Its about time children were taught to take responsibility for their own actions

February 6, 2008 2:46pm CST
With news that the government now has plans to fine parents if their children are caught underaged drinking, isn't it time we as parents took a stand and asked why children are not being taught to face the consequences of their errant behaviour themselves? Most of us are trying to bring our kids up as decent human beings, why should we as parents be penalised and have our reputations blemished because of the bad choices our kids make? Kids have to grow into adults, they need to learn about life, some of this involves making mistakes along the way, and also realising that their are consequences to certain types of behaviour...how will they ever grow up if they don't learn this, and take the rap for it themselves?
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• United States
6 Feb 08
Agreed. There is no way a parent can be with their kids 24/7. If the kid does something wrong they should have to take the rap for it. But there are so many parents out there who know NOTHING about their own children that maybe the lawmakers figure if the parents have to pay the tab when their kids screw up those parents will start taking a more active role in their kids lives.
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• Canada
7 Feb 08
I diffently agree!!!That is crazy, thats like kids who murder someone. They don't get anything except a slap on the wrist. If a child is caught under age drinking it should be there responsibility not yours!!!They should be put in jail for a night to sober up, Bet they won't drink again but if you have to apy the fine then they are not learning anything...Most kids don't let there parents know what they are doing....are you from the states? Because I don't think that is here in canada plus we have a lower age for drinking. Here it is 19 not 21 i think that makes alot of difference!!!Good discussion
@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
7 Feb 08
Uhhh, aren't we parents supposed to teach them to be responsible by giving them consequences? Apparently not enough of us are and the government is trying to teach us that the consequences of our not teaching them are going to be come from the government. I don't agree that it is the role of the government to teach children to be responsible. The parents and the schools have the most influence in this department. If you bring a kid up to be responsible he/she won't be exhibiting errant behavior.
• United States
7 Feb 08
The government is so busy having us chase our tails;with the efforts focuson kids they can rob the treasure and social security medicaid blind/.There is a reason Bush and Cheney moved halliburton to Dubai - no extradition or accounting repayment after they leave office.Our government teaches the consequences only pertain to ghetting caught . The real lesson is cheating and greed is good. Otherwise we would have audits and jails filled with political cats dems and republicans both.
• United States
6 Feb 08
I can only speak for myself and my daughter. I have taught my daughter right from wrong. Yes she has t make choices that are her own,Then learn from them. But,as long as she is a minor I make the rules here. I don't allow her to come and go as she wishes. She has to respect me and all other adults in her life. Smoking,drinking,and other things against my rules and the law are off limits. if she breaks those rules than she learns what she has to deal with for breaking them. I see many parents lose control over their kids. I hear my friends kid slamming doors in the house. Knocking stuff over. Just going off because they can't do xyz. I will not stand for any of that. I discipline on the spot. No matter where I am it's not going to be swept under any rugs. I have been told my a principal. If there was an award to give a parent I would have been given it.. Parents have to put their foot down and raise those kids to listen and listen to good.