recent discovery about my boyfriend
February 1, 2008 4:07am CST
Hi, I have a boyfriend since 2001 and he is 9 years older then me. He is from a different country and met on the internet, and then he came to my country and recently got back to his country. Any way, about 2 weeks ago I recieved a call from a woman, telling me that she's my boyfriend's wife. The first thing I did was call him to know the truth, and who is the lady, and he said that he is divorced. Why he didn't tell me? Should I ask for documents about his divorce? How can I find the truth from the internet? How can I know who's fault was that the marriage ended up like this?
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2 Feb 08
He became your boyfriend without letting you know that he was divorced- assuming he's telling the truth -. The only thing that you can be sure about is that you can't trust him. It might seem brutal for me to say it like that but it's true. Do you know how many other "details" from his life that he's hiding from you. You have all the rights to know the truth, and he has the duty to convince you. You may ask for all the proof you need and also you should tell him you will not accept him hiding any more such information from you, or else.
3 Feb 08
I don't know how many things he is hiding to me. I never hid anything from him. He told me that he was scared that I do not accept him, because I never got married, and I told him years ago that my sister got divorced years ago, so I think that that was a clue that I would accept him. Any way today I recieved some papers from him, about his divorce, just 2 papers, and believe me or not, my sister had a whole bunch kind of 15 papers to read about her divorce. I was going to his country with mum, but we thought that it would be best that he comes over again, not on work as he did previously. If he doesn't, hey he's hiding something else. Also, I have no idea of who was his mum, and who is his dad he didn't send a photo and they do not contact me, neither his brothers and sisters. And he didn't give me their number, though I asked for it.
6 Feb 08
It seems you really care about him and you want this relationship to work. From my point of view I see too many warning signs. But if you are still willing to try and make it work, having him visit you again is a good idea. Also you should keep pressing him to give you more information about himself, his family and his life. And also why his ex-wife is still pretending to be his wife and how did she even find your number? Ask him to bring some family photos when he visits. Good luck.
10 Feb 08
About the phone number he had told me that he had put it on his work table and she works with him, and he went to have some coffee and he didn't find it on his table, but he found it on hers. I really care about him but I'm not thrusting him as before. I told him that I decided not to go to his country, but that he has to come over. He didn't reply yet. Until he decides what to do, I have to go to the Ministry of foreign affairs, and I think they should tell me.
16 Feb 08
never trust strangers from the net. if that's his wife before he knew you, and divorced after that, doesn't mean ur fault coz u don't know. if he already divorced and dun let u know, his fault and lie. if he said divorce but actually not, he's lying.
16 Feb 08
i think u should talk to this guy clearly first may be this guy is not lying n then see the documenst n then chk out the girl who called u its ur life dear i think u should take it seroiusly n do let us know what happen n is everythng fine or not