Who is more beautiful?

YOU, ME and US... - Three us us make a great family.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
India
February 15, 2008 1:45am CST
Your WIFE or the MOTHER of your child? OR Your HUSBAND or the FATHER of your child? Life is a but journey and we take up various roles all through it. The most beautiful phase starts surely with the marriage when the spouses live the love they share for each other. Then there comes a phase where we become parents. Another divine phase in life! The transition from being a wife to a mother is a noticeable one. We rediscover our spouses of their yet another beautiful side. The babies make us feel beautiful no matter how and to what extent we change as a partner. May be we just begin to lose out on our spouses and on those intimate moments....but we become more adorable in the process. So, guys, what is your take on this? Who do you find more beautiful - your wife or the mother of your child? And for the guys the other way round. T H A N K Y O U.
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• Australia
23 Feb 08
My husband and the father of my children (the same man!) are both beautiful people. Each has different qualities, so choosing one is way too hard.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
25 Feb 08
Very well said hun. I agree. Hope you are just doing great with the kids and cross stiches. LOL...
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• India
22 Feb 08
Hi mimpi1911, I must say with proud that mother of my child is much beautiful than my wife. now she looks more caring and cautious about life and whole family. she looks to be more confident and happier than before. I always thanks to my wife who has given such a beautiful mother of my child.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
22 Feb 08
Here are some beautiful thoughts and I am glad that at least you got my point. Even I feel that with motherhood the woman attains perfection and becomes more confident. It's a wonderful feeling to be one and also to be the husband of one. Thank you very much.
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@balasri (26577)
• India
15 Feb 08
The beauty - Isn't she lovely?
A very good discussion, Mimpi. At the first glance it looked like a very tough question. But it took only a couple of seconds to realize that I find my child is thee most beautiful thing in the world to me. The reason is simple because I see my wife in every inch of her. She is the other form of my mother and wife combined in looks and affection. So it is so obvious that the creator is so proud to proclaim that his creation is the most beautiful
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
16 Feb 08
Oh Bala, you are such a wonderful person! I truly believe that it is a two way process and both the spouses have to contribute majorly. It's more of an US than YOU or ME. Your wife is a wonderful person but it's you who make her so. Have a great day.
@balasri (26577)
• India
16 Feb 08
Thanks Mimpi.Since it is your discussion I used 'Me 'knowing well that you know me.For others I could have used us which is the real thing.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
18 Feb 08
Bala, I forgot tell you about the photo. Srinidhi looks so amazing with the inquest in the eyes she is no short of a little genius.
@JJ4Ever (4704)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I'm not married and don't have children yet, but I got engaged on Valentine's Day so I'll be there soon, I'm sure! I love this discussion. It really puts a neat perspective on life. You've posed a great question. What is more attractive to me (as a wife and mother someday)? I think "husband" is wonderful. I haven't experienced it, but it'll be a great feeling calling the man I marry my "husband." It's been interesting enough getting used to calling him my fiance! (It's a great change, though!) I think later on in life, I will find that "the father of my children" will be the most attractive name for my husband. The "father" means he's their daddy and cares for them. He provides for his little ones and loves them. The "of MY children" tells that we're connected, united as one to raise our children. I don't know if that makes sense or not, but having children together and building a wonderful family is a dream of mine and such a beautiful thing. Thank you for posting such a great discussion. It's been something really fun to think about!
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
11 Mar 08
What a beautiful thought! I really appreciate you and do hope sincerely that you get all you want in life. I am glad that you understood the true essence of this discussion. A good fiance, a great husband and an unsurpassable father - what else a woman want! Thanks for responding. Have a great life ahead. *Cheers* PS: You deserve the best response.
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@JJ4Ever (4704)
• United States
11 Mar 08
You've made my day! Thank you so much for best response, my friend. This was such a wonderful discussion and definitely one I enjoyed responding to because I could really think deeply on the subject that's addressed here. Although I'm not married yet, I know what I need and want from my soon-to-be marriage as well as life in general. So many times people cannot grasp the concept of what holds such an important relationship together. I hope and pray that someday I will make as good a wife and mother as my fiance will be as a husband and father. It's funny because when I respond to discussions like this one, I find myself typing a million words a minute and sometime wonder if the person who posted the discussion can understand what I'm saying since I think of an idea and run with it. Thanks again, my friend, and keep up the good work! God bless.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
12 Mar 08
Hi dearie, I think, we share the same kinda vibes and cannot tell you how appealing your response was. I really appreciate your values and ideas. May you get all you want in life. I am glad that you responded and a person with such a big heart would not get anything short of the best life. God bless.
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@preve1984 (610)
15 Feb 08
I'm not yet wife and mother, but I believe that the most beautiful emotion for a woman is become the mother of a child.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Feb 08
Hi preve, thanks for your prompt response. I really appreciate. Yes motherhood is the most beautiful feeling. But here I want to know would you find your HUSBAND more beautiful or the FATHER of your child? Have a nice day.
@madlees (1381)
• India
15 Feb 08
It should always be Husband first and next father of my baby. From being a good husband he evolves as a good father.
15 Feb 08
Sorry! My English is not of the best... I'm Italian! bye bye!
@VAnnasamy (426)
• India
16 Feb 08
Certainly MOTHER of a child. The very word 'MOTHER' cover 'OTHER'(I mean relations)too for the child. Crowning glory is becoming motherhood and her face as well as hearts fill with joy right from the day she attains motherhood. Wife becomes MOTHER and she introduces the child as to who is the FATHER.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
18 Feb 08
This is very apt response. I really liked the MOTHER covers OTHER part. Thanks for enriching this discussion.
• India
18 Feb 08
Thanks for the appreciation and response.
• India
18 Feb 08
In this connection, I request you to go thru my poem, under a discussion, started a year ago in the name of 'MOTHER - the Best Incarnation' and comment.
• United States
17 Feb 08
Since I will Never be either or be with either this just an opinion from the outside, but I think Wife and Husband are more beautiful than Mother or Father. You can be parents and not be married. And if you marry for love, then that bond should be the foundation for what comes next.And besides there are Many married couples that will never have kids.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
22 Feb 08
Thanks for your response. However, my query was who is most perfect your wife/ husband playing the role of a partner or your wife/husband playing the role of a parent? maybe I was not clear enough. Sorry guys.
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• United States
23 Feb 08
D'oh. I am sorry. I can't answer that. I am not into being a parent or a spouse. The only thing I can say is it is up to the spouse or the other parent to choose which is more beautiful.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
23 Feb 08
Dearest sara, I can understand. It is a difficult choice in the first place. smiles...
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@vanities (11351)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 08
well i guess ..if you love somebody you married that somebody which means his the most handsome guy you met..
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
19 Feb 08
Thank you
• United States
19 Feb 08
I don't think my husband is the most good looking guy I have ever met. But I didn't marry him for his looks. I married him for who he is. Looks will fade...as I found out in the mirror this morning..I am getting more wrinkles around my eyes!
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
20 Feb 08
Hi crazylady, very well said. Looks are but ephemeral while inner beauty eternal.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
16 Feb 08
When I was married to the father of my children he was a much better father than husband. That's why now I find my second husband a much nicer and more attractive person than my children's father. Bet you didn't count on that answer.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
20 Feb 08
Thanks for the sweet reply. :-) Live laugh love...
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
20 Feb 08
You are very welcome, hun.
@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
16 Feb 08
Very very interesting and pertinent discussion. My answer would be that mother of my children is more beautiful than (she)as a wife. As a mother she knows her responsibilities very well as far as bringing up the kids is concerned. She knows in her innerself - what are needs and desires of her kids. Right from the time kids were born. She knew what they require and what are their necessities. She knows it perfectly how to fulfill those needs. She knows how to show her affection and love for the kids either through making thier favourite dish or either through buying them goodies and clothes. She knows very well what are kids' demands for material things. She has a strong bond with the children, which may not be there with the partner, because she has given birth to her children, she has suffered pain and agony during pregnancy for them (Her husband was only a 'source' to achieve her motherhood). She is attached to her children because children have 'blood relation' with her. On the other hand, no such relation (blood relation) exist between her and her partner. She knows how to be a good and responsible wife, but she knows it better how to be an affectionate and responsible mother to her children. 'Husband - wife' relationship is entirely different from 'mother - child' relationship and it cannot be compared. It is a universal fact that 'her' (mother) love for children would always be more than her love towards her husband. Before I conclude - Here is a short story - 'A woman, her brother and her husband were passing through a dense forest during night. On their way they met with some dacoits. Dacoits were very cruel, they demanded money - all three said they did not have anything. Then the leader of the dacoits got very angry and said to the woman - "We will kill one of you, so you tell us, who should be that - your husband or your brother?" The woman replied - "You may kill my husband, because me and my brother are blood relatives, I can find another husband, but I cannot find another brother." So this story sums up my reply. Hope you would have got the point, which I wanted to make. :):)
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
16 Feb 08
Deepak, this is a wonderful response. I have so ,any things to say. But just want to buy some time. Hope you will understand. H A P P Y H O L I D A Y S.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
18 Feb 08
Depak, cannot tell you how apt your response is! I knew that you would understand the true essence of it of all people and I a glad that you did. One wife can be bad but the same becomes a wonderful mother when comes to her child. Motherhood is such profound that we all can live up to it more or less. It gets easier for it comes from the core of our heart. While we cannot be a good wife unless we have the love or respect for our partners. Thanks.
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@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
19 Feb 08
Depak, Thanks for encouraging and wonderful comments. You always ...always 'motivate' me to write better and better...that is great on your part. I still hold the view that motherhood would entirely be different from husband-wife realtionship. These two relationship cannot be matched. Have a great day!
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
15 Feb 08
The chirping birds, the blossoming flower, the folowing water, the growing plants -- are all so beautiful, we hardly find time to appreciate it. Mother or wife is depends on various factors and in fact everyone looks beautiful when they speak from their heart!! If you just observe, you can make out such things and there is always a special grace on the face (glowing) when their heart, mind are clean. I had come across such beautiful people and I adore them, because everyone cannot get that. IT is a determined mind.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Feb 08
Of this is so wonderfully interpreted! Sada, this is another aspect of your personality that I got to see and I am glad that I did. Yes, a beautiful mind is always beautiful, be it a mother or a wife, a father or a husband. Determination accentuates the role he/she plays. Some great thoughts from a great mind!
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
15 Feb 08
My hats to you for your great comments and tell me is there any tiny human who is not elated by a praise. I am indeed. Thanks and take care.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Feb 08
You make me so happy Sada. You are a wonderful person indeed. Knowing you is my pleasure. smiles...
@madlees (1381)
• India
15 Feb 08
Dear Mimpi, You have asked such a beautiful question. For me my husband of 30 years is more beautiful. I can tell you why it is. I jhave seen him not only as my husband, I have seen him as aloving son to his parents, as a loving brother to his siblings and al;so as a good father to our children and last but not the least as a good husband to me , adjusting with all of my mood changes and tensions. Oh Yes , he is a very good husband and has been one all this time. The most important thing is he has been a son to my parents also. About me and how I was to him, you have to ask him..
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
15 Feb 08
Hi madlees, you have to the essence of the discussion. The person we marry is a lover and a husband and he is so good at it, as you have said. Then he becomes the father of our children and then we get to explore another face of his, which is more beautiful! I am glad that you have a wonderful life partner who can feel you even more than you do yourself. That's the beauty of it! I am even more glad to know that he is a son to your parents as well. Trust me, only a few good men on earth can actually be one. Wish you more love and life.
@madlees (1381)
• India
15 Feb 08
When he was such a darling to my parents, I fell deeper.. that's all. I was also very friendly and loving with my parents in law. Maybe that was the result which came from mutual respect we had for each other..
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
16 Feb 08
Yes, I agree, mutual admiration is the key thing and this actually has led to the bond that you are talking about. And I get that your hubby is a wonderful human of all things. I just hope you be happy forever.
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
15 Feb 08
Hello dear mimpi. I think that I am very lucky to have my wife in my life, ordinary-looking in the appearance, but very beautiful in the mind. My wife is very nice and kind to my parents and hers of course. When I am away from home, she calls to say hello and goes to pay a visit to my parents very often to check how they are getting along with their life to make sure that they are ok. I feel rested with my wife being so nice and kind to my parents. So I do not have to worry about my old parents living alone in their own apartment in the city. So based on my wife's performance, I have to say that my loved wife is the most beautiful in my family because of her beautiful mind. I think that beauty is in the mind, not in the appearance. Inner beauty is more important than the outer beauty. I have a beautiful wife. By the way, dear mimpi, I am sure that you have a beautiful hubby like I have a beautiful wife. lol
@madlees (1381)
• India
15 Feb 08
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. When we love a person his / her inner beauty counts not the outer one. This is turning out to be a very beautiful discussion. Isn't it?
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
16 Feb 08
Dearest William, I was expecting this kind of response for I already kind of know about your lovely wife and son. A wife makes a home and some ladies are terrific in giving. They would exude love and care to all. When a wife makes a father and a mother out of her husband's parents life gets so easy and beautiful that we yearn to live more. William, I am sure you contribute greatly to this loving family for it's a two way process and could not have been successful without either of the two. And I agree to you and madlees in that fact that beauty lies within and the inner self makes a man so beautiful. Thank you Sir.
• India
15 Feb 08
I enjoyed beauty of my wife in the following role. 01.On our marriage - as a beatiful girl. 02.on her pregrency- Charming Wife 03.After delivery - Loving mother 04.Caring children - Guiding mother 05.Married children - affectionate mother-in-law 06.To grand children- intimate grandma So I fell a woman gets beauty in every role. As A husband I am unable to judge which role is more beatiful.
@madlees (1381)
• India
15 Feb 08
when I asked my husband about this discussion, he also said the same things like you. One cannot choose the role with which we can interpret and comment on who is more beautiful?
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
16 Feb 08
Ganga, I get that you are a very nice person yourself and love your family very much. The response shows how beautiful a person you are from within and I really appreciate that. And ofcourse, your wife is a perfect home maker who would not give you any chance to complaint. You all have a great life ahead.
• India
13 Mar 08
first i like my mom and my father ............becoz from child wood they are taking care of me..........and given a very good life..which iam chatting with u then i go for my wife.........................................
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
13 Mar 08
Thank you.
@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
12 Mar 08
To me those are two wonderful women in my life-my mum was the first woman I ever saw-she remains the most beautiful woman in the real sense of the word, my wife just came to be the epitome of the absolute description of the woman of my life-she cares for me and raises my children-she is the one we shall live my life eternally with-she is everything to me-I dont see any significant beauty difference between these two women -but I know they are the only two women I have around my life to talk about with serious thoughtfulness and meaning-without them, my mother and my wife what would I be? Nothing I guess, Nothing completely mimpi1911
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
13 Mar 08
Very well said indeed! I really appreciate your values dear. Both your mom and wife are lucky to have you in their lives. Someone with such profound love is surely the best thing to happen to anyone. Happy living.
• United States
11 Mar 08
Not every couple become parents. Not everyone wants kids.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
12 Mar 08
Thanks.
• Canada
29 Feb 08
For me, when I love someone, there is no "more" or "less" beautiful. Everyone is special to me in their own way. While it's true I may have better relationships with some than with others, I love everyone in my family ust the same.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
5 Mar 08
I appreciate your thoughts. Thanks.
@kkanaka (887)
• Singapore
21 Feb 08
To be a good husband you should be kind, responsive, considerate, ready to lend a hand to your wife in all issues, (luckily my husband is) if you are that already... then you will make a magnificent father(more fortunately the father of my children is) So my husband is beautiful and the father of my childeren is extra beautiful...
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
22 Feb 08
That was by far the most apt response. Much appreciated and I am glad that you got my point right. Happy living.
@bellaofchaos (11553)
• United States
18 Feb 08
After I had my kids I felt the kids were the most beautiful. But I really didn't see that much of a transition with my hunny.. LOL.. They are one and the same. LOL!! I think that everyone in life is beautiful.
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
22 Feb 08
Very well said and I agree to that. lol..