANY white dress becomes a "wedding dress" when worn for a wedding ceremony, just add a veil! A pretty garden means you only need to buy flowers for your own bouquet, and you can ask people to bring a pot-luck dish for the reception instead of a wedding gift (they'll love the chance to show off their cooking AND it can be less expensive for them too). My nephew and his wife used her parents yard and set up a curved, walk-through, trellis, decorated with flowers and those paper fold-out wedding bells for the actual ceremony. Have a friend operate a CD player for music and dance the night away! Get disposable, single-use cameras and hand them out to the guests to take pictures of the festivities. I've been to several weddings where a camera was put on each reception table, and the resulting photos were real treasures. Most of all, HAVE FUN!! This is not about money, after all. It's about the love you two have for each other! My husband and I got married in the woods by a stream with just a justice of the peace -- it's been 30 years now and we're still madly in love! Good luck and Blessings to you both!
• Philippines
1 Feb 08
oh! thanks to all! I appreciate your idea and you are right! actually i planned to have a simple wedding! but what i bother me is my family, and to have a civil wedding its ok for me.the important here, is I go with a man that i love and he love me. hope my family would understand that. I hope!!!!! thanks I got lot of idea from you. THANK YOU!!!!! @ GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
@Liasonfan (1702)
• Canada
31 Jan 08
I am pretty sure you mean a cicil wedding or a religeous wedding? And I am also pretty sure by your post that you are not planning to invite God to your wedding...Let me know if this is correct, I could have it wrong, if so--sorry. Because a garden wedding can be cicil or reliegeous depending on what you want and yes they can be as expensive or as cheap as you want them to be depending on ehat details you want to include and how much money you have to spend. Also you can never depend on the weather for a garden wedding. My cousin had planned a beautiful garden wedding with a priest presiding and it poured rain on her special day so the wedding was indoors after all (good thing my aunt and uncle owned a big farmhouse)!!. However, my husband and I just attended an indoor civil wedding that was also beautiful and it was performed by a justice of the peace. Your wedding can be as beautiful as you make it and it only depends on the love you 2 share and who you include in it to help celebrate the joy with you! Good Luck with whatever you decide to do
@Liasonfan (1702)
• Canada
31 Jan 08
Sorry for the typs, of course I meant CIVIL wedding. And I hope your fiancee feels better soon and has his diabetes under control. Best wishes to you both!
@chrysz (1603)
• Philippines
1 Feb 08
Practically, you'd better have a civil wedding. You can still wear in a civil wedding right? If you wanna get married soon, its better to have it in a way that you can afford it. You can just have that garden wedding that you want on your wedding anniversary. There nothing wrong renewing your vows right? As you mentioned, he is not well and he got no job yet so why wish for something you cannot afford?
• India
1 Feb 08
hi friend i think every person haveing dream for a luxery guarden marrige because its a memoryable movement of life and you also imagien that but if you are not haveing saficint money for that then i think you go for civil wedding but before that you think serousily about your byfriend ellnees because tihs question is for your hole life
@angel08 (120)
• Philippines
1 Feb 08
For me civil wedding is much better, you can safe those money you're going to spend for garden wedding, as you've said he's not working now. anyway, if you're stable already you can get married again on the venue you dream of.
@Putranda (129)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 08
i can understand your dream, but you must rethink again your dream because of your boyfriend condition. i suggest you to hold civil wedding because i think that it is so nice can get married with someone whom we love & who love us from the deep heart.
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
1 Feb 08
you can have it all..it doesn't have to be in some fancy place with fancy things.. the most important is that u have each other..and u love each other..snd then, anywhere u marry, it will be special:)