Do you think is right for rich people to accept money from others?

@Mirita (2668)
United States
February 15, 2008 2:53pm CST
Well, my sister-in-law is married to a rich guy in the Philippines and was staying with us for vacation,but her husband sent her here with only a one way ticket. Well, she wanted to go home after several months and her husband would not send her a ticket to go back to the Philippines. At first she told me that her husband would pay me back for the ticket and to go ahead and get her a ticket ,so it would be faster. Well, she is already in the Philippines and until now he hasn't pay me back. Should I wait for her to get the money from her husband or should I contact him myself to request payment. I charged the ticket to my credit card ,and I think is not fair to put us in this situation. What do you guys think?
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@dvschic (1796)
• United States
15 Feb 08
i would call and ask for the money back, i think its horrible that he not only sent her with a one way ticket but just left her on the hook. plus, the money means something different to them, being rich, than it does to you. they aren't used to worrying bout lil sums like that so he probably just forgot.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I talked to her like a week ago ,and she assure me that she would get the money ,but I have my doubts.
@dvschic (1796)
• United States
15 Feb 08
tell your husband to deal with it, since its his sister? and just keep insisting!
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
15 Feb 08
Yes, I think is best that he deals directly with her because I'm loosing my temper.
• United States
15 Feb 08
I would contact her. You really don't know if he ever said he would repay the money you spent on the ticket so contacting him may be the first time he is ever hearing of it. Contact her and tell her that you are in kind of a spot and if she could get the money to you as soon as possible it would be appreciated. My fiancee makes a lot of money and I ended up paying for my sister to move back in December. My dad is supposed to pay me back but when I brought it up to him he said he didn't think he needed to pay me back right away because "I had money". It made me mad he thought that just because my sweetie has a great job that means that I wouldn't be missing the $300 I shelled out for my sister. I got my first part of that repayment just today in a card he sent me for Valentines Day. So I would bring it up to her as soon as possible before she thinks you are going to let it go.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
15 Feb 08
Well, they think that because we live in the states that we have lots of money ,but I already told her that I'm not rich like her family.
@kykidd (6819)
• United States
15 Feb 08
Oh I think I'd definitely be giving him a call. Unless she has stated a date or some time that she is going to come up with the money. Otherwise, it doesn't sound like she is making any effort.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
15 Feb 08
She never mentioned any particular date except that she would pay me back ,but is taking too long.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
17 Feb 08
Well, I guess the 2 main questions that would come to my mind is 1)Why would he not send her a ticket to come home? Did he not want her there anymore? You said he is rich so it wasn't that he couldn't afford it. That would definately make me wonder. and 2)Why would anyone take a trip to visit someone and only get a one way ticket? If I was going to visit family up North then I'd get a round trip ticket...even if your unsure of your return date you can have an open ticket (no return date filled in). That would make me wonder too. As far as her paying you back, if her husband didn't want to pay for the ticket in the first place, I wouldn't have trusted her when she said he'd pay it back. After all, if he was going to pay you back, why wouldn't he just pay for the ticket outright? I'm afraid you might have to chalk it up to a hard lesson learned. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
17 Feb 08
This is exactly what I told her when she was here that it was ridiculous to get only one way ticket. This man is not going to get away from paying his wife's ticket because he is very rich and I'll make sure that he is bother every day if necessary. This is his responsability and he has no choice than to pay me back.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
17 Feb 08
I'm confused. You said this is your sister-in-law...that would make her husband your brother? **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
18 Feb 08
She is my husband's sister.
@sang2k2 (1834)
• India
14 Sep 08
its always seen and noticed by me these kind of situations where the rich people always tend to grab someone elses money by these kind of forceful means where in one cant even say a no. juz find a suitable situation and talk to ur sister in law, dont make it very obvious that you have called for juz getting the money, talk to her normally and than juz tell her that you going thru a little cash crunch and so you need to repay those bills of credit card which you had spent for her return tickets ..she mite get the signal herself and than you can ask her to deposit the money to your bank accounts. did you felt furious when she asked for the tickets.. take care and calm down
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
14 Sep 08
She is only a housewife and the guy doesn't even give her enough money. He has a mistress and it looks that he doesn't care for her. I tried talking to her husband and explain to him that I had to pay the credit card back ,and he told me that he would not pay me a cent. She is already applying for a legal separation ,so hopefully things will change.
@sang2k2 (1834)
• India
15 Sep 08
juz be calm and pray to god to give you your right.
@Betty34 (267)
• United States
16 Feb 08
I also think it is not fair to expect you to pay for the ticket. And you should be repaid. Especially if the guy is rich. It sounds like she doesn't want to ask for the payment from him almost? B
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
16 Feb 08
Yes, she has very low self-esteen and she acts like she is so poor. I'll ask her first and if I don't get results My husband will ask her husband.
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@Betty34 (267)
• United States
17 Feb 08
That's the way to do it, Kudos! :) B
@joyce959 (1562)
• Philippines
17 Feb 08
Your sister was sent there with you with a one way ticket and did not want to send a return ticket. What does that mean? I guess her husband is getting rid of her. What you can do is call the husband directly and ask what has been going on and ask him for the payment of the ticket used by his wife which you charged on your credit card. But you should be ready for whatever answer he will give. I think the wife and husband don't have plans of paying you back, otherwise they may have done it soon.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
17 Feb 08
Well, first she is my sister in-law and our decision is to call the husband to ask for payment because I also agree with you that he was trying to get rid of her. We are not going to leave him alone until he pays.
@tanujarneja (2834)
• India
16 Feb 08
i think so you should not ask for it its not a matter of money but its matter of courtesy, its not a big amount that you cant afford SO just leave it off
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
16 Feb 08
The problem is that is a big amount and she knew that I had to charge it on my credit card. Is not fair to end up with a big amount like this when her husband has a lot of money. IF she was poor, I would sacrifice.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
16 Feb 08
To me it sounds as if your sisters husband was trying to ditch her off on to you. If my husband sent me anywhere with just a one-way ticket, I'd have to question that. I think you should call the husband and ask him just what is going on.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
16 Feb 08
Yes, I think that he was trying to get rid off her ,and his plans failed.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
16 Feb 08
I think you should ask your sister-in-law first for payment. It's a debt and should be paid. Especially it is earning interest. If she still did not pay, better ask her husband for payment. If he is really rich, then it will be easy for him to pay you back.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
16 Feb 08
Yes, this guy is very rich and for him is just pocket money and he should be ashamed of himself for taking his time.
• United States
16 Feb 08
Why would her husband send her on vacation with only a one-way ticket? Does he love your sister-in-law or is he just cheap? You're right, it waasn't fair for husband to not pay you back at least. Is it a Phillippine thing that the woman's family pays for everything or is it him? Sounds strange. Good luck. :)
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
16 Feb 08
Yes, this is exactly what I told her. Is very stupid to travel with just one way ticket since is even cheaper to get a two way ticket. The guy has a mistress in the Philippines ,so maybe this is why.
@cpack27 (16)
• United States
16 Feb 08
I would ask your sister one more time. Sound like they may be having some problems. If she don't respone soon i would ask him fo rthe money. Let him know you really didn't have the money to put out. Which you didn't because you put it on a card and the card is due. your paying the interest on the card. Well he pay take too.?
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
16 Feb 08
Yes, That's exactly how I feel since I had to charge this amount on my credit card.
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
15 Feb 08
what i think is that should get your money back as soon as possible because everyone needs money nowadays. if you and the guy you lent your money to had an agreement of the payment at a certain time or condition and that condition or the deadline is due or met, you should really start reep what you planted. what i mean about this comment is that you should really start to bug the hell out of him to pay you because he made a promise to pay you back and now he won't pay you back, plus you charged the plane ticket with your credit card and credit cards charge you with a high interest. i see a problem here. what you should do is to charge the person you lent the money to the capital money plus the interest of the credit card you are paying. this is the smartest thing to do if you ask a smart person like me. don't let this smart advice go away. have the courage to get your money back by all means. remember! this is your money, and you put hard work to get it. there's no such thing as a free lunch.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
15 Feb 08
Yes, is very inconsiderate of them to take their time paying me back when they know that I had to charged this payment on my credit card. Don't worry I'll fight for my money because to them this is just pocket money ,but to me is a lot of money.
• United States
15 Feb 08
Do you think is right for rich people to accept money from others? Yes if they are offered it why not. Just because they are rich does not mean they have enough of it. That is speaking of rich people Not your family.. As for the situation with the brother in law. If he has not made the effort to call you.Then you talked to the sister and she says xyz. You will not be doing any harm bay calling this man yourself. The problem is do you want to resort to fighting with your family over that ticket? Or can that be something you write off as a gift to your sister. Learning from this never to do it again. Money is strange and always a problem. I have it as well. But not as much as I am guessing this is.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
15 Feb 08
To me family is more important than money ,but there is a line between being good or stupid. If a person gives you their word that they will paid is only right that they pay you back. If she was poor it would be okay to give this gift to her ,but otherwise is money wasted. To me money should be used to help the poor and the sick ,but not to do any favors to rich people who don't need it in the first place.