Does age matter?

@sam305 (74)
February 14, 2008 7:20am CST
A year ago my grandad started dating another women, which i could never understand as he and me nan had been together since they were 16, she died three years ago. Anyway this women is 33 years his junior, 4 years younger than my mum and her eldest son is two years younger than me.This to me is very strange as this women is not horrible to look at, or an awful person. However, she is on the social, (getting paid by the government). My grandad is acting like a daft old man. Taking her on holidays worth £2000 per person. So what do you think is she using my grandad or is it genuine? And what do you think i should say?
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@xtine111 (15)
• Canada
16 Feb 08
I tottaly understand where u r coming from not knowing how to take the whole situation. Ive never been in a situation like that but I would probably have to sit back and learn to adjust. I mean all your really gonna hear ppl say for the most part is well as long as she makes him happy. Which in all honesty is what really matters. I would ask your mom or dad how they feel about the whle situation. I mean if she is a nice woman and really does seem to be happy with him and he is as happy with her then why not. Just let it play out and find out what happens
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@sam305 (74)
16 Feb 08
I think your probably right, my mum hates it but does not say anything as the last time she did he moved out of our house but came back after a while. She doesn't want to lose him. However i think he knows their is something weird about it as he hasn't told my extended family how old she is. Just that he met a women at age concern, which most people would think if he met her at age concern she must be around the same age as him. If he has no problem with her age why does he not tell the truth.
• Canada
16 Feb 08
thats really strang that he lies about it to, well hides it anyway. Maybe he is a little embaressed of the whole situation just cause of the way people think, for instance that shes a "gold digger". Did you every talk to him about it?just tell him that you feel a little wierd about the whole situation, and just let him know that you want him to be happy.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
14 Feb 08
As long as she is making him happy I don't think age should matter. I hope she isn't using him but I suspect being a grandfather he is pretty wise and would probably know better that anyone what was up in their relationship.
@pumpkinjam (5800)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 08
I don't think age matters usually. She may be using him but without any further information, can't really tell. Maybe your grandad enjoys taking her on holiday and is, I assume, grateful for the company. It is probably hard for you to understand because he was with your nan for so long but that may be precisely the reason for his loneliness. Think how you would feel if you were with someone for that long and suddenly on your own for three years. If she is making your grandad happy then that is what matters. I don't think you should say anything unless you have a genuine reason to be concerned, eg. if your grandad can't afford the holidays or if this woman is expacting or demanding such things.
@sam305 (74)
16 Feb 08
I understand he's lonely but i still don't like it and he has disowned my uncle for having an opinion on this women. I'm just worried she will hurt him or humiliate him
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• United Kingdom
16 Feb 08
Well, that is bad if he has disowned his own son. Sometimes though, people have to learn the hard way no matter how old they are. You and your uncle may have reason to be concerned, although this woman may be making your grandad happy and want to be with him. One way or another, the truth will out. Either your grandad will realise he is being used or he and this woman will prove that they are truly in love.
• United States
16 Feb 08
Okay, first of all, it's between (2) consulting adults....... As long as they are both happy, then that is what matters. I realize you care, but he is a grown man, and he probably just wants to be happy, and not lonely. We have one life to live, so let your grandad live....... :o) Be happy for him if you can, and welcome her into the fam! God bless....