Do you go anyway?

United States
February 4, 2008 12:20pm CST
What do you do when a friend or group of friends invite you to go shopping and you have no money? You know that the outing will involve eating lunch too. Do you go anyway for the fun times with your friends or do you decline? What is your reason for either going or not going?
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
4 Feb 08
I usually go anyway. I enjoy just hanging out watching other people shop almost as much as shopping myself, and looking can be fun even if you can't afford anything. The lunch issue is kind of a sticky situation. If you actually have no money to buy lunch, you wind up sitting there while other people eat and making them uncomfortable, or your friends insist on buying something for you, which can be kind of uncomfortable too. If I have just a little bit of money, I might just get the cheapest thing available to munch on, like a side order of fries or a cup of soup, just so I'm not sitting there doing nothing. I don't like missing the few occasions I get to spend with my friends, so I jump on just about any invitation that I can.
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• United States
4 Feb 08
I am the same as you described on each issue! I won't turn down a chance to have fun with friends. The lunch issue is the most uncomfortable. If I truly can't even scrape up lunch money, I'll pack a yogurt in my purse and tell my friends that I am watching my weight! Ha!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
4 Feb 08
Oh, that's a clever way of dealing with it! I've never thought of packing food with me... I just try to root through my change and scrape up enough to buy something tiny. Of course, it depends on how close these friends are to me, too, because I have some friends I wouldn't mind asking to buy me lunch in return for a lunch at a later date when I do have money.
• United States
11 Feb 08
If I know there is going to be a pretty big outing with lunch or whatever involved I'll usually skip out on it because I don't want to burden anyone nor do I want to feel bad because I can't afford anything. And I'll tell them that I don't have any money and that me going out would just be a bad thing all around. If they offer to pay my way for something, I may consider going but I just don't want to cause too many problems by taking their money for it either.
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• India
5 Feb 08
A heavy hi to you CRAZYNURSE! Outing is always best for a change from your regular routine. I enjoy going to an outing with my freinds wether its shopping, watching movies, lunch or dinner. I think it relaxes your mind and you get a break from your daily tensions..... When it comes to money, it hardly matters. Wether I am carrying some money or not, I will surely go with my freinds. Since, all my freinds are very caring and loving, I can borrow some money from them when ever I need some. Suppose while just hanging out I liked some pair of jeans or shirt and I am not carrying any money, I can ask my freind to lend some money to me that I will pay him afterwards. I am sure my freinds will never refuse to do so! I stil remeber, around couple of weeks ago same thing happened with me. Me with my two freinds were just roaming around in a mall. There I saw a really cool goggles that cost around 2000 rupees but at that time I had only 600 rupees in my pocket. I borrowed the rest of money from my freind and bought that goggle. After two days, I also payed my freind the money that I borrowed from him. So I think there is no problem in going for shopping with your freinds even if you dont have any money in your pocket but make sure that the person with whom you are going can give you some money if you need it!
• United States
4 Feb 08
I don't bother going at all. For one I don't window shop. That would be all I could do with no money. Even if I had only $5.00 I would go with them. I could buy even a soda or a bag of chips. I would not mind talking to them when they reached home.
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@Mayuko (1272)
• United States
4 Jul 12
I would opt to not go. If I don't have any money, then I wouldn't want to go out in a place where I'd be expected to spend. Even though I go to the mall or other stores plenty of times and don't spend anything, I still carry money with me just in case I see something I really want to get. I would hate to go & see something I desperately want only to have no money. And since I don't have a credit card, I couldn't even use that as a last resort. If I did have one, I'd probably go and only purchase something if I really, really wanted it & I thought I'd never see that item again, or at that price again. Also, I wouldn't consider going and asking any of my friends to purchase something for me. I don't like borrowing things, especially money, from people.
@Elixiress (3893)
17 Jun 08
I tend not to go out if I cannot afford food or drink, as I hate it when I am eating and others are not eating and I assume others feel the same. But most the time I can get together a couple of pound for a sandwich, so I go out and just go window shopping while they buy things, try a few things on and do a great catwalk demonstration.
@jeanniemay (1803)
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
Friends  - My ICLH family and friendsat LA4.
At all times, I go anyway. However, there are some times that I also have some important things to attend to and so I might decline. Lack of money cannot be an excuse if I don't have anything to do. I just need to be myself and be honest that I don't have anything at the moment. Maybe, I will ask them to do me some favor at the moment on lunch time and will make it up for next time. If they are my friends, it just pays to be honest and real.
@moondan (714)
• China
20 Mar 08
When it comes to me,i will see the condition.If i have little money that i can eat lunch to go anyway,and the invite is asked by my best friends,i think i will for fun with them.I don't wamt them to be not happy.but i will not buy anything,because of lack of money.if the people who i don't understand much,i will decline without thinking.If i have no money,i will not go shopping with my friends,and i will tell them the true reason what i think.I think they will not mind.
• Malaysia
19 Feb 08
no money to eat lunch? hmm..if that's the case i'd probably say i have something else to do haha. but the shopping part- could always window shop. and we could always have some light lunch- buy something that's affordable yet yummy. i love to shop/window shop and hang out with my friends so i'd probably just go anyway.
• Philippines
19 Feb 08
I don't think I would go out with them. I wouldn't want them worrying about my condition or something to that effect. Anyway, if I do not have the money to spend and they invite me, I do not lie about it. I tell them that I do not have money so it's impractical for me to joing them anyway.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
19 Feb 08
i try to go even if i do not have taht much money or anything to buy. may be i help them choosing things.Also i take lunch with them as sharing won't price too much i guess. But will try to be within my limits.
@Jemina (5783)
19 Feb 08
It happened to me before and I felt I was the most pitiful creature on earth. While my friends were busy picking things they like, trying clothes and shoes, I was just sitting in one corner swallowing nothing. I could have also enjoyed the day by trying on the best clothes but I didn't find it interesting to do that day. So now I will never be invited again to go shopping when I'm penniless.
@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
11 Feb 08
If my friends invited me shopping and I had no money, I still wouldn't be able to resist! Actually, it'd probably be better if I didn't have any money because then I wouldn't be tempted to spend it! (LOL) I wouldn't be too worried about lunch. If I didn't have enough cash to handle it, I know my friends would let me borrow money until I could pay them back...or they might just buy lunch for me. I would have no reason not to go with them unless I had prior plans, which I have no life, so that definitely wouldn't be the case. (LOL) I went shopping at the same mall twice this past weekend and really got myself into trouble because I did have money for a change! Oh well...I get paid this week, so it's all good. (LOL) This is a great discussion. I could talk about shopping and go shopping for the rest of my life!
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
11 Feb 08
Yes i go with them, even do i dont have money, my friends are understanding we share what we have, if one of us no money we give here so she can enjoy, we also enjoy that my friends are.
@Samanthavv (1386)
• United States
9 Feb 08
Wow. That could be a tough one. It really depends who I'm going with. If I know the person would lend me a few dollars for lunch, I might go. If I really don't want to deal with it, then I might just decline and stay home. But if I do want to go and I don't think it'd be appropriate to ask to borrow any money for lunch, I would eat at home, bring a snack to munch on while I'm walking and when it got to be lunch time, tell your friends "I had a big breakfast and I was snacking while we were shopping. I'm not very hungry" and just talk and enjoy the time with my friends while sipping on some water! Hey, it's free, and you still get to enjoy your day with your friends!
@Shylor (53)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I go for fun, window shopping is fun as well as people watching. About the lunch, I usually make it very clear that I have no money when they ask me to join them, and that way they if they buy me something its not as awkward. I also tend to buy food for my friends when they are poor so its not really "awkward mooching" more like its their turn. Our favorite response to "i have no money for lunch" is "I asked if you wanted to go to lunch, not if you could pay for it."
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
8 Feb 08
If I am short with money, I wouldn't go. I can still see my friends and invite them over to watch movies with me or have just coffee together....
• United States
8 Feb 08
I can usually scrounge up enough money for lunch. One of my favorite pastimes is to window shop. My husband and I often go shopping and don't buy anything. It is fun to look around and see what is out there. Sometimes we go back at a later time and purchase some of the things we have found. It is not all about spending money, it is the fun of being around people who bring you joy.
@mouse27 (1155)
• Canada
7 Feb 08
usually i jsut let the friend know that i have no money to go and usually they tell me that they didn't ask if i had money they asked if i wanted to go. my friends and me have an understanding that if i had it and they didn't i would give to them so when they have it and i don't they show me the same courtesy
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
7 Feb 08
my mom loves to shop and she always wants me to go. Being a sahm we only have one income so we don't always have money to go shopping and I tell her that but she still wants me to go so bad. I hate it. Sometimes I go just to get out of the house.