My Relatives' gossip abt my father making our life more miserable :(

@subha12 (18462)
India
February 13, 2008 1:09am CST
As many of you know i am very much worried about my dad's health. He was hospitalised with ulcers in food pipe.Now he has been discharged but we are awaiting the result of the biopsy done. it is taking a lot of pressure on my mind. I am praying all the times so taht the result comes as negative. In the mean time, some of our relatives making gossip about my father's health and disease and they are even calling my mother. Yesterday my father started crying as they were just frightening her. I called up another one who has been very supportive all through. he has said they are just making gossip. Its making our lives a hell. Why don't they understand we are very much concerned about him and they should not act like this to add to the wound. I think they want all things happens bad to us.
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@2btrueinu (705)
• Philippines
13 Feb 08
I'm sorry about your fathers health. About your relatives making gossip about your fathers health just don't mind them focus on your problem don't let them bothered you. Minding them will not going to help you but it going to add more on your burden. Focus on your fathers health pray and be strong to all the trials you are having for now and soon it will going to be alright. Many people are not thingking on the emotions, fellings of other before they do something they do that to hurt you more just forget it they will suffer for what they do to you... i mean their is "carma". They will soon realise what they do are wrong. Minding them will not benefit you right so just ignore them. Your mother will going to know the truth soon.... Pray sister and this wil comfort you....
@subha12 (18462)
• India
13 Feb 08
thanks a lot for assuring response. I am praying all the times. pls you all continue the prayer for my dad as well.
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@ysc_lot (48)
• India
14 Feb 08
They always make a gossip. Don't let your father hear about gossips. You have to be bold n brave and ask them not to discuss until the health reports are available. This can stop some. Relatives always make a gossip out of others life. They just need something to speak about. See that he gets lot of rest.
@posham (1237)
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
i know how you feel.. about the worrying part.. since last year, my dad's been feeling really weak.. heart ailmenrs, diabetes, and liver function.. with all that we, as a family, has been through last year, it pains me to see my dad like that everyday especially when he is the source of our strength. we're doing everything we can behind his back to take care of bills and stuff just so he need not worry. some of my aunts are doing their role in helping but some are dipping their hands on the subject which is not very helpful.. one time, when he was hospitalized and we were pulling all resources to pay the bills., my father called my aunt for support and she immediately called my other aunt to get money for it since she live in a diff state. i think we only got 70% of it but we didn't tell our dad. but still, things like this happen. but we're still doing everything we can. i hope your mom will learn to shrug off most of the comments though it's hard. and i hope your relatives will know how they affect your parents and yourself.. and if they still went on about it, hope they will realize that karma comes swiftly.
@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
With the stress you are in right now... your relatives sure are not giving any help but instead... they are giving your family a lot more negative things to think about... i suggest that... not to let them get to you or to your parents... as i said before... you should provide the strenght in your family... Those rumor mongering relatives will recieve bad karma for spreading rumors about your family... so try not to think too much about them...
@archie20 (39)
• United States
13 Feb 08
Dont worry your father will be just fine.Relatives can be cruel sometimes. why dont u tell then when u need their input u will ask and not to disturb u now. Its better to be blunt then get hurt later. Anybody is not worth losing your peace of mind in such times.Some relatives always want bad to happen to other relatives. It comes with jealousy . Do not pay heed to them but concentrate on cheering up your mom and dad.They both need attention rather than mean minded relatives. Hope your dad gets well soon.
@azeemjz (445)
• Pakistan
13 Feb 08
Look the society have become that way now a days that every body not want others to live a comfortable life or not lending them towards success. So my advice is to you pay lot of attention to your father's health and take the relatives to side by telling them straight forwardly that don't interfaire in our life. And if there is any of your trusted elder then consult him and ask your problem. Because they know these kind of problems well and can handle the situation easily.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
13 Feb 08
I hate gossip also. All it does is cause pain and also trouble. Instead of gossiping they need to be praying for your father. I am so sorry and I hope that things go better for your dad.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
13 Feb 08
Dear Subha! I feel sosad about your fathers health and the trauma you are undergoing. I pray God he'll be allright completely very soon by all means and my good wishes and the Almighty's blessings are always with you. Forgetand forgive those people who think and talk bad about your family. Believe in God as he never deceives who beleive in him unlike our fellow human beings.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
13 Feb 08
Subha, I can understand what your family is going through. People are like that, they are curious, gossipy, interfering and what not. So its better to ignore them. I know its hard and more so when you know some of them do it our good intention but eventually get disillusioned. They go overboard with their concern. Subha, its a bad time and you all gotta be brave in dealing with it. Just keep your composure and screen the advices you get.
@anonymili (3140)
13 Feb 08
I am sorry to hear of what you are going through dear Subha and I think your relative's are very selfish to add to your family's worries at a time like this by gossiping. I think the best thing to do is to refuse to take their calls at this time. Someone needs to be firm with these people and say politely "We are under enough stress without you adding to it by making these kind of remarks about his health about which you don't really know anything, so please leave us alone for the time being!" If this doesn't work then a harder line will have to be taken, i.e. ignore them completely, when they phone and you realise who it is, just say "We cannot talk now, bye!" People like that have nothing better to do with their time than gossip and be mean, I've met many Bengali's like that over the years but I'm glad to say that I know more who are not like that. I don't know if it's a Bengali thing or an Indian thing but when I've discussed this sort of thing with non-Bengali friends, they've said other Indians are like this too, in that it's very easy to say things about other people to make their own life seem better! UGH I hope you can tell these people where to go and concentrate on your dad. xx