Donating Eggs- Could you do it?

United States
February 3, 2008 10:45pm CST
There are many progams that get women to donate eggs and pair them with couples who are having fertility issues. As a mother of 3 beautiful daughters, who I feel add more to my life than anything or anyone else could, I think that this is an amazing gift that someone could give. However there are pros and cons to doing something like this. There is compensation for your time and the strain of going through the medical procedures but I don't think that should be the motivation. However I do feel it would be terribly hard to know that I had a biological child out there somewhere that would never know me and would be raised as someone elses. What is your take on the subject?
1 person likes this
5 responses
• United States
4 Feb 08
I have thought long and hard on this subject in the past. We were in horrid hard times, and I was dwelling on the option to do this, to help us out. At the time, I had two kids... Now I have 5. All mine. I did not choose to donate my eggs, for a couple of reasons. 1. I did not know if I would be able to deal with the fact that I had other biological children out there, and would never know them. 2. The monetary compensation, to me, was not worth it. 3. You have no control over who gets your eggs, what if they are horrible people? So, in all, I just knew I could not live with the situation, and chose not too.
4 Feb 08
I could possibly donate for a close family member but not for a total stranger as I could not live with the not knowing and wondering how that child is being brought up.
• United States
4 Feb 08
I suppose I might be able to do it for a family member....
@michelyn (717)
• United States
5 Feb 08
I, too, would love to say that I could be unselfish enough to help make another couples' dreams come true, but I couldn't. The obvious reason would be the same as stated by many others here and that is not being able to be a part of a child's life that was, in part, created by me. I would be miserable knowing that I had a biological child that I could not be involved with. I couldn't even be that unselfish with a family member, because then I would see that child at family functions and it would still cause some heartbreak. The maternal instinct is a very strong emotion and is hard to keep in check when it comes to other people's children being mistreated or not being treated the way you would treat them. Lastly, I would prefer to avoid the chances of that child coming to find me later in life wanting to know why I did what I did. Especially, if it was a family member that I had donated to. They would want to know why they weren't told before and why they were lied to.
• United States
5 Feb 08
Thank you all for your responses. I have put alot of thought into this and it is nice to know that many others feel the same why I do. Sometimes it helps to know that on some things its ok to be selfish
@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
reflecting if i can.. - but i wont give my eggs for genetic purposes
helolo there, im reflecting about this issue.. honestly, i may be selfish.. but it will take a lot of pride to give away my eggs^_^ but deep in my heart, i know this is a very helpful thing to couples having issues.. this will give them new hope and will really boost their dreams to settle and have someone to look for than themselves. however, i am still thinking twice whether to give it or not.. its really hard to imagine, i have a son or daughter with another parents, and she or he will recognize them as parents while i am the biological source.. take care^_^
• Philippines
4 Feb 08
sorry for the hello, wrong spelled^_^
@kymommy72 (588)
• United States
4 Feb 08
Having children is the most beautiful thing in the whole wide world, and I would so love to say that I could be unselfish enough to donate my eggs to someone and give them this wonderful gift, but in all honesty, I can't. It would kill me knowing I had a child out there and I would have no part of its life. I just couldn't do it. I would be too haunted
@m3mema5 (90)
• United States
4 Feb 08
Yes I would donate my eggs to help a couple out that wanted children but could not conceive them.As long as the couple knew that I was the one who donated the eggs for them to conceive. So if ever came a time for that child to wonder why he or she didnt look like the parents that raised them( if it ever came up to discussion) or if a medical emergancy ever came that they need blood or a transplant.That they contact me to let me know and I would do what I could to help their child. If there was no other way.This way the child would know where he heritage came from.