When you are made to wait by someone, how do you feel?
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58675)
Delhi, India
February 14, 2008 11:00pm CST
Suppose you have some prior appointment with any of your near and dear ones or say with your partner. You are supposed to meet him/her at a particular place and time. You reach at that decided place well in time, but you find that the other person is late and has not reached the place. How do you feel when you are made to wait? What kind of thoughts travel in your mind when you wait, do you feel bad and think negatively about that person or do you console yourself, he/she might be struck up somewhere due to reasons beyond his/her control. How long do you wait at that place for the other person to arrive –indefinitely, half and hour or one hour or few minutes?
I feel very bad if my near or dear one does not reach in time at the designated place. If I am made to wait, I become impatient. Waiting for someone is really troublesome and causes tension to me. I normally wait for half an hour for other person and if meanwhile, there is no communication between us regarding his/her arrival, I leave the place for my home.
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34 responses
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
15 Feb 08
Waiting...waiting..waiting....waiting never kind of stops. We have to wait everywhere in life. Let's not get philosophical, deepak. Coming straight to the point, it kills me to wait for someone and I could not remember the last time I actually did that. As you know, I do not date and keeping appointments mostly gets concentrated in my home or office where the term 'waiting' gets loose. I am lucky that way.
And I feel, In today's world of mobiles and SMSes we hardly have to wait. we can always fix and pre or post pone it accordingly. That's the gift of technology. However, I am very impatient when comes to this. I get jittery, angry and just cannot take it. But, I must admit that ppl hardly stand me up. They are kind enough to reach before I do, or is it that I am being late always!!
*laughs*
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
19 Feb 08
Deepak,
I agree, waiting for anyone is a bad feeling altogether. It gives us a feeling that time is moving so fast and we are stuck behind doing nothing!! Have you noticed that a minute turns to an hour when we have to wait! This is for the simple fact that we all hate it some way or the other.
I see so many ppl waiting everyday for the doctors and guess what the most doctors donot keep up to the time. This shows how busy they are and eventually, how great doctors they are!! This attitude is a typical of ours and we should change it. Punctuality is a great practice which we can easily manage just by being a little more serious with our lives and with others'.
Thanks.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 08
Dear Mimpi, You reply makes an interesting reading.
You are really 'lucky' that your near and dear ones do not make you wait for long. (They must be knowing your temperament...LOL!)
I agree with you that we can pre or post pone our appointment with the held of latest gadets like moblies etc. But even then, I find some people do not reach in time.
I also believe that - 'waiting can be killing'. Waiting can lead to anger and we tend to get hyper because of other's fault, who made us wait. Others should understand our value of time...even if she/he is our partner.
I feel there are two types of persons, (i) one who comes late and feel sorry for the same; other (ii) he comes late and gives all kind of lame excuses. Type (ii) can be very irritating.
I try to be punctual with my appointments and I expect the same from others. If I am late, I try my best to inform the other fellow that I have got struck up somewhere.
Have a great day!
:):)
@MrMalice (82)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I'm not a very patient person at all, so waiting can be quite the chore for me. Personally I will give up to an hour of wait time, if I'm at a location that can provide minimal entertainment. The thinking can be the worse part. I first I think angry thoughts because I felt stood up or not important. But suddendly, my mind can fly to another place. I begin to worry if maybe the person is hurt or in need of assistance. This feelings lead to guilt, which usually results back in anger. The anger comes form feeling stupid about feeling guilty. Its a complex thing which can simlpe be put: I hate waiting on people when they say they are going to be there!
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 08
Malice, Thanks very much for sharing your thoughts.
You are somewhat like me - 'waiting can be killing'. Waiting can lead to anger and we tend to get hyper because of other's fault, who made us wait.
I feel there are two types of persons, (i) one who comes late and feel sorry for the same; other (ii) he comes late and gives all kind of lame excuses. Type (ii) can be very irritating.
I try to be punctual with my appointments and I expect the same from others. If I am late, I try my best to inform the other fellow that I have got struck up somewhere.
Have a great day!
@SViswan (12051)
• India
15 Feb 08
It depends on who the person is. If it is someone who is perpetually late (like my husband), I'm impatient and get irritated as I wait. If it is someone who is usually on time or atleast makes an effort to do so, then I think they might be caught in traffic or something important must have held them up. BUt when it gets too late, I start worrying.
Yes, half an hour will be the maximum for me too ..without intimation.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
15 Feb 08
Because it shows that this person doesn't care about my time. And just as I have to consider the fact that they are habitually late, they also will have to consider the fact that I am ALWAYS on time or early! Why can't they respect that?
Sounds like Cupid is one of the late comers like my husband..lol
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
15 Feb 08
Ha Ha Ha
SV
donT be angry young lady
well i have one bad habit of "punctuality" and infect i am there 5-10 mins earliar than time. i got it from my father and rest was done by hostel i live, they had such tight schedule
infect we are most of time first guest even br family in marriage halls
so my dear, i m not late comer as ur hubby but seems like u
wink
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
19 Feb 08
hi Deepak,
Let me first to all tell you that I am very punctual person, I don't remember if ever I had reached late anywhere, but instead always before time. Also I am very impatient by nature.....I cannot sit at one place if I am waiting for someone, I may start walking up and down with bored expression and saying ssssssssssssss, what the hell!!!!!!!!!lol.
Now a days we all have mobile phones, so if we are waiting for our loved ones, it is easy to quickly call and find out what is the reason for delay. But if you are waiting for an interview or have an appointment with doctor, then you have no choice but to wait. But personally I don't like people who don't come on time. Nice discussion.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Feb 08
Nice to know that your are very punctual, it is one of the most important trait of yours, I believe.
I also firmly believe that - 'waiting can be killing'. Waiting can lead to anger and we tend to get hyper because of other's fault, who made us wait. Others should understand our value of time...even if she/he is our partner.
I feel there are two types of persons, (i) one who comes late and feel sorry for the same; other (ii) he comes late and gives all kind of lame excuses. Type (ii) can be very irritating.
I try to be punctual with my appointments and I expect the same from others.
If I am late, I try my best to inform the other fellow that I have got struck up somewhere.
Thanks for sharing.
Have a great day!
Deep
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@touchnshine (2821)
• India
16 Feb 08
Hi Deepak
I really don't like to wait and I always wish that the other person should come on time .. it's very irritating .. I just simply hate waiting .. still there are many circumstances on which I had to wait for a long time -- negative thoughts keep on coming in my mind when I am waiting for that person, I feel like killing that person to make me wait for so long.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 08
You are like me - 'waiting can be killing'. I try to be punctual with my appointments and I expect the same from others. If I am late, I try my best to inform the other fellow that I have got struck up somewhere. One of my friends is always late and will tell a white lie on mobile that he is arriving in five minutes, on other hand he would be starting from his home at that time and would be knowing that he cannot reach in less than 15 minutes.
Have a great day!
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
15 Feb 08
Dear Deepak
sure waiting for some one is really hard
but if u r waiting for some one dear and imoportant then u can wait for that
and again depend where u r waiting
but personally i can wait 30-60 mins if i dont get connected to him as i am not sure if he/she is stuck some where and only one thought kept me waiting that P: he/she will be worried if come and find me not there" so i think its better to wait and feel irritation rather then to give that to other
Other thing, now communication devices like mobiles and lap tops are so common that u can get hold of person u want to
other bad habit i have is "punctuality" or be there at spot 5 mins earliat than decided time
Lol
Take care
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 08
Zahid, First of all thanks very much for holding on the fort in my absence with SV!
It is really nice to know that you are very punchtual and try to reach in time. Also, you appear to be very patient person who can allow others the liberty to come late.
I feel there are two types of persons, (i) one who comes late and feel sorry for the same; other (ii) he comes late and gives all kind of lame excuses. Type (ii) can be very irritating.
I try to be punctual with my appointments and I expect the same from others. If I am late, I try my best to inform the other fellow that I have got struck up somewhere.
Thanks for sharing.
Have a great day!
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
19 Feb 08
no neeed to say thanks deepak
nice discussion only get more intresting if friends cross share their veiw liberally without having intention to degrade others.
Yeah u r right that coming on time of both parties, not only saves lot of time but also meeting can proceed in nice and smooth manner, and if either one is too late then irritation may spoil it, and trying to inform other about delay is good. Hmmm
Take care
@balasri (26537)
• India
15 Feb 08
Dear Deepak thank you for starting a discussion on one of my passion.Punctuality.I don't like to be late on appointments .I never keep anyone wait for me unnecessarily.And if I am made to wait for more than five minutes for an appointment I get away from that place and making it it known that they are dealing with a different kind of person who respects time very religiously.Everybody known to me is very careful with me with punctuality.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 08
Bala!
Your reply makes an interesting reading and it is really nice to know that you are very punchtual and expect the same from others. I completely agree with you that 'time is the essence' and we should pay due regards to others time.
I also believe that - 'waiting can be killing'. Waiting can lead to anger and we tend to get hyper because of other's fault, who made us wait. Others should understand our value of time...even if she/he is our partner.
I try to be punctual with my appointments and I expect the same from others. If I am late, I try my best to inform the other fellow that I have got struck up somewhere.
Thanks for sharing.
Have a great day!
@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
15 Feb 08
hello dpk,
i cannot lie that i am such an impatient person..
but it always depends to what is the level of importance for the meeting..
when its a very urgent financial or business matter, i would be impatient. taking time in wasteful waiting is not a good impression. we must never let our clients or associates late.
but when its waiting for my sisters and best friends to hang out and just have fun spending the day... i wouldnt mind if i wait for hours^_^ its true, i am a different person when it comes to friends and family.
i dont need explanations and i consider it right away.
i always believe that time is gold.. we cannot waste it for nothing.
but we always have to consider, everything does happened in the proper turn and event of given time.
patience is always in connection with our actions, but giving the importance of time sure is the best thing to do.
because we can never turn back time, thats why its so precious more than gold.
take care deepak.^_^
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 08
Veh!Oh! What an interesting reply from you dear!
It is really nice to know that you are very punchtual in your official meetings and try to reach in time.
I also believe that - 'waiting can be killing'. Waiting can lead to anger and we tend to get hyper because of other's fault, who made us wait. Others should understand our value of time...even if she/he is our partner.
I try to be punctual with my appointments and I expect the same from others. If I am late, I try my best to inform the other fellow that I have got struck up somewhere.
Thanks for sharing.
Have a great day!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I hate waiting also. It makes me very nervous antsy and upset. It makes me mad when someone is late. I try to always be on time and prompt and I think they should do the same. I really don't know how long I would actually wait. I couldn't stand the nervousness worrying about it. I would probably wait 15-20 minutes and that is it.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
19 Feb 08
Yes. I am always on time and punctual. I hate waiting and do not want people to have to wait for me either. I always try to inform others so they do not waste their time waiting for me also. I think it is rude to be late and not let someone know in advance if you could have.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 08
Step, It is really nice to know that you are very punchtual and try to reach in time.
I also believe that - 'waiting can be killing'. Waiting can lead to anger and we tend to get hyper because of other's fault, who made us wait. Others should understand our value of time...even if she/he is our partner.
I feel there are two types of persons, (i) one who comes late and feel sorry for the same; other (ii) he comes late and gives all kind of lame excuses. Type (ii) can be very irritating.
I try to be punctual with my appointments and I expect the same from others. If I am late, I try my best to inform the other fellow that I have got struck up somewhere.
Thanks for sharing.
Have a great day!
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Feb 08
It appears that you are very disciplined and nice person. Hats off to you for your spirit.
Have a great day!
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
3 Mar 08
Me I am used to waiting. If they are dear to me, i will wait for them as long as they are communicating still. If they are not my loved ones, i still wait for about 30 minutes professionally but if they will not appear after the said time i will be forced to leave the place and do something else.
@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
One of the hardest thing to do is to wait but I have patience with it. I experienced waiting for a friend for 2 hours (she had her reason), of course it's not funny for someone to keep you waiting but It's kind a forgive and forget.
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
19 Feb 08
Hi,
Well for me, it depends on for whom I am waiting. If it is something official, I will wait maximum 1 hour and then leave the place. If it is for the near and dear ones, say, spouse, children, parents and friends, then I wait till they come. If they get late, I start to worry about them being safe. I cannot leave the place and go thinking that they might come as soon as I leave the place. If by any chance I can contact them or get any news regarding them, then I will try to get information or pass on the message about my plans. Yes, waiting for someone really close, really gives tension to me till I meet them. If we carry the mobile phone with us, the unnecessary tension can be avoided. Mobile phones becomes very useful in such cases.
Last but not the least, waiting is really a headache no matter for whom you wait. So, it's better to be punctual.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I go thru many emotions. I do worry and pray that nothing has happened to the person. I do know that some things can cause delays and so if the person is only a bit late, I really just let it ride and especially if that person is normally punctual. I do have too many people in my life that think absolutely nothing of calling me up and asking me if I'm gonna be home and they'll drop by for coffee. They make sound as if they'll be right here. I want to see them so I make a pot and put off anything else I was doing....only to have them show 3 hours later if at all. That happens way too often and I have gotten so I just don't sit here and wait anymore. Last week a friend called and asked me to meet her for lunch. I showed up and ordered and waited and waited...ate and left. She later said she forgot. Yes it is a big pet peeve for me. These people call me...i don't call them. I am a busy person and i love my friends but I don't have time for that stuff....it is just rude and inconsiderate.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 08
You appear like me. Thanks for sharing your emotions with us and enlivening the discussion.
Nice to know that you are punctual.
I also believe that - 'waiting can be killing'. Waiting can lead to anger and we tend to get hyper because of other's fault, who made us wait. Others should understand our value of time...even if she/he is our partner.
I try to be punctual with my appointments and I expect the same from others. If I am late, I try my best to inform the other fellow that I have got struck up somewhere.
Have a great day!
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
20 Feb 08
Well my thoughts variate depending on person I am waiting for. I have several friends who come on time, always so if one of them is late i start thinking if something had happened to them or something like that. But I also have friends who are always late so I started going late to meet them and now sometimes they even come before me to the place we were supposed to meet at and of course they are angry with me because they had to wait. I hate that hypocrisy because mostly people that are always late complain when they have to wait on someone. I consider arriving late as lack of respect. What do you think about it?
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
15 Feb 08
i become furious when somebody is making me wait for them. i am impatient and sometimes lazy and i don't want to wait for someboy specially when it is something igsignificant and has no value for myself. anybody would understand my situation because everyone has been in my position before and i can say for everyons sake that everybody doesn't like to wait for someone. i hope that world worked in timely manner, but it doesn't.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
16 Feb 08
I would wait for half an hour and it all depends on whether the person agreed to call you, if you had a cell phone, the other person had a cell phone, then I would feel more upset then if only one of us had the means of contacted the other person. I would assume that something came up, then I would go home. Since that person usually has my home phone number, that person would call me and either said that he was late, could not make it, and arrange for another time.
In other words, I would not go into a tizzy unless of course, I had something important to do at home and meeting him was an inconvenience.
@youless (112108)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Feb 08
I will be very annoying and impatient to wait for somebody if he/she is late for the appointment. I think it's a bad habit to waste others' precious time. I will try to watch movie from my cellphone. If I wait for a long time, then perhaps I will be so angry and make a call to tell this one I am leaving.
@thpinky (7)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I feel really mad when that happen. Thoughts like "they don't respect me" "they don't like me" "they don't want to see me" pass through my mind when waiting for the person. If i cannot contact the other person while waiting i will probaly leave after half an hour too, but if the meeting is important i will probaly wit more than an hour. But i hate it when someone doesn't come on time, it feels like they don't respect you or they dont want to see you.
@MarcyWilliams (6)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I don't care who I am supposed to be meeting. If someone tells me to be at such and such a place at such and such a time, I expect them to be there. If they can't then a message or a phone call better be waiting on me. That's why I don't make plans. I'd rather just say I'll see you when I see you.
