I am a little bit disturbed

Philippines
February 12, 2008 10:30am CST
Well, I made a blog about sharing problems. But as of now, I still do not promote it since I am still fixing it... when I receive a letter from a girl who I believe in a deep trouble. I feel that her problem cannot wait... She is I believe a victim of incest... at the age of 7 being abuse... But honestly I do not know what to tell her. I am not going to post the letter here but if you are interested to read it and give a piece of advice where she can read it... just visit http://your-listener.blogspot.com As of now, this is the least that I can do for her.
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10 responses
• India
12 Feb 08
Hi, Lucky_witch, yours blog is really a better or say a platform to share the problems / obstacles in our life without coming into the picture. As Is read the blog post, the problem of that female is bit difficult to express and suggest a solution to it. But anyway, as she wrote that it started in her childhood days, she must be innocent back then, not knowing what could be the adverse effects of it afterwards. But as she is a mature Adult now, then she can ask to her cousin directly to stop this as this is not the game. Its life, an important feeling of a person, not to be made worst by spoiling its enjoyable moments. So it would be better if she make herself strong and take a strong judgement against the happenings in life. So I hope my suggestion will do a bit better for her. Have a nice day.
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@Darkwing (21588)
12 Feb 08
Excuse me butting in Vijay, but I'm interested in others' opinions about this, and I had to tell you that I found your response very sensible and to the point. You're right! It's time SHE put a stop to it, by whatever means are most effective. I have rated your response with a +. Brightest Blessings.
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• Philippines
12 Feb 08
I dont know if its a sort of she cant stop it because shes used of it happening for a long period of time and cant find reason to stop it, being threaten or... honestly I dont know. I just see her letter as an expression of some regrets for the things that she allowed to happen which she know she can never change.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
13 Feb 08
She left out alot of important details that is true. We don't know if this person is threatening her or anything, She could feel alot of shame in letting it happen for so long. He could also be controlling and holding stuff over her head and telling her that nobody would believe her or that if htey found out they wouldn't love her anymore.. emotional abuse is a powerful thing. Best thing she could do is tell everyone whether she gets good or bad results that way it is out in the open. Also it needs to be brought to everyones attention if this guy did this to her no telling how many others he has done this to and it needs to be stopped.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
12 Feb 08
I read the letter. I don't know where she lives but English seems to be her second language. In some cultures it would be difficult for her to be believed, she may even be blamed and be in more trouble. Since we know so little about her circumstances the best advice would be for her to seek out a female counsellor for the time being.
@Darkwing (21588)
12 Feb 08
I haven't actually replied to this girl's letter. It all sounds a bit contrived to me, but in case it isn't, she needs to get some counselling and tell what has been happening to her. She's eighteen now, and cannot let this go on. The main trouble is, knowing whether the letter is genuine, but how can you ignore it? I don't think I could. So, I would just reply and ask her if she's considered seeing a counsellor because what is happening is really still illegal, even at the age of eighteen and she needs to sort it now. She doesn't actually relate her feelings or anything which is what makes me wonder. Normally, if they decide to tell all, they do just that, and she's holding back for some reason. I hope I've been of some help... I'm a little confused myself. lol. Brightest Blessings, my friend, and do feel free to come back to me on this, in PM if you wish.
@Darkwing (21588)
12 Feb 08
I just read the letter again, and it seems to me that she's under no threat, but she's doing it for her own gain, which is even worse, and somewhat easier to get out of. She needs to think about why she has to carry this on?
@riyasam (16578)
• India
12 Feb 08
i di agree with you.she seems to be under no threat.consider seeing a phyciatric counseller.
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@Darkwing (21588)
12 Feb 08
Yes, I had difficulty fathoming it, because she said she can't stop him. Now, does she mean she doesn't want to, or that he's overpowering her or threatening to tell of her past? It's certainly a difficult one, and if she needs to talk, then she should definitely do it through a counsellor. Her mind needs sorting out, I fear.
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
17 May 08
You know l_w when it comes to something so serious as incest I would try to find the little girls location & call the local police dept I'm sure they have techie experts who can pin point her location & bust the monster hurting her or at least put the claims to rest & find out why this child is crying out for attention. +'s
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
14 Mar 08
He l_w, I will pray
@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
16 Feb 08
She has to tell someone. Advise her to go to a priest or a pastor or a teacher or councillor. This person has to be stopped taking advantage of or pehaps intimidating women. If she doesn't tell someone soon it will haunt her for the rest of her life.
@david2005 (800)
• Canada
16 Feb 08
I think that she should tell someone about it like her mom or dad or someone else that she trusts a lot.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
15 Feb 08
This girl may have been a victim at age 7 years old,but she is 19 years old and now she could stop this if shw wanted to...She probably could have stopped it at 15...She did not say how old her cousin was but he had a game boy,so he may not be much older than her...What may have started out as abuse is not not abuse she is old enough to put a stop to this...The reason she is not doing so is he must have threatened to tell on her and she is afraid no one wil believe her, but i would not really care if i was believed or not..She is a grown person now and needs to take a stand against her cousin..I cannot understand why she continues this abuse....What do you think? Do you feel she is old enough now to put a stop to this???????????
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I left some advice but forgot to sign it lol hope it helps her.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
12 Feb 08
I question the validity of the letter. On the other hand if this is a true statement she is making, she should talk with someone about the situation. A counselor would be a good place to start but if this isn't possible, she should talk to a family member or friend. She won't know for sure she's not believed until she confides in another person. In the meantime, I would suggest to her that she keeps as far away as possible from the cousin.