can you control your feelings?

United States
February 3, 2008 1:06pm CST
there is not much in life that you can control completely. you may think you do but you dont. your feelings is the one thing you can control. you never have to be mad. you never have to be upset. you choose to be that way. you choose to feel that way. people always say because of what this person said i am mad. or i am upset cause this happened. you choose to be that way though. you have the right to feel the way you want to feel. personally i like to feel happy. if my kids trash out the living room after i clean it i choose to be upset use to. now i choose not to let it bother me. when they do this i just simply tell them to clean it up or the effect will be i do it and you dont get to do this. then i let it go. they usally do clean it so that they dont get upset from what i will do. if i have to clean it then i clean it and then do what i said i am going to do. i chose though not to be mad. you can not control what others do but you can control how you feel about it and how you react to it. remeber close your eyes and count to 10 before reacting to a bad thing.
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11 responses
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
3 Feb 08
I used to go haywire with my emotions and feelings. Everything used to bother me alot and i would voice it every time. I have learned to kind of hold back on some things and think about it before lashing out. Alot of things that happen in my life are out of my control and I do have to speak to someone about my feelings and emotions just to relieve some of the stress.
• United States
3 Feb 08
For the most part I am a pretty easy going person. When something upsets me I don't count to ten. What I do is put on my soft music which never fails to sooth me. I have used this on numerous times and every time it works. I love music and it is a wondrous thing. I will instill the counting to ten though. Because as you know a person doesn't always have a CD player handy. That is a good thought that you put here. You are right your feelings are the only thing that you can truly control.
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• Philippines
11 Jul 08
In my personal experience, i can't control my feelings. If i want to cry i will cry, if i feel angry it usually shows on my actions. If I am not feeling well, i don't pretend to be ok I simply let other people know my condition. But it depends on the situation. AT work you can to control your feelings, i will not let somebody get into me. It is a safe way so that they will not find out how can they fool you. I am in a competitive league at work so I don't usually show my emotion if I am angry , super stress and happy. I maintain my composure.
@Agent001 (242)
• India
6 Feb 08
Ya many a times but its real hard.
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
I am a laid back person and I don't easily get upset or mad when it comes to small things. I don't want to stress myself about trivial things. I think that had been my nature ever since. When I get really upset, I try to assess the situation before I react because I do not want to utter words which will hurt the other person and would cause more resentments. I also try to assess if I am just overreacting and I would ask myself what is the real reason that I feel upset. I communicate my feelings but I see to it that I am still considerate of what the other person would feel.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
Yes, it is so hard to control our feelings. Especially if we are angry. But just like what you've said, it is a choice. if we choose to feel that way then we will feel that way. But if we will fight our feelings and choose the right one, then it is possible. We do have the power to control our feelings.
• United States
4 Feb 08
I understand what your saying about the choice to be happy, sad or angry. But, what about love? What do you do when you have intense feelings for another person? I've tried blocking this person out of my mind and avoiding them. But, whenever I see this person, all those feelings pop right back up to the frontline.
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
Sometimes I can control my feelings but most of the time..hmmm... I can't. Specially if I'm mad and I need to let that person know that I am mad.
@rsa101 (16723)
• Quezon City, Philippines
4 Feb 08
Nice attitude you know you just have a very good and positive outlook in life that I like. You know we had this seminar that the topic is all about that trying to be positive and when things do not go your way what you can do is really to shift from one feeling to the other and that is wht you are really doing I am glad you have it already.
• United States
3 Feb 08
I have a hair trigger temper and if I closed my eyes and counted to ten, i would only get more angry. I usually don't yell or scream,I do think of the proper revenge and I execute it.Usually the best thing to do is nothing. The best thing is to Never speak to that person ever again. Unlike you, if I just cleaned up something I didn't do in the first place would have the opposite effect, I would be more angry than before.I wouldn't want to be me without my temper. I would be some kind of android.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
3 Feb 08
Sometimes, I can, but other times it all builds up and I get mad over something little. I guess maybe I should try it your way and see if it helps, thanks for a tip.