Which is worse? Verbal abuse or Physical abuse

United States
February 12, 2008 4:58am CST
If you had your choice..would you rather a person verbally abuse you..rake you over the coals, demean you ..make you feel worthless or have them physically punch you..push you down and bruise you up. My opinion ..the two are equally as painful and sometimes the verbal is harder to get over..since it goes much deeper then the skin..what do you think?
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11 responses
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
I think that verbal abuse is worse! The pain people feel for physical abuse is skin deep. On the other hand, verbal abuse can shatter people's hearts. It is hard to get over verbal abuse. It can cause mental and emotional stress.
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• United States
13 Feb 08
I agree with you 100 percent..verbal abuse lurks in the memory and mind for many years..no matter the apologies..there remains wounds that words cant erase though the heart forgives.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
Hi littlefranciscan! I do agree with you that they are equally as painful. However, verbal abuse are harder to get over most of the times because it does affect your personality and how you perceive yourself. Verbal abuse makes you question yourself of your worth while physical abuse, you tend to get angry with the person inflicting pain on you. Just my thoughts dear. Take care and have a nice day! :)
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• United States
13 Feb 08
You are so right..Did you know that the bully with words very rarely will admit that they are a bully and abusive to people
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
Both are not good. They both can hurt big time! Well, for physical abuse, people can beat you up until you lose all your strength. You may have bruises and scars. All of which would heal sooner or later. As for verbal abuse, it may not really cause obvious scars and bruises but it can break hearts. It's very difficult to get over verbal abuse considering all those painful words that got through your ears and penetrated your heart!
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• United States
13 Feb 08
Right on..getting over wounds..that are physical is so much easier..piercing words go way beyond what the eyes can see.
@suehan1 (4355)
• Australia
12 Feb 08
yes i think both are bad.i say the verbal abuse would stay with you for ever and probably scare you more than the physical abuse.i would not put up with either,i would just walk out.i have had my share of someone putting me down and it has stayed with me always,but now i am wiser and know when to leave the situation.cheers sue
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• United States
12 Feb 08
I think you are right..the verbal stays longer..and sometimes..it's not so easy to walk away.. But good words of advice as to handle both of them.
@xialinye (1403)
• China
21 Feb 08
i agree with you.verbal abuse is much worser than physical abuse.wound can heal,but calumniate can't
• Philippines
20 Feb 08
both are bad. both are evil. both are not good in the eyes of God. but the verbal abuse is more intense and painful, hard to forget,it will torture you mentally as long as you live. it will destroy your reputation, your self worth, your overall character,because your cant ignore it,you always hear it in your mind. it boils you down. Nobody deserves neither physical nor verbal abuse.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Feb 08
my choice is neither but personally I think that verbal abuse is the worst in that it makes yhou feel so worthless inside. My own father never hit me but his tongue was sharp enough to leave emotional wounds that stayed with me even as an adult, and all his life I tried to do anything that would make him say he was proud of me but of course he never did so finally I learned that I had to be proud of myself. I am not saying I approve of physical abuse either, both are so wrong but sticks and stone may hurt me but words will never is a bunch of baloney. Words can leave emotional scars that will stay with you.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
19 Feb 08
For me, Verbal abuse is always too much because there are things that you cant get back. It is more tolerable than physical as physical can be healed in matter of days but verbal abuse lives forever and you will carry it and it will actually hunt you and make you curse that person. specially if he or she say something that is not so true
@valerie37 (981)
• Christiansburg, Virginia
13 Feb 08
I would have to agree that both are equally as bad. But the verbal would do the most harm I think since it would cause emotional wounds that might take years to get over if you ever got over them.
@kiwikidz (753)
• New Zealand
13 Feb 08
I really know this answer and it is verbal abuse, it is demeaning and goes down deeper that a hiding, at least a hiding gets it over and done, verbal abusers use their mouths as a tool to bring you down and to make you believe you are worthless and a nobody. I watched this growing up in our home with both forms of abuse on my mother and experienced the verbal abuse myself as a young wife. I have now had my daugher picked up by the neck and thrown by her husband but the worst of all was his mental (or verbal) abuse. That apparently was going on for sometime. The horrible thing though is my daughter went from a strong person to one who didn't know how to cope with day to day life. I don't think I would really take either choice.
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
for me, both verbal and physical abuse is really really bad, but physical abuse when the time comes, it will fade and you cant feel anymore pain in your body, but when we talk of verbal abuse, it's really painful to hear bad words that is so hurting, it will hurt your heart and it's not that easy to overcome those hurt..