my fiance doesnt want me to get a job

United States
January 31, 2008 11:33am CST
When my fiance got home last night i was felling out an application for Family Dollar. days when everyones gone, he doesnt want me to get it. even if its while hes gone and he doesnt have a good reason why. he likes to know that im here i guess, i dont know if hes scared ill find someone else while working (which i would never do b/c i love him) or if he just likes the idea of me here waiting on him. Oh his reason was b/c he wants me home so i can have stuff posted on ebay and watch it while hes at work. i said i could do that when i get home. then hes liek how you going to get hter. i can walk itll take 15 min to walk there. I want money. and he says well im working on that. and i said well if i had a job then we would be working on it together and have more moeny. it makes me mad that he doesnt understand how i fell just sitting at home all day everyday not doing anything with my life but chores and then nonsence. I'm going to take the job if i get it and hes going to have to deal with it. I would love to work from home but i havent found anything that you could actually make real money on. i dont like the ptc sites dont have moeny to put into anything else. I could be a telemarketer but i need a home phone and i only have a cell phone. grrrr
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
6 Feb 08
I know how it feels. Men can't explain it or maybe they don't want to because it sounds too MCP and that's what they want to be or that's not what they want you to think they are. Most men like their women to wait on them. They think that the women might at a certain point put their work before their men and they don't want to be prioritized that way. I'm not saying that it's true. It's just that some men think that way. They also feel that some things at home might take a backseat if the woman goes to work. Or the woman might expect them to pitch in on the home front and they don't want to. Now one would ask 'Then, why doesn't he come right out and say that?' Well, the truth is that it sounds selfish to them (and yes, the woman would think so too) and they don't want to risk the argument that would start. Men would try to avoid an argument at any cost...especially one they can't justify.
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• United States
6 Feb 08
your probally right except for the pitch in part I already make him pitch in.
• Italy
31 Jan 08
I don't know all the situation but I think it could be that he has fear of changes: it's an irrational fear you know and he can't do nothing about it, maybe he's too used to come back home and see you there. I bet that if you find a part-time job or a job who takes you only some hours he would get used to it. My cousin used to work at call centers and there the hours you can work are flexible.
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• United States
31 Jan 08
I use to work its been a year since i worked and he has got use to me being here but im only looking for a job during the day whiles hes gone if i dont get one then than i wont get a job. I dont know He will get use to it and have to deal with it. He says if i get it hes just going to keep buggin me till i quit anyways. grrr LOL
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
31 Jan 08
is he very controlling? i can understand what you mean because even when my kids where little and i was a stay at hom mom, i was bored to tears, i ended up selling avon for 10 years!
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• United States
31 Jan 08
i thought about doing that but i dont want to knock on doors so i want to do something else. sometimes he seems controlling and other times no. like i can do what i want and if he doesnt want me to do it and i want to i still will do it and he cant do nothing about it. only very seldom does he try to make me not do something that he doesnt want me to do.