Should you get a divorce if you know your partner is cheating on you?

@s_yakoob (169)
India
October 30, 2006 6:12am CST
I think it is good to hear what he has to say. what do you say?
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13 responses
• United States
30 Oct 06
If my hubby cheated on me but wanted to stop cheating and stay together, I would. . .until our children were grown and then I'd be gone.
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@s_yakoob (169)
• India
30 Oct 06
I agree with what you say.. cause if you do have children than the first thing you should think about is their future.
• India
30 Oct 06
yes
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@s_yakoob (169)
• India
30 Oct 06
It is a harsh decision dont you think...
• India
2 Nov 06
Don't you think divorce is a stupid and harsh step? Whats the point of going for it just for cheating as marriage cant be such a cheap commodity where one can discard it and dump it without finding the reason!One must reason with him/herself and find what was missing and what made other one to do that and I can tell you if one look deep in him/herself and come up the level of his/her spouse they will get an answer and their will be a better chance of making out of their marriage.
• United States
2 Nov 06
I hope you are not saying it is the noncheaters fault that the cheater cheats? First of all my ex-husband cheated because he was/is immature and selfish. He did not cheat once with one woman but repeatedly with multiple women. It was not because he was "lacking" at home because believe me he was "getting it" at home also. That is what put me at risk but thank God I did not receive a deadly incurable disease from him. By the way he cheated with young girls mostly (16-18 years old when we were both 23-25 years old).
• India
3 Nov 06
I think you are not taking my response in the spirit in which its been written. No I am not saying the its the fault of a non cheaters that spouse cheats, what I am saying if such thing has happened then one should re look at him/herself and find the answer and i believe one gets the right answer. In your's case urs husband been a compulsive cheater and his case is different. I was talking about some one who happened to cheat on his/her spouse and that singular act of waywardness doesnt amount to divorce.
• Indonesia
1 Nov 06
marriage is a sacred thing. it binds 2 people into one resolve your problem without divorce, if it still can be done. hear what he has to say, what his reason an and all. i think divorce should be your last resort. especially when u already got children
@s_yakoob (169)
• India
1 Nov 06
i appreciate your thought my friend.
• United States
1 Nov 06
When a spouse cheats (women cheat also its not just the men) they are putting thier partner (thier spouse) at a tremendous risk of STD's including aids and I don't care how carefull you are there is still risk nothing is 100% except abstinance. Not only that they have breached a trust within the marriage that will never be the same again. Yes some couples are able to get past this and heal their marriage but for me I got a divorce because I could never trust him again.
• Hong Kong
2 Nov 06
that depends on if I could take care of myself or not,if I have money and job at that moment,I'l just let him go. once he cheated on me ,he's always do.
@s_yakoob (169)
• India
3 Nov 06
that's a smart reply.
@Karinne (1223)
• Australia
1 Nov 06
Hi there! I recon so... And thats what i did! lol.
@s_yakoob (169)
• India
1 Nov 06
you really did, is nice to hear that. Are you still with your partner, or do you suspect he is still cheating on you.
@amsharma (1861)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Yes, if my husband cheated on me it would be an instant divorce. There would be NO second chances. The reason for this being, things would never be the same. From then on, everytime he tried to be loving towards me, I would be thinking about what he did and it would drive me crazy. Adultery is the one thing the Bible says is an acceptable grounds for a divorce.
@s_yakoob (169)
• India
1 Nov 06
speaking religious ground what you say is totally correct.
@tammytwo (4303)
• United States
30 Oct 06
It totally depends on the couple. If they can work through things and want to then they should. If they don't think they can then they should divorce.
@s_yakoob (169)
• India
1 Nov 06
i kind of agree with what you say
@misssy (91)
• United States
3 Nov 06
I would stick around to make his life miserable. :)
@kesfylstra (1870)
• United States
3 Nov 06
I would not want a divorce, but trust is so necessary to love. Without trust there can be no love. I can't imagine life without him, but if he were to do that, he would not be the man I married. Fortunately, I do trust him, immeasurably.
@honest007 (794)
• India
3 Nov 06
image - colour image
defenitely
@rosey3223 (1569)
• United States
3 Nov 06
I've had that happened and I left them right away. When I had the money I then got the divorce.
@alladisada (2305)
• India
1 Nov 06
Cheating Partner - Cheating Partner
my partner cheats me it means the partner does not like me it's better to get divorced