What was your Best Friend's Reaction when you told her you are getting married?

United States
February 3, 2008 11:36pm CST
I want to ask this because I want to know all best friends reacts the same. My friend visit me 2 weeks ago, and because we have not talk for quite a long time, because we both have been busy with our life, we were enjoying our conversation. Until the topic goes to our love life. Then she gets hysterical when I said I am planning to get married this August. She told me, before I get married, I should have the guy introduced to her personally so she can screen, and interview the guy. She said she needs to find out first if the guy really loves me, if the guy is a good man and many things she said. And she said she will warn the guy not to hurt me or else she will be an enemy. She express many worries about me getting married. And all I just can reply is assuring her that my bf is a good man, a loving guy and many positive feedbacks so I can help her ease her worries. But I can't help to laugh. But I feel really flattered having a friend like her who always look for my goodness. And I know I am very lucky to have her as my bestfriend. So how about, would you mind to share?
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• Indonesia
4 Feb 08
some of them really didn't want me to marry my husband, I don't know why but they had these feelings that he's not good for me. I'm flattered by their attention, but there's nothing i could do, I love my husband. And nobody's perfect right. They are still my best friends now and i'm still with my husband.
• United States
4 Feb 08
That is what happened to my sister too, when she introduced to her bf to friends and to us. Not only her friends are against her husband, including us her family. But she really loves the man, now they have already two kids, but still we are against their relationship, it is because the guy is somewhat irresponsible and when he gets drunk he gets violent that he hit my sister. But then, we were hoping he will change for the better. Yours is another situation I think, and another reason why they dislike your husband, but then I do think it will not matter so long as the two of you love each other.
• United States
4 Feb 08
I told my best friend in a letter. I was living in another state. I was 22 and she was still in high school. She wrote me back about how excited she was for me and then in the middle of her letter it said she had exciting news, too. She was pregnant! And here I was thinking I was going to shock her. I almost fell off the chair when I read that. She ended up having her baby about a week and a half after she wrote the letter. The baby came early. She was probably in the hospital while I was reading the letter. Her parents didn't say anything to anyone and my mom found out she had the baby when it came home from the hospital a month later.
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• United States
5 Feb 08
That was unusual, you wrote a letter to shock her but then in the end it was not she who get shock it was you. Well, your friend is still young probably because she is in high school as what you have stated, I do hope that even at her young age she would still be able to play her role as a responsible mother to her child.
• United States
5 Feb 08
Yes, it was very crazy. But that was a long time ago. She's 26 now and her daughter is almost 9. She is an awesome mother--my hero. I wish I could do things as well as she did. She not only had a preemie baby at 17 she eventually went on to finish college and is now a teacher. She has her life together. Which is more then I can say for myself. I'm 31 and just kind of floating along looking for direction, lol. Her daughter and my daughter are best friends. My daughter was born the day after her daughter turned 1 so they almost share a birthday. They are like twins and do everything together. We both still live in our parents' houses so they laugh about how the girls are just like we were when we were kids (except I'm 5 years older then her).
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
4 Feb 08
well, mine's an arranged marriage so my friend was also shocked that i was to marry. at first, she tried to reason with me not to get married but it was hard to go against my parent's wish too. but i don't think it's just because it was arranged and i didn't know my husband. it was also because both of us had plans to actually be someone in life, be successful though be it different paths. in the end, she had to accept as after all, she too couldn't do anything. i was really flattered and happy too that she thought about me. we're still friends now and i'm still with my hubby.
• United States
4 Feb 08
Well I am glad your marriage work out. I have read and heard that most of arranged marriage didn't work because of many factors, first they failed to learn how to love each other, 2. they are not compatible with each other, 3. they already have love of their life.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
4 Feb 08
thanks. we do have our quarrels now and then and it's really frustrating during those times. but i try to keep a clear head as we have a son and it's not good to show our problems too much to him.
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
4 Feb 08
Shock, she was very shock. Even worse, she asked me not to call her again until she was ready to talk with me again. Well, it was quite shocking for her she said. I had to wait until she called me back to talk about it more details. :)
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• United States
4 Feb 08
Reading the replies in this post of mine makes me really smile, specially your response. Seems that your friends act worse than my friend. She is just unusual. I can't just imagine as to why you should wait for her to call again to talk about it, maybe she isn't yet ready to talk about it because she will be sad to see you or even know from you that you are getting married. My bestfriend do ask me "Are we going to be bestfriend still even you get married already?" But of course we are still best of friend.
@pepjack (53)
• India
4 Feb 08
oh i have reacted to my friend last week.. he came n said he is gonna get married next month.. so in surprised i asked "who is that lady to marry a fool like you? ok anyway congrats dude.. when is the bachelors party?" then said him to enjoy life well only till marriage or else there wil always be a disturbance on his activities.
4 Feb 08
honeylore ur topic is really sweet . andurfriend ismoresweet than ur topic orelse thistopic might notgotthis importance.every friend will be happy hearing she getting married provided the spouse is a good man.
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@simplejoy (359)
• China
4 Feb 08
First congratulations to you on your August bride!Hope you good fortune attends you. I haven't the experience of telling my best friend marriage thing.But I have the experience of being told.haha..I have almost the same reaction as your friend.I am eager to make sure that guy will definitely bring happiness to my dear friend.And I want to see him face to face,talk to him ,and get an idea of whether he is a good and responsible man. And luckily,my friend's bf is quite good.I'm so happy about her and give all my best wishes to her and her future life.Of course,I would prepare a big "Red Pocket" as a gift.
@miaphoto (19)
• United States
4 Feb 08
I have not yet told my best friend that I plan to marry my BF. In fact we haven't told anyone yet. =P He proposed about a month ago. We've only been together for about 7 months total so we're waiting a bit to tell all our friends and family. My best friend has already met him and she likes him. Her only complaint was that "he talks a lot" which is good considering she has always been very critical of the guys I've dated, and is very protective of me. I'm not sure how she'll react to the news... she'll probably be shocked. I'll be married relatively young even though I've always kinda come off as an independent free spirit. So it'll kinda be out of character for me. Sorry I didn't really answer your question, just got to thinking about my own situation.
@Galena (9124)
5 Feb 08
mine has been gently nagging him to propose for many years now. so she was over the moon when he finally did. and she's now my superorganised cheif bridesmaid, and already helping me keep everything on track with the planning side of it.
• United States
5 Feb 08
She asked why. And she still asks why. People don't seem to want me to get married.
@SukiSmiles (1999)
• United States
5 Feb 08
My best friend was so happy. She didn't ask for an interview because she already knew him and knew that he loves me and that he is a great day. Congrats on your engagement!
• United States
4 Feb 08
they thing they are cheated and insulted. It is bad experience for that. So i will never do that again.