Do Negative people bring you down ?

@missbdoll (1168)
Australia
February 9, 2008 8:53pm CST
I've got a freind who just seems to get so negative, she gets down on her self, but the problem is she seems to include me.Like if she's thinks she cann't do something she seems to think I cann't either.Or if she says nothing is going right for her, that it wonn't for me either.I relised lately I feel like this is really zapping my confidence. Do you feeel people can bring you down ?
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@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
10 Feb 08
when people are negative they let off "negative energy", and that's what brings us down. I hate being around negative people, i've grown up with it, and now i've just moved in with a girl who is very negative! how i get myself into these situations, i do not know!
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@goldeneagle (6776)
• United States
10 Feb 08
It is a well-known fact that you become who you hang around. If you hang around with successful people, you have a better chance of becoming successful yourself. People who make money in business or investing or whatever the case may be tend to hang around with people who do the same things. On the flip-side of that, people who sit around all the time talking about how broke they are and waiting on the world to give them a hand-out seem to always be sitting around with other people who like to do the same thing. So, it would seem to me that if you want to be positive and successful in life, hang around with people who are positive and successful. It is one thing to be there for your friend when she needs you. It is entirely another story to let her bring you down to her level. It may be hard for you to do, but you may have to put some distance between you and her to keep her from destroying your momentum. I know it is hard to do, because I have personally had to do it, but in the end it will be worth it if you have to
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@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
14 Feb 08
Think positive. How lucky you are to have a friend! Friends are there for each other...tell her what you told us, offer to help, ask her to help you with what you are struggling with, tell her what you need from her. Look within yourself...are you a positive happy person, when she says you can't do something because she can't, do you laugh and say, "yes I can and so can you" If she continues with the negativity and to bring you down, if she won't let you help or help herself then she is not a friend. She is wallowing in self pity and until she realises that then there is nothing you can do. It's hard because friends should be there for each other...but not bringing the other one down.
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
11 Feb 08
People that always have a negative attitude can definitely bring you down if you can't stay positive about things with them or for them. I'm sorry that your friend seems to be negative about everything, but maybe you should just speak against all the negativity or maybe not hang around her as much. I know that she's your friend, but if all she does is bring you down with her, then she's not being much of a friend to you. I'll be praying for you and God bless
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
11 Feb 08
Yes! Just as a smile is contagious, so is a frown. I try to not be too involved with people that are ALWAYS negative. It will drag you down. If someone who is normally upbeat is having a bad day, I do try to cheer them or at least sympathize. That is what friends are for. But someone that is down and out all the time....those people just seem to love to be miserable or maybe they are so accustumed to it that they aren't even aware. doesn't matter....i avoid them.
@mlhuff12 (800)
• United States
10 Feb 08
Oh definately. My husband had such a negative attitude and contantly brought me down along with him. All the time. It too brought down my confidence and self esteem. Sadly it wasn't high to begin with. So I couldn't take it anymore and left. He is no longer in my life and I am always in such a better mood.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
10 Feb 08
I have a couple of negative people around me and I find them exhausting, not only are they negative about everything but they never laugh never be a bit silly and I think that is sad and yes if you let them they will nega you.
@musicman6 (2368)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I know a lot of people that are like this, but I don't let them bring me down! I have a very unshakeable confidence that attracts a lot of people, and I actually do my best to try and help people that have this negative feeling of themselves! I had one person actually say to me "I like being around you,"! Now I'm not infallible though, in my lifetime, I let two people into my life, that drove a knife into the deepest part of my heart, and it brought me down, and it brought me down, hard and all the way to the ground! But I finally managed to get back up, it took me a long time, but I got up, and I don't let myself get down anymore!