Wiccan/ Christian mix?

@katkah (235)
United States
February 4, 2008 8:40pm CST
I don't think it can be done given that the beliefs are so different. Not that they can not agree to disagree, but the two cannot blend. My boyfriend was studying pagan beliefs for a long while, but decided that he wanted to go back to his Christian upbringing. I'm wiccan. He wants us to teach the children both beliefs & celebrate both sets of holidays. He suggested that we could find a happy medium between the two. While we love one another with all our hearts & we are going to get married - yeah, that one is a cunundrum in it's self- who's religion do we go with on that one - I guess it would have to be his, since I'm the only wiccan in the family on either side. I said I'm sorry, I just can't believe Jesus was the son of God when in that religion there is only one God & the Lady is completely forgotten. He may have lived, and he may have been a brilliant man, trying to get people to live in a more peaceful way, but.... I guess my question is- how the heck are we going to do this? He's very understanding and supportive & would never ask me to renounce my beliefs for his. He isn't against anything I do, practice, or believe. Heck he would even run to the store if I needed anything for a ritual or spell. Will it mess with the children's heads? It isn't like having a baptist & a luthern... What do you suggest?
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• United States
5 Feb 08
I think that religion will only be a barrier if you allow it to be so. It is possible to blend the two religions. I have met a few "christian wiccans" here and there, and they seem to have adapted the whole thing comfortably. I think its just a matter of finding a common ground and working from there. Good luck, and brightest blessings!
@katkah (235)
• United States
5 Feb 08
Thank you for your comment. I guess I'm just really jumpy around the whole "christian" idea because of how it was pushed on me & how I've been treated because of my beliefs.
@Galena (9123)
5 Feb 08
I think the two can go side by side, and I've seen it do so many times. you can have a non-religious wedding, no problem. I know people who practice a religion drawing on both Paganism and on Christianity, seeing Jesus as a dying and resurrecting Sun God. just like a lot of other Gods born at Winter Solstice, really. it annoys me to so often see Pagans saying that Christianity stole all our festivals with one breath, and then saying the two are incompatible with the next. the thing is, Children are Atheists. they haven't chosen a path. Mum and Dad with different beleifs from each other is just a cross section of a society where people beleive different things.
@katkah (235)
• United States
5 Feb 08
The only incompatability I find really is the Christians who are what I like to call "Holy Rollers" who insist that their religion is the only one & everyone else is going to Hell for not believing what they do. I do believe that in history the church did adopt some of the pagan traditions during the times when they were forcing mass conversions, to help ease the people into their beliefs. I don't have anything against Christians so much as I have a bad taste for the "church" or organized Christians who tend to try to bully other people. I don't need anyone knocking on my door trying to "save me" or "show me the light"... I've got my own light thanks. Thank you for your post. I know we can figure out a way to make it work, we just need to keep doing what we're doing- talking & staying open about everything with each other.
@Bizziebod (3526)
2 May 08
mmm personally (and I know I'm going to get criticized for this), but I don't think there can be a Christian/Pagan mix. For the simple reason of heritage and the downfall of our Pagan predecessors. You've got to do what your heart tells you to do, no one can do this for you, but personally I could not be able to live with a Christian who had strong beliefs as mine are so strong also, it would cause a lot of problems especially where kids are involved, unless you can both come to an understanding that the children can live their own lives and choose what and if to follow a religion when they get older. This is what I did with my own daughter and she has chosen to follow the Pagan path, but not because I have pushed her or tried to sway her - it's simply because she has chosen to do so! Good luck and brightest blessings