Would you stay close to your inlaws?

I think if I had a good relationship with them, then I would want to stay close to them. And it depends a little on how the relastionship with my ex ended. But if it wasn't on bad terms then I wouldn't mind staying friends with him either. It all just depends on lots of stuff! =)

I Raydene, I get alone pretty well with My Mother-inlaw too, It has been times when I got My husband back with all his family, I did read the joke, LOL.

Wow, l loved the joke. Here’s one from me…It is said that God couldn’t be everywhere everytime so he created the Mother. Seeing God, Satan too thought that he couldn’t be everytime everywhere so he created the Mother-in-law! Jokes apart…I am very close to my in-laws though I cant say I am close to my mother-in-law. I have stayed with them for 10 long years and most of the time I have felt as if I am a guest in someone else’s kitchen. I mention the kitchen because no matter how much we have progressed, a woman still likes to think of herself as the queen of her own kitchen. While I was staying with my in-laws, everything pertaining to the house was decided by my mom-in-law and with me working, I did not want to interfere all the time and blow up minor misunderstandings into long-time hostilities. But I did not like it always either. Anyway past is past and inspite of everything, I will never forgot that it was she who looked after my son while I worked outside. I am eternally grateful to her for her help and I maintain a civil relation with her. I urge my husband to look after all her needs, I enquire after her and give her due respect, but I no longer try to be extra close to her. Regarding the others in the family…there is my father-in-law who loves me like a daughter (since he doesn’t have one himself) and my one and only brother-in-law, who is more like a brother than a brother-in-law.

I guess it depends upon the in-laws I would not be close to interferring inlaws, but other than that I am the type of person who tries to get along.

Yes, Raydene, if they wish you to keep in contact, then I would remain friends with my in-laws. When I split from my first husband, I carried on visiting his Mother because of the children. We had grown together as a family unit and I spent some of my time, staying at her house whilst my ex was abroad on army postings. Therefore, the kids were very attached to her and she to them, as was I. There is no reason why you shouldn't continue to see them. They are as much a part of yours and your children's lives as they ever were. Brightest Blessings, my dear friend. xxx

I would if they wanted me too. It didn't happen unfortunately. I truly loved my father-in-law, he was a lovely man. My mother-in-law was a real nasty piece of work and mentally challenged in my book. She ignored her grandchildren, more to get to me than a dislike of them thank God, so they weren't aware. She was terribly conniving and I blame her for the behaviour of her violent son. My children grew up with the slow realization that their Dad wasn't interested in them and his parents and siblings couldn't care any less about them as well. My mother-in-law went along with my father's coercion of me to marry because she was desperate for a grandchild then she subtely undermined my husband and my relationship by dropping hints that the child was not his. This after discovering her elder daughter was pregnant. She set me up to look bad to my husband time after time by offering me help then changing her mind at the last minute. My own family had abandoned me. I try to be nice to everyone but this woman scared me. I knew at first hand what she was capable of. I couldn't get far enough away fast enough.

Definitely and I know you will Mom! I stayed on good terms with my ex in laws after I left my ex and I was very sad to lose his mum last year! I love the joke but I would hate to think of being spoken of this way by my family ! xxxx

I did not stay in touch with my in-laws because I never felt entirely comfortable with them when I was in the marriage. Also, we lived 3000 miles apart.

that's a good thing to be close to your inlaws. good for you. from the start of our relationship i could feel that my mother-in-law doesn't approve of me. she doesn't like me a bit. i always tell my wife that it would be really great if i can be close to her mom. but like what my wife always tell me, she's the one who's gonna spend the rest of her life with me, not them. so why worry about pleasing them. i don't know. i just don't feel that it's a nice things. i feel that the best way to get through everything is acceptance of the family members. my mother on the other hand loves my wife. i think she loves my wife more than me (not jealous) and i sure enjoy seeing them so close. for me, it's like a fulfillment.