If time is reversed 1 year, what decisions would you change?

Malaysia
October 30, 2006 7:49am CST
I would like to accept the job offer I turned down last year. What about you?
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16 responses
@tarachand (3895)
• India
2 Nov 06
I have answered a similar question on two other forums, and I'd like to reproduce that answer here too: For one such Q, I had something like this to say: Nothing! I think I am living a life that is good as it is meant to be. Joys sorrows, pain that I have caused and suffered were meant to be! I think the creator has made a wonderful world for us to live and learn from. Every error, every happiness, every pain suffered, caused, joy given & shared has a lesson behind it, which goes to improve life. If I were to change anything at all will I be the same person? and remember, that the effect of every action that one performs or initiates ripples through time, affecting known and unknown people, so I wouldn't like to make any changes, because I don't know how even changing a bad deed from the past to a good action could affect others, maybe good for me, but far more harmful to humanity/society in general?.
• Malaysia
2 Nov 06
I'm glad that you are very positive and putting you, God, your family and society first. But when we are young we do keep changing until we find a path we would be comfortable and content with. When we are young we learn and keep learning and in the process, we kept changing to suit ourselves, family and society. We learn that things we did were childish and improve and change. Its different with you at your age, Tarachand - I'm sure you have achieved what you want to achieve and built strong forces and energy for yourself and your family. You are able to handle yourself well and maintained good rapport with your aquaintance, while we are still struggling and still learning. We learn from your responds and from the rest here, from books and workmates, young and the old. We imitate if we need to and emulate if we have to until we became better and successful human beings just like you. I thank you for your comment and the lessons I learned from you. Please continue to write to me and exchange yet more views and opinions and do correct me if I'm wrong - it would be a great pleasure.
@tarachand (3895)
• India
2 Nov 06
I was young too like you once and have erred quite often, but those errors have thought me a lesson, maybe I ended up paying a far lower price because of those errors at a young age than I would now at a much older age? I like to think positive, and am willing to help in any way I can any person within the scope of my intelligence and knowledge. There are a lot of learnings that I/we all can have from you youngtsers too. Isn't a lot of learning about life just accumultion, refining of knowledge passed down over the centuries? Younger people have experiences that could teach older ones a lot. I wish you all the best in life!
• Australia
3 Nov 06
almost everything , would u chnage anything if time went back 1 year?
• Malaysia
3 Nov 06
Urghhh....please, for me change that picture. Its too gory for me, please? To answer your question, I am grateful that life has been treating me very well so far. I lost my best friend to cancer but I cannot regret the will of God. Each of us will be tested and we need to always follow the right path and I'm glad I have God, parents, brother, relatives and great friends who are always there to guide me. I make mistakes too and are very mischievious too, get so inquisitive, curious and hurt people too during the whole process called learning. I do regret them but always quickly make amends so it would not be prolonged. I don't know, I still have many more years to go, God willing. I wanted to change my job, only because there are no more opportunities to upgrade myself. Too long now eh? Goodluck and thank you....please change that picture....?
@alien_0731 (1239)
• India
3 Nov 06
I REMARRY AGAIN WITH MY WIFE.STILL I AM REMEMBERING SUCH MOVEMENTS
• Malaysia
3 Nov 06
Thank you for your response. I am curious to know more, but I guess, I better not, eh?
• Philippines
3 Nov 06
I won't break-up with my ex. It was the worst decision I ever made in my life. But at least, we're good friends now. That keeps me feel better.
• Malaysia
3 Nov 06
Way to go Khassandra2006! At least you remained good friends. Why don't you try proposing again then. Who knows this time it could be better and everlasting. People do change, you know. All the best. (Honetsly, I'm beginning to feel like a psychaitrist or a grandma now. Hmmm.....???).
@w1ssam (488)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
3 Nov 06
I will do something to change the thing that happened now, my girl friend left me .. with no excuse or reason ...
• Malaysia
3 Nov 06
They say, there are many birds in the sky, fishes in the sea and flowers in the garden. Maybe we ought to learn where it went wrong and start improving? I don't know my fate either, so we all may face something, somehow - we never know what lies ahead. Goodluck.
@KrauseHome (31316)
• United States
2 Nov 06
I am not sure if I would change anything. I am Happy with what life has brought me as in life's lessons over the last yr. I think everything that happens is for a reason even if when we look back, we do not understand.
• Malaysia
3 Nov 06
You are right too KrauseHome. Each time we go through difficulties or another test from God, we felt like that is the end of the world but looking back, we actually always managed to pull through. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
• United States
2 Nov 06
There is alot of things I would love to change, but I can't so what I am going to say is nothing because all you can do it learn from the past and don't go down that road again. So all and all I have learned something over the last year. I believe that you learn something new no matter how old you are.
• Malaysia
2 Nov 06
I agree. Everything happen for a reason and we learn from it. My dad used to say that even if we live to be a 100, we would still be learning and improving. Thank you for responding.
@DFrodeo06 (1325)
• United States
2 Nov 06
i would have ran at the alter.... if i could have only seen the future, now am divorced and he's with the chick he sheated on me with
• Malaysia
2 Nov 06
I'm sorry. My cousin just got married 3 months and he beat her up crazy a week ago. Now she has 11 stitches on her forehead and he gets a restraining order to stay away from her. The idea of marriage is scary to me now. Cheer up dear - at least you can say good riddance to him and look forward to a better future. Remember, everyone will have their time and he would have his. You just concentrate on getting it over and make sure you work on being happier and better than he is right now. Be with friends - they do have the best shoulders to cry on. Takecare, God bless, and best of luck. you can write to me whenever you like and I will add you in as my friend, ok? Do I sound like a grandma already?
@Ljorge (1497)
• United States
2 Nov 06
if i could turn back time one year there are afew thngs i would do differently ! in fact i beleive there are way too many things i would change. if i started to listing everything i wouldn't leave at all today ! lol
• Malaysia
2 Nov 06
Try solving one thing at a time, then. Its better to do something than none at all and accumulate and carry forward, on and on. Or try not to repeat the stuff you think you shouldn't have done, etc. I can only suggest. Thank you for your response.
• United States
2 Nov 06
Luckily nothing went so bad last year that I would like to go back and change it. Now if I could go back several more years than that.....LOL
• Malaysia
2 Nov 06
Good for you and don't go too far back, will you? Let it rest and make the most of today and the future. Thank you for responding.
@sbeauty (5871)
• United States
2 Nov 06
My husband and I would make the decision to remain in our jobs and stay where we were living. Moving has been a big mistake!
• Malaysia
2 Nov 06
I understand. I hate moving too and having to make new friends, getting to know your surroundings, roads and neghbours and wanting to be understood and accepted is a huge effort. Needs alot of patience and toleration. Poor you. I hope you're ok, now. Mu mum always said to trust God's judgement - there's always something good hidden behind it all. I don't know....Thank you SBeauty and good luck!
@tusharb (3160)
• India
2 Nov 06
yes i wul
• Malaysia
2 Nov 06
Thank you Tusharb.
• India
2 Nov 06
I dont want to.. Ill find some means to advance by an year..
• Malaysia
2 Nov 06
Please read my question again. Thank you for responding.
@nmw2005 (1198)
• United States
2 Nov 06
I would change nothing. I am happy with who I am right now. This was the first year my husband and I have been together for more than 3 months. When we got married and he was sent to Asia for a year.
• Malaysia
2 Nov 06
Its not about who you are but what you would have liked to change if time is reveresed to a year ago, my dear sister. Thank you anyway and I'm glad that your husband is back.
@erictlh (357)
• Malaysia
31 Oct 06
I will say sorry to my ex..
• Malaysia
31 Oct 06
Never too late Eric...you can still say sorry now. Thank you for your response and goodluck!.
@sellj75 (208)
• United States
31 Oct 06
I would have chagned jobs when I was given the chance.