My girl friend is lesbian ..what should i do ???

Indonesia
January 31, 2008 7:27am CST
I heard that from my friend, i do not believe it , i have made relationship with my girlfriend almost 2 year, and nothing wrong with her i think. She's like a normal girl,but 2 days a go, I met my friend who tell me that my girlfriend is a lesbian,he told me that had a proof about that. He give 10 picture about my girlfriend sleep with another woman ...Oh God ..i cant believe what i see.. What should i do ?? i've talk to my girlfriend about that .. Help me God !!
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40 responses
• United States
31 Jan 08
Pictures of her with a girls does not make her a lesbian. The past is the past, get over it. I really do not see what the problem is.
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@jayman32 (268)
• Australia
31 Jan 08
both of you have valid points, this person needs to question the "friends" motive's
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• Indonesia
31 Jan 08
my friend lie to me and wanna I broke up my relation with my girlfriend , did u think like that ?
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31 Jan 08
Yes I suspect that, has he actually shown you these pictures?
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@danzer (2732)
• Philippines
31 Jan 08
You don't need to think twice or many times! Get off that girl as fast as you can or your life will be in a lot of trouble!!
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@Wario_1 (969)
• Sweden
31 Jan 08
That may be so, but i feel its good to go and talk to her first before doing any running stuff. It may be that the evidence is rock solid, but that doesnt means it isnt worth testing them a little.
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• United States
31 Jan 08
Just because she may be interested in girls doesn't mean she's automatically a lesbian. She may just be bi, or curious. I'm a lesbian, and my best advise would be to talk to her about it. Find out her feeling for it before jumping to conclusions.
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@jayman32 (268)
• Australia
31 Jan 08
if you love this girl then fight for her, show her the pics & tell her how you feel & what you are thinking...
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@jayman32 (268)
• Australia
31 Jan 08
can not stress enough how important it is for you to express how you feel. honesty is the key.
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• Indonesia
31 Jan 08
thanks for that i call her 5 minute a go and we will met tommorow to discuss about that
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@jayman32 (268)
• Australia
31 Jan 08
good, hope it works out for you. remember to keep an open mind......
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@gandatwo (602)
• Australia
1 Feb 08
Get a Life?...Purchase a Dress?
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• Indonesia
1 Feb 08
funny :D
@somu007 (51)
• India
31 Jan 08
that is very strange....your frnd showing you pictures of ypur grlfrnd sleeping with another girl.did you ask him from where did he get those pics???dont start hating her.just be 100% confirmed about whatever the truth is and then take your decision.mind it pictures can also be fake these days....
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@Wario_1 (969)
• Sweden
1 Feb 08
i agre with you, its strange he just showed up one day with his 'evidence' that she is lesbian. There is a possibility that they are fake or not, still i feel the motives behind him showing the pictures more important.
@bunmi2501 (467)
• Nigeria
31 Jan 08
You get to be very careful about pictures, how was it possible for him to get the pictures, how is your love life with her, since you said it is normal, then I think you should not take any action yet until you have a corgent prove.
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• Indonesia
31 Jan 08
did you think my friend lie to me ? i knew him for about 5 years and he kind and very nice to me .But i don't know...i am really confused abut this.
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@maximax8 (29135)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 08
Where did he get these pictures from do you think? What he said might have been lies but the photos seem like evidence. You should talk to your girlfriend and find out what is going on. In the 1990s my friend had a girlfriend. He went out with her for about a year. When they split up she told everyone she was a lesbian and moved in with a girl. She didn't tell her family though. She stayed a lesbian for three years. Now she is back dating men. She is currently going out with a man aged 60 and she is in her 30s. Good luck.
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• United States
1 Feb 08
yes, this happens ..i have seen relationships with 33 years or more difference between the husband and the younger women..it happens
• United States
1 Feb 08
LOL wow dude that must suck big time for you! But having a lesbian girlfriend is not always a bad thing, I mean maybe you could join her with her lesbian side, if you know what I mean?
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@babymar (361)
• Philippines
1 Feb 08
you said you have talked to her about that....so, what did she say? you should listen to her while she was explaining coz maybe it is just a misunderstanding...
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1 Feb 08
Let her. Enjoy your life! All good and bad will pay further. Be happy with what can do.
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@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
31 Jan 08
I think if you have been with the girl for two years than shes defiently not a lesbian...if anything she could be bi. I think that you should sit down with your girlfriend and tell her that someone has given you these pictures and let her try and explain them to you and if the pictures were taken in the last two years that has to mean that she has cheated on you...and if that has happened once it can happen again so if it were me....I would sit down and talk to her about it all and if she had cheated on me I would break up with her!
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@Wario_1 (969)
• Sweden
31 Jan 08
I think you should just ask her, in a kind whay if possible. It would be sad if you lost a nice girl because of some stuff she did along time ago. Hopefully you can clear things up, but if she for any reason refuces to talk about it doesnt mean shes lying or hiding something. I feel that you should ask your friend how he got his hands on this so called evidence, that would be very interesting. I hope it works out for you and your girlfriend.
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• United States
2 Feb 08
well some guys would think of that pretty kinky. lol but if she was doing this with another girl while you 2 were dating that is also called cheating. If your friend has proof I would talk to her about it and tell her to not cheat on you cuz you love her so much and dont want to get hurt. But then she would really have to win your trust back and that could take awhile. Try to work it out with her. Ask her if she really loves you or this girl.
• China
2 Feb 08
I only want to say that a candid snapshot of other people is a mean trick. If you really love your girlfriend,you shouldn't suspect her before the truth comes out.
@wmaths (536)
• Italy
1 Feb 08
I can understand how you feel in this moment. It is obvious that this girl wasn't really in love with you because she didn't tell you anything.
• Indonesia
1 Feb 08
thanks, but , i really love her and now i wanna discuss with her about this problem
@wmaths (536)
• Italy
1 Feb 08
ok, i now think that you are right. Now you have to talk with her. good luck!
@unloved (73)
• Philippines
31 Jan 08
if you are really a friend to her accept her no matter what is her status in life. being lesbian is not a disease that you can adopt or inherit.
@Wario_1 (969)
• Sweden
1 Feb 08
very good point there, i agre with you on that.
@moondan (714)
• China
10 Mar 08
I think you must to ask your girl friend.you have the right to get the ture.Don't be angry with her.If she is really a lesbian and she don't cheat you on purpose.If you can accept that your friends are lesbian,then be a friend with her.if not,leave her at once,don't let yourself be hurt.Don't think too much.The first thing you must do is get the fact from your girl friend. Good luck!
@mansha (6301)
• India
29 Feb 08
Thank God for the forewarning. I do not mind the fact that she is a lesbian as much as the fact that she hid the fact from you and was about ruin hers and yours life. May be she was afraid of the stigma attached to being a lesbian. I think you confront her and ask her to come straight out with the truth. May be she herself is coming to terms with this fact, you can stay friends with her though and may be help her acknowledge the facts and be true to herself.
• Philippines
10 Feb 08
You poor thing.Watch out for her because I know lesbians who eventually break up w/their bfs.that's hard!
@MsTickle (25064)
• Australia
6 Feb 08
None of what you are saying is making much sense. You have known this girl 2 years? And all of a sudden a "friend" out of the blue shows you photos that show her sleeping with another woman. So what? You know your gf, don't you? You say you love her. So tell her what's happened and talk to her. If you really love her there should be no problem. I'm wondering if you even have a girlfriend because I think you made this up. Very good joke.