What to do?

@lynnchua (3416)
Singapore
February 8, 2008 9:33pm CST
If your partner is having an affair with your best friend. Will you be able to take it? Will you forgive them? A clean break off with your partner and say bye bye to your best friend? Etc.......
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8 responses
• Canada
9 Feb 08
If my hubby was having an affair with my best I would lose my lid. I wouldn't be able to take it at all. I wouldn't be too forgiving either. I would be kicking hubby to the curb and my best friend would no longer be a best nothing. Its just not right!
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@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
9 Feb 08
Hi shootergirl, I won't forgive them too if that happened to me.
9 Feb 08
I will sick to my position as the two I trusted betrayed me at the same time,they have already considered what I would feel before they did the things,so forgive----no way
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@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
9 Feb 08
Hi shijiaxin, thanx for your response.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
9 Feb 08
I could not forgive either my best friend or my partner. To me that would be the ultimate betrayal. How could you continue the relationship with your partner after he has cheated on you with your best friend. There is no way you could ever trust him and your best friend anywhere near each other again. Do not think the pain would go away, there would be no other option but to end the relationship.
@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
9 Feb 08
Ya, that's what I think. How could a 'best friend' or a partner betray you. I won't even want to see them for the rest of my life.
9 Feb 08
To me,I can't stand for the most important person betrays me as best friend and boyfriend.I won't forgive them forever.Maybe it will leave shadow,but I an't bear
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Feb 08
I would dump them both. Then when the ex partner comes back looking for forgiveness (you don't know what you have until you loose it) I would send her back to my ex best friend.
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@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
9 Feb 08
You can dump them both, but what if this happened to your brother. Your brother had an affair with your partner will you forgive him?
@howard96h (11658)
• New York, New York
9 Feb 08
I would not talk with him for a very long time and if we did talk again I would never trust him like before. What kind of brother would do something like that - not a good one.
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@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
9 Feb 08
Its true, but anyway his is still your brother right? One will alway forgive but never forget.
@rsa101 (16743)
• Quezon City, Philippines
9 Feb 08
It just means you lost both your best friend and your partner. its time to move on and find a new friend you can rely on. It is hard to accept if your best friend whom you should trust is the one that betrays you. It happens and what you could do is to try to find a replacement. But if you are that forgiving type of a person there is nothing wrong forgiving them and accepting them. Just don't put your full trust in them as they have once betrayed you it may happen again if you will try to accept them again in your life.
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@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
11 Feb 08
Hi rsa, I think if you are not married its easier to just leave both of them but if your are married especially with kids than it won't be easy.
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@rsa101 (16743)
• Quezon City, Philippines
11 Feb 08
Oh ok so you and your partner has children, that is indeed a difficult situation but I think if your partner won't stop is it worth the while staying with your partner?
@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
11 Feb 08
No it doesn't happened to me dear.
@youless (94778)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Feb 08
I have to say that betray is a very serious sin. If it happens between your best friend and your partner, it's worse. I won't forgive them forever. As they are important people to me. How they can betray me and hurt me like this. A true friend won't do so, and a good partner will never betray you, too.
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@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
9 Feb 08
Hi youless, I agree that is unforgivable and is a very serious sin for your love ones to betray you.
• New Zealand
9 Feb 08
MAN..... To be honest, I will never ever forgive either my partner or my best friend. It is just too painful that the two closest people that you most trust ever in your life cheat on you. And of course it is impossible to forget the pain that they brought to you. It will make you never trust on a person again.
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@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
9 Feb 08
Ya its easier to forgive than forget. And its too painful that twol cloest people of your betrayed you and its really hurting. I think no one will forgive them.
@quawertz (781)
• Philippines
18 Feb 08
In my opinion call it quits with the guy. Your best friend is not really a good friend or is not really a friend at all. If she is a real friend to you she shouldn't have flirted with your guy and she should have distance herself with the guy if he is showing motives of liking her. Well for the guy, he is not worth it. Dump him as soon as possible. You deserve better.
@tamz21 (67)
12 Feb 08
I would say bye bye to both of them!! i wouldnt know what would be worst my best friend doing that or my partner. both of them would get cut out of my life for good..