Fertilizer or Dust in the Wind?

United States
February 7, 2008 11:35am CST
Do you want to be buried or cremated when you die? Every devout catholic in my family has an opinion about me wanting to be cremated. I just can't wrap my head around being stuck in a $7000 box and set into the ground to be fertilizer in a couple hundred years. I also have every specific instruction as to how and where my ashes should be scattered. I used to want my ashes compressed into lab created gemstones and the set in sterling silver rings for my kids that would be engraved to say "I am always with you" but I was told that is just morbid and sick and I would end up giving my kids nightmares if I did this. So what do you want done with your body after you are gone.
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@skinnychick (6907)
• United States
9 Feb 08
Pink Diamond- you had to expect that one! :) But they are expensive so then I would want to be cremated.. What to do with the ashes... I want one of my family members to throw them on Wrigley Field while streaking... but I'm not sure which one... I'm silly tonight sorry...
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• United States
9 Feb 08
Cool thanks! :) Ok I'm smiling about being a pink diamond- there is something wrong with this picture..
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• United States
13 Feb 08
I can picture you a pink diamond. And I am sure your daughter would treasure it always. Your son however may much rather you pick the blue diamond for him. LOL
• United States
13 Feb 08
That might be a good choice..or orange. He seems to love orange, maybe that. :)
• India
8 Feb 08
Well being born as a Hindu, I will of course be cremated. But of course both sides have their own pros and cons as you very well know. As per Hindu custom, after being cremated, my ashes would be immersed in the Ganges. But I don’t think your idea is morbid at all, it is very touching and if explained properly to your kids beforehand, they may find it very inspiring and comforting to have a part of a parent with them all the time. It would be something priceless to them.
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• United States
13 Feb 08
Thank You. I was always interested to learn why followers of hindu have their ashes submersed in the ganges river. Care to enlighten me a little?
• United States
14 Feb 08
Consider me enlightened. Thanks so much for the explanation.
• India
15 Feb 08
OK *laughs*
@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
9 Feb 08
Haha, wow that is an idea I never heard! Well you will be happy to know my catholic family are all planning cremation. My grandma was cremated and there is this thing (I forgot the technical name) at her church where she is in. It's like lockers (for lack of a better explanation!) but much nicer looking. All of her kids (my parents included) bought the locker spaces under her's so that is where they will go. I don't care where my ashes go but I am with you on the cremation thing. As long as they are sure I'm not gonna wake up half way through AHHHHH :-D There is not a lot of room left on this earth for graves and anyone who thinks cremation is bad needs to rethink this! Many people in many religions have done this throughout the years.
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• United States
13 Feb 08
I always wanted to get a tattoo in the middle of my chest that read "Embalmer PLEASE try CPR one last time"
• United States
8 Feb 08
I have to agree with the original poster in this discussion. A $7000 box in the ground isn't appealing to me at all. I would much rather my remains be dealt with in a manner better for my family, something special and unique. I think your idea is beautiful and not morbid at all.
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• United States
13 Feb 08
Thank you Angela. I'm still fond of my idea as well. I actually sat down with my oldest daughter and went over the site with her and she loves the blue gem and thinks it is a great idea. If my 11 year old can wrap her head around it then I am going to do it.
@gemini_rose (16193)
8 Feb 08
I want to be cremated, the idea of being put in a box and buried and then have the gravesite over run with weeds and neglected just seems daft, because with all the best intentions in the world, visiting graves is way down on my list of priorities, no disrespect intended but it is just something I would rather not do. And like you say its a lot of money for a box!! To be honest with you I quite like the sound of the ring idea and I dont think its morbid or sick at all, I think if my mum wanted this done for me, I would feel quite comforted in a funny sort of way.
• United States
13 Feb 08
Thank you gemini. I still love your user name. I loved my great grandmother more than any person on this planet that I haven't given birth to yet in the 10 years she has been gone I have not once gone to her grave. I just can't bring myself to do it. I would much rather have had something like my idea to keep with me always to remember her by. I kept her favorite vase but my ex husband broke it into a million pieces and I kept her rosary. At least that has remained in one piece.
@onesiobhan (1330)
• Canada
7 Feb 08
I'm donating my body. They can take anything that might be of use to somebody and use the rest for research. And I don't think your idea is morbid at all, I think it's beautiful.
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• United States
13 Feb 08
I thought about donating my body but I'm hoping that by the time I die I will have used up any part of me worth saving. lol Thanks for liking my gemstone idea. I think I finally have my sweetie convinced.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
7 Feb 08
I think the cemetery here are a bit more clogged compared to your country, so I prefer to be cremated. We also have a tradition here where family members would pay tribute to their departed loved ones every November 1st, as they go to cemeteries and make some time in remembering the life that was shared with them. Though it's cheaper, I don't really go for the cost of it. I'm considering the valuable time they'd bother going on these days, together with lots of people bustling around. If ever I'd die, then they don't have to worry going to the cemetery as my presence is with them inside the urn!;)
• United States
7 Feb 08
We do the all Saints Day on Nov 1st too. Sometimes that is the only time a grave site gets visited. I think that is sad. I still like my ashes being turned into gems idea.
• United States
7 Feb 08
I agree with you, to be put in a coffen is really not necassary. I would rather like to be burned and then I dnt know yet lol... But I definately dont want a coffen...
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• United States
13 Feb 08
I'm seeing that a lot of people are all for cremation. I wish my family wasn't so old fashioned.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
7 Feb 08
Both me and my husband want to be creamated when when we die.. We both agree that it's pointless to have all those people come and mourn over you and for the kids or whoever is paying for it to spend all that money. We both want our ashes spread in a place that holds passion for us.. And not just in some ground.
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• United States
13 Feb 08
That's exactly my thought on this. Pay thousands of dollars, cry a lot, stand around and lie about what a great person I was, cry some more. And walk away with nothing but a granite tombstone marker showing you where my body is decomposing.
@beeyah (48)
8 Feb 08
i want to be cremated. just the thought that worms will be all over my body... its so disgusting:0
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@angel08 (120)
• Philippines
8 Feb 08
I prefer cremation although my husband was buried , I'll just put my ashes in a jar and place it beside his tomb.
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@rlynzz (75)
• Philippines
8 Feb 08
i would rather be cremated than to let my body decompose.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
10 Feb 08
I want to be cremated, id ont want to be burried in the box and eaten by bugs! No thanks!! i'll pass! I dont care where my ashes go as long as they are my home province of NS.
• United States
13 Feb 08
What ashes I have left I want scattered in the Caribbean sea and on my great grandmothers grave. Yeah the whole flesh eating maggots thing is a big turn off for me too.