talking?

United States
February 15, 2008 7:01am CST
my daughter is about 14 months old. she still doesn't talk... she can wave and do a lot of hand gestures, but no words.. sometimes it sounds like shes saying hi. she used so say bububu for bubye. but doesn't anymore.. she doesn't even say mama or dada and really mean it.. its just noises. ive always been worried about her talking.. i said something about it at her 9 month appointment, and was told i don't need to worry about it now.. at her 12 month check up i was told the hand gestures are good, and they like to hear 2 words by 1.. well she doesn't really do that.. but i was told she was ok.. but they never told me anything on HOW to help her talk, or anything.. i do the normal telling her what things are when we are doing something, or when she points.. i try to get her to say the word back, and she doesn't... shes not into the mimicking noises. shes ALWAYS been a very "vocal" baby, still is, but she doesn't ACTUALLY say anything. im not used to this, because phycially shes always been ahead, but not with her speech.. does anyone have experience with this? comforting words, tips?
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@gemini_rose (16194)
15 Feb 08
To be honest with you I wouldnt worry about it, she sounds normal to me. I mean if she was 2 or more and not saying clear words then yes it may be something to worry about, but the fact thats she is making noises is her talking, you just cant make sense of it yet! My daughter didnt say mummy or daddy til she was about 16 months, she is 2 now and is just starting to talk more and more clearer. Dont forget all children develop at different ages and some quicker than others. I just talk to mine all the time about absolutely everything, non stop!! She will do it when shes ready, they are not daft children and she probably knows you want her to talk so doesnt!
• United States
15 Feb 08
i defiantly wouldn't doubt that shes not talking because i want her to so bad.. she was like that with walking.. she took her first step at 10 month, at 12 months she was only taking 5 steps, and finally shes walking. not full time, but shes almost there.. by 12 months i gave up on trying to get her to walk and thats when she started walking more lol. it took her 4 month to walk lol and i wanted her to SO bad hahah i found it soo much easier to take care of a child that could talk, and understand me. it was awesome that i could ask her a question and she would answer.. it was nice and not a guessing game.. but she was 18 months old, and i have ALWAYS compared my daughter with her, but its crazy what 6 months can do to a child.
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• Philippines
15 Feb 08
my nephew is turning 2yrs old on april. and he's still not talking. though sometimes we hear him say "wow" or "ish" (fish i think) we were actually worried about him still not being able to talk. but then his pediatrician said that it's normal for boys to be very late in developing the skill (speaking/talking) all we hear from him were those funny sounds that we really can't make out. don't worry. your daughter will start mumbling those long awaited words. maybe she's still collecting the words and later on you'll be surprised to hear her recite the ABC. talk to her often. not baby-talk but real talk as you would a grown up.
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• United States
15 Feb 08
hah she does wow too! its the cutest lol i defiantly talk to her LOT lol me and my bf do, and i HATE baby talk its soo annoying my sister does it all the time, and i just wanna tell her TALK RIGHT or she will learn how to say things wrong. shes starting to understnad concepts a lot better, i show her how to do something and she understands the first time.. i think talking will come soon, but im sooo impatient... my friends daughter is 18 months and can almost speak full sentences... so its aggravating. i baby sat her and now all i want my daughter to do it talk, its soo much easier.
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@kwenge (2492)
• Kenya
15 Feb 08
Hey potato****, I have no kids yet but let me ask you.........Is this your first borne? I guess so. Don't get worried about her speech this soon, other kids develop fast in other areas while some areas they don't. Like your daugheter she is developing fast physically and not in speech, I have a nephew who started talking at 10 months but started walking at 16 months, it was kinda funny but we came to understand, now his brother is the opposite, he has grown big, walked but his speech is slow......... Just keep talking to your little angel word by word and soon she is gonna surprise you. Good luck.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
15 Feb 08
like they have said, don't worry too much about it. they will start talking at their own pace. my sister's son is aorund 17 or 18 mths now and he still can't talk. he will try to mimic but it all sounds like ahh ahh, something like that. :) i'm not even sure when my son started talking though i think definitely not early. he also always used to shout or whine but words didn't form that fast i think. as for helping her to talk, she usually picks it up on her own but you can try simple words like mummy daddy pointing to yourself and your husband. after some time, she'll understand what to call you guys and will start slowly. don't worry too much over it. this is normal for kids. each kid like i said earlier, will develop at his/her own pace.
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@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
15 Feb 08
grins, yes they'll probably just tell you to talk to her. haha and try not to expect too much. she's still young. my son, who's turning 5 this year, still talks in such a way that sometimes i have difficulty understanding him. so i basically just say yes and agree with him or jus say ohh really? like that and he seems satisfied. even when he was around your daughter's age, i seem to remember just trying to talk to him in his own baby language. he will actually try to converse with you but of course, it's nothing that we can decipher. hehehe but you can still ask your doctors to still your worrying heart. best of luck.
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@anniepa (27159)
• United States
6 Mar 08
You have absolutely nothing to worry about, Hon! Guidelines you're given about when a baby should start doing certain things are just that - guidelines - and can vary enormously. Some do some things well ahead of the "norm" and other things slightly later, it's perfectly normal and nothing to be concerned about. I remember being so anxious for my daughter to start talking and a lot of people said I'd wish she'd stop once she started, so never fear, she'll be talking your ear off any day! Just talk to her, read to her, let her listen to music and watch appropriate TV shows and movies and she'll start picking up everything she hears soon enough. Annie
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@dtroas (481)
• United States
2 Mar 08
That can be normal, my brothers son did not start talking until he was about 16 mts old. Then all kinds of things came out of this mouth. LOL, in time she will.
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@bellaofchaos (11553)
• United States
18 Feb 08
First off don't worry to much if you are worried you can have a speech therapist come and test you daughter to make sure that she is right on developementally on par with talking. I think that every child is different most of mine where chatter boxes from the time they could make noise. Myyoungest took the longest to speak I think it was 1 1/2 yrs before she wanted to speak. Your daughter just might not have anything to say.. I wouldn't worry about it. Kids all develope differently.
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@lilybug (21182)
• United States
15 Feb 08
My daughter will be 13 months old next week and she is a little talking fool. It is a lot of babbling still, but she throws a lot of real words in there too. She knows mom, dada, puppy, kitty cat, plate, touch, red, get it, yes, no, to name a few. My son however did not talk much until he was 3 years old. Until he was 3 he only knew a few words. He was smart and knew what everything was, but he would not say them. Here is is 8 years old now and you are lucky if you can get him to shut his mouth. I would not worry about it yet. She will talk when she is ready. If she is doing hand gestures and babbling she is fine.
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@chrysz (1604)
• Philippines
15 Feb 08
Speech usually is the last and hard to difficult among infants. I know somebosy who asn't talk or babble a sound until he is three but now he is prefectly normal. Don't get too upset about that. My 5 months old baby now makesnoises but my eldest started producing noises (moans, ahh go, etc)when she was bout 10 months. Development varies and we cannot hasten it the way we want it to be. The best thing we could do is never lose hope and continue teaching and getting their attention the way we always do it.
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@Swaana (1208)
• India
15 Feb 08
Hi, actually it is absolutely ok. But as you are so concerned, I would suggest you to keep talking to her. Not just pointing out things and naming them. But in full sentences. Talk to her as if she is responding you back. Some kids talk early very early and some kids dont talk even after 2. Take her out to play with kids a bit older her age. She will understand what they are talking and will want to respond back to them even if she is not responding you. This way she will learn real well. Keep going and dont worry.
• United States
15 Feb 08
hmm thats a good idea!! she has ALWAYS learned well by watching other kids, thats how she crawled and walked... but we dont know many kids that can actually talk.. most are only a few months older then her :(
@Swaana (1208)
• India
15 Feb 08
still then that is ok. If you dont know how that is possible, take her to a park or place where there will be lots of kids moving around. Even if the kids are a bit older then too your daughter will learn very fast.
@ebsharer (5519)
• United States
15 Feb 08
My daughter is 14 months too, so I can realte to what you go going through. My daughter said her first word at 9 months "dog" every thing was dog. Now she says daa (dad) she won't call me ma inless she is crying then it goes some thing like mamammamam which sounds more like a whine then ma. She does call me da too. I thought kids started forming more words aound this age. She seems like she wants to talk. Its like she tries. She will talk in mumbo jumbo nothing even close to a word and think you can understand her but I can't. I noticed some thing on my part. If she points to some thing I give it to her. I have started to tell her what I am giving her. Like bottle or sippy cup. Her doctor said at her last check up that its okay for her not to talk yet, that she will get there when she is ready. My daughter is very smart in that if she wants some thing she gets it ... a diaper sippy (juice) bottle (milk) She knows what words are too like if I say go get a diaper she will go get it. I know she will talk and I know that once she does I will want her to stop lol, it will happen in time. Sorry if I didn't help you I really don't have any actualy advice just the same story.
• United States
15 Feb 08
hah no you helped, because it defiantly seems like you daughter is the same as mine.. its funny you say her first word was dog, because thats the first thing she did, bark like a dog lol sometimes i think she does say dog, but who knows.. i think its sooo funny when she looks right at me and talks does little hand movements like she having a conversation with me, but i have NO idea what shes saying lol but thats the same as my daughter does, she points, i tell her what it is.. try to get her to repeat me.. she doesn't lol
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@ebsharer (5519)
• United States
15 Feb 08
Its funny because my daughter will "talk" to the dog. She will stand there and babble on and on. Some times I think the dog talks back lol becuase Luann will stop talking and then start again like the dog responded in that time. Just remember its just as agervating to our kids as it is to us that they can't tell us what they want. They obvously want to and probably think they are when they are standing there looking up at us with such expression babbling away and using there hands to talk. Its soo cute as much as I want her to really talk I will miss the babbles.
@shaggin (32577)
• United States
16 Feb 08
I know that when children begin reaching physical milestones it can take all there effort basically to accomplish that so it will delay there speech. Its nothing to worry about she will come around in her own time when she is ready to start forming words. Does she seem to hear ok?
• United States
17 Feb 08
hearing is ok with her.. she will respond when i talk to her, or try to get her attention.. so i dont THINK hearing is a problem. if she still doesnt talk in a while i think i will see about hearing and stuff
@pumpkinjam (5750)
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 08
If she is doing lots of other things then talking is just not what she wants yo concentrate on. I had a similar problem with my youngest son. Not with talking, but with walking. He did npot walk until he was 23 months old. I did not worry because he was doing everything else so well. Your daughter might be the opposite. ie. my son was saying his first real words long before he was 1 but he was almost 2 when he could walk and your daughter may be developing physically first. I think the thing about not walking/talking is that they are two of the main things we expect from our children. No one notices too much if, for example, a two year old can't catch a ball, but they do notice if they don't talk well. It's good that your daughter can use hand gestures. I also had the opposite problem there. My son could talk so well that he just asked for what he wanted and never really had to move for any reason! And maybe your daughter thinks she doesn't need to say anything because you know what she means by actions. The best way you can help her is by talking to her as much as you can. Read lots of stories with her and ask her questions by looking at the book again and asking who the characters are in the pictures, etc. She will get there when she is ready. Sometimes we forget just how many things little people need to learn but when we think about it, we should realise that they can't be good at everything! It's just that some children are capable of more but not necessarily better. I mean, there are kids the same age as mine who could do everything at the "right" time but were only average at everything whereas, for example, my 2 year old can have an intelligent conversation and is more easily understood that many older children but he is still 6 months behind with walking.
• United Kingdom
16 Feb 08
I just wanted to add, my older son walked at 9 months but did not talk very well until he was about 2. Well, I think he was a little below average and still at 8, I sometimes wonder if he has a speech problem. So, it is just a matter of what they are ready for at the time. The only reason you should be worried is if a child is not doing anything but they all develop in their own way and your child has apparently chosen physical development first!
@Sillychick (3282)
• United States
15 Feb 08
The best way to help her learn to talk is to talk to her- all the time. Read books, tell her what you are doing, ask her questions. When she gestures or tries to communicate in other ways, say the words. Let her see you, so she can see the mouth and face movements. It is not uncommon for a 14 month old to not be talking. If she is trying to communicate, and if you see she is making some progress, that is good. If you don't feel she is making any progress at all, tell her doctor. If you don't feel like her doctor is listening or taking you seriously, get a second opinion. My son was saying a lot of words, and then stopped saying them, but picked up new words, so that is not uncommon either, that she stopped saying some words. If her speech is not clear, at some point it may be beneficial to have a speech evaluation. I know that sounds scary, but the good news is that if the evaluation recommends speech therapy, if she starts now, she could well be caught up to her peers by age 2. It is also very common for young children to be ahead in some areas, and behind in others. Most children are like that. And most even out by about age 3. As I said, if she is even making a little progress, that's a good sign, and you should simply continue speaking and reading to her often. You can get a sense of how her receptive language skills are doing by asking her to point to things. When you are reading a book, ask her to point to pictures in the book, ask her to show you body parts- nose, ear, hair, etc. If she understands what she hears, that will go a long way toward her progress in speech.
• United States
16 Feb 08
i talk to her lots, and she definatly understands me most the time.. she has done a lot of the say something, and then just stop doing it. i just got back from my parents house, and i swear things we have been TRYING to teach her she does first time asked with my mom.. i get soo annoyed.. she did that with clapping, and peekaboo with her own hands. just soo many things she does for my mom but wont for me. but i find with the other interaction with my mom she may think OH ok my mom isnt so crazy if my grandma is trying to get me to do it too! she talks to my mom and will actually say the word.. not clearly, but she is saying it.
@Hatley (163755)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Mar 08
I am sure you probably already had thought of this and had it done but did you have her hearing checked. she might be slightly deaf and that might impede her talking.but if you weretold at her checkup not to worry than its okay. do you just get things she wants when she points often a baby will not bother to talk if she can get what she wants just by pointing. keep saying the name for what she points at and I bet sooner or later she will come up with the word so asto get what she wants. hope this helps
@SViswan (12095)
• India
18 Feb 08
My younger son is 14 months old and he doesn't say too many words either. He's been saying 'acha' (for daddy in our language) for quite a while now...but 'amma' came much later. Everything else has hand gestures and he says 'edukku' for various things he needs. That's about all he says. Like your daughter he is very vocal,...but isn't really saying anything. But compared to my older son who is 7 now, the little one is faster in talking. The older one wasn't saying anything at all...not even noises when he was this age...and he now talks non-stop! So, I don't think you have anything to worry about, especially since the doctors have said that everything else is normal. Enjoy your baby when you can....you won't really enjoy it when she starts to speak and the first word she learns is 'No'!!! lol
@kellys3ps (3731)
• United States
17 Feb 08
The saying is walk by one and talk by two. However, all kids develop at their own pace. It is completely normal that she is not talking yet. The key is if she understands what you are telling her. Does she follow directions? If she does you shouldn't worry yet! Just wait a few months and she may scare you when she utters a complete sentence. If she doesn't have any words by 2 I would have her checked again.
• United States
17 Feb 08
All children have different time tables on this. My son didn't say one word until he was two. Once he figured out he could say "Mama", and he could actually call me and get me to do what he wanted, all the words came to him after that. He's still a bit shy even at 13 years old! My daughter on the other hand, spoke before I could figure out she was speaking... And she still, at age 10, won't stop speaking... We took away my son's pacifier thinking it was preventing speech when he was 2. Maybe it was! He'd have it in his mouth all day... But then again, he's just naturally like that, even today - he's just not real verbal.
• United States
17 Feb 08
I wouldn't worry about it. Everybody develops at their own rate, so one of the worst things to do (in my mind) is to compare him or her to someone else. As long as she can understand you and find a way to communicate, you should be fine. After all, speaking is only one small form of communication.
@vanities (11351)
• Davao, Philippines
17 Feb 08
yeah my first born a son,,hes one year or so that time and cant even say mama or papa but hes uttering different words which i cant comprehend..he was a late bloomer i guess...but after 2 years old he can utter some audible words such as mama or papa and other words that are easy to say..