My relationship*

Spain
February 10, 2008 9:02am CST
Hi buddies! I´ve had a boyfriend since last summer. It was going on... but two months ago, his mum started to discuss with us once she realized that my bf fussed over me a lot...=( I think the fact that Ur boyfriend look after you is totally normal. But his mum is so jealous... ´cause He is an only child.. His mum wants us to split up...=( and She´s going to forbid him to be with me... And I don´t know.. What about you?...what Do Ya think? Any solutions?... Thanks! Ani*
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@jyo_sa2 (17)
• India
11 Feb 08
Hello dear, First I want to know the thickness of your friendship or whether both of you in love with each other. Because in many cases, parents will object our friendship with boys / girls, if it seems to have other shape like love / marriage. Friendship is a ocean. Anybody can have it and enjoy it. True friendships will not be broke up by parents / others. Only if in case they feel, those relations may effect to their children's future. Just think of it and decide. If you are in love with him and his mother have a doubt on it, then there may be a strong reason that she thinks to split you people. Try to know the reason and explain her about you and your friendship. For example, is she is worried that her son may neglect his mother, when he is with you or not taking care about his mother after having friendship with you, try to convince your boy to behave as he was i.e. before having relation with you and suggest him to convince his mother about your relationship. Regards.
• Spain
11 Feb 08
yes. of course! We´re a couple =) And.. before we started to go out, He wasn´t loving so much with his parents. So, his mum thought that he wasn´t an affectionate person... but now, I am here, I am in his life, I take care of him,...and He returns all this feelings to me...His mum was astonished! She could see that His son could love too... I think was the discovery... that made his mum angry ... cause she´d never recibe kisses or.. hugs of him. Thx! and Regards!^^
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• China
11 Feb 08
I've known that you are 18 now.Maybe his mother considers that you are just a child as well.Can two children have a perfect love?of course you can.But if we stand in the possition of our mothers,they won't let their child to have this risk.maybe later his mum will work out your way.
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• Spain
11 Feb 08
yes... =) ´cause it´s also the first love ... Mothers won´t let their children to have risks... yeah ;) Maybe we have to let matters that take their course...^^ They will see we love each other, we can advance,.. and we won´t forget our parents at the same time... C U!
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
11 Feb 08
Oh.. Its simply his mother is feeling kinds insecure. Firstly check on your boyfriend if he is giving an over attention to you. Its very commom boys normally forget about their family when they fall in love. I would never want my boyfriend to forget the whole world and love me..!! I belive that "love" is one Part of life its isn't the whole life.SO you cannot forget the ones who loves you.. your family who always cares for you!!! and will always be there for you. YOu have certain duties towards them too. YOu must check it if your boyfriend is neglecting his family may be because of you or some other reason. And as he is the only child of his parents then its obvious his mother will feel neglected..!! So next time take care about. Let him be with his family for some time too.I am sure you don't like any one to be slave of yours!! If you do then ahem.. its not good!! :)
• Spain
11 Feb 08
ohh.. yes its interesting what you said.. =) But I think that depends on the family too , isn´t it?!.... My b/f said to me that his family never had hold him back,...never stand by him... =( Its sad... that they ask for something that they dont give...=,( I think he has to love them, ...they are his parents! ok.. Its neither my fault nor my decission...but Maybe,...I have to say to him that loves them more.. P.D.:..And I dont want slaves...hahah, oh my god! xD .. I dont need them.. no, Im not so. Thx for your post!^^
• India
12 Feb 08
well its an issue then ..if his family expects from him what they themselves can't give him...!! Its bad. Then he must talk to his parents. Remember sometimes things are not what they seem like..!! Tell your boyfriend to think over this again .. over his parents ..!! There is no harm in giving a second thought to this thing. and thankgoodness you don't want any slave .. the world is saved..!!! hahahha :)
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
11 Feb 08
She can't let go of her little boy. It's sad, but true. The thing is that if he starts to listen to her it could really affect your relationship. I think that the two of you need to sit down and talk about things and see what he is thinking or if he's starting to think about what his mother is saying. His mother needs to realize that the two of you care about each other deeply and that she needs to let go of her little boy and let him be a man. It says in the Bible, that the man must leave his mother. If he chooses to listen to her, it's not gonna work. Just talk things through and keep us posted. I'll be praying for you. Good luck and God bless
• Spain
11 Feb 08
Totally agree about your reflection. thank U very much!
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@ellie333 (21029)
10 Feb 08
Sounds to me like she still sees him as her little boy and can't accept that he has grown up and has chosen to have a loving relationship with you, being the only child doesn't help because she seems to resent more the attention he gives you. Try not to let it affect your relationship. I do not know his age but does she have the right to forbid him to see you and I have found in the past that if you forbid someone it makes them even more determined to do the thing you don't want them too so he will be more likely to want to be with you. Hope this helped a bit. Ellie :)
• Spain
11 Feb 08
You´re right. Thx for your advice! I won´t let it affect my our relationship =) ´cause my boyfriend aren´t do it... His mum will have to give in... =) Thank U very much, you´re so positive and find solutions that make me strong ... =) I´m sending U a big kiss^^ Bye!
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