Why do women always go for the "bad guys?"

@kiran1978 (4137)
Australia
February 8, 2008 7:06pm CST
THere was a discussion on SEa FM (radio station) the other day, asking women do they always go for the bad guys? WHy? Some women responded that they did when they were in their early 20's however as they grew older they wanted the more mature man to bring them stability. Other women said they went for the bad guy as it was a challenge. I know that I have gone for the "bad guys" before, was not intentionally trying to though, just turned out that they were "bad." By that I mean physically abusive. DO not know what on earth attracted me to those kind of men. I did find though when I was younger I liked a challenge. However as I am near 30 now, I definately prefer a more stable responsible man that has drive and passion. So what is your opinion on this topic?
2 responses
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
9 Feb 08
I think girls seek for comfort and security, that's why they always consider "bad guys" as a plus. For some, they believe that these type of guys are also passionate in some way. They show the truth about their feelings, because they always express and that women believe these men are one-man woman. Sometimes, women are also hoping that they could be the one to change that person -for good! There are occasions that it does happen, but it's a one in a million shot of a lifetime!;)LoL I for one is a guy, I can be bad to others but I am always loyal and caring for my s/o..
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
9 Feb 08
Thanks for your comments raijin, you sound like you know what you are talking about. You have good insight into women. I fogot to mention that women did state in the discussion that they think they can change that bad guy. Like you said, that is one in a million shot. I have tried that many times, I have learnt that you can't change anyone. You either have to tolerate it and accept it or leave if they are really that bad. Glad you are loyal and caring stick to those qualities women like that.
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
9 Feb 08
I think it depends on the individual, they would change but not by the way others would think. We cannot force something at people, their time of realization will come and hopefully it won't be too late for them. I have learned that love is not just the important factor of having a relationship with others, there should also be understanding and sincerity for each other..
@littleowl (7157)
13 Feb 08
like yourself i have always gone out with guys who have seemed genuine but have turned out to be mentally and physically abusive-not so much in my teens til i got engaged to my childhood sweetheart he was violent and mentally abusive-after 5yrs of this i managed to get out of the relationship-during the time i was with him though he was my world and i just hoped he would change he was an alcholic he said he would and did for about 3mnths at a time but then would go back to his 'normal'self--then i got married and the man imarried seemed very caring thoughtful etc but was mentally abusive-i found that the physical abuse was easier to over come as the scars healed but the mental abuse didnt and have taken me yrs to get over but thankfully have now--for 13yrs now i have beenin a relationship with a total genuine man and although its sometimes hard to accept his thoughtfulness,responsible and love i dont know if i could settle down at the moment due to the other experiences i've had with men-littleowl