parents of serial killers are they to blame,

@winterose (39931)
Canada
February 18, 2008 5:28pm CST
I remember reading how the parents of Jeffrey Dalmer, the famous serial killer felt so bad, they had no idea what their son was up to, and then blamed themselves after the fact, if only they had noticed he play with bones as a child, maybe they could have gotten him help in time, is one of the things they said. Do you think that parents are responsible for serial killers? I am a trained counsellor and I am not convinced it is the parents who are at fault, they may have contributed if they were neglectful abusive parents but if they were loving decent parents the problems were generated else where, - a biological malfunction - social pressures - experiences with peers, teachers, friends, etc and could also include the parents, but my point is not the parents alone. what do you think?
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• United States
18 Feb 08
Hell! to the NO! if my daughter went out and shot up a host of people. That would not be my faught. Now If I had neglected her mentally and she had fended for herself all her life. I would say I helped to her stability being shot. But,no one should be blamed for their kids doing these horrid acts. NO! NO! NO! Now I know of a parent in my family who upholds some illegal behavior.
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• United States
26 Feb 08
Well thanks for letting me know. I am sure grateful to have received it. Thats winterose.
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@ladym33 (11009)
• United States
18 Jan 09
Maybe they are maybe they are not. By that I mean, I do believe that there are parents who are to blame, but there are also parents who do everything right and it still happens. Some people have mental illness and while a parent can keep them on meds and everything they need to control it when they are chidren, once those children becomes an adult there is not much really that the parents can do anymore. Plus there are times when things in someone's environment cause them to snap. I don't know if those are the ones that become serial killers, as I think that serial killers are deeply disturbed, and very, very sick. The most parents are to blame for them is not keeping them in institutions where they can not harm others, but there is not much the parents can do about a very deeply disturbed mind, but then again I believe that some people become that way because of how they were raised. So my answer is yes and no. Yes some parents are to blame, in other cases mental illness is to blame.
@winterose (39931)
• Canada
19 Jan 09
it is both, they have to be inclined like having the gene, they call it biologically prediposed, and a bad environment that brings out the worst in people, the same for some other mental disorders schizophrenia.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
18 Jan 09
I will say parent is one of the contributing factors in the actions of their child later on, if you have investigated the background of all the known serial killers, many did actually have bad childhood experiences,or came from neglecting family, or has history of abusive parent, that play a part in shaping their character and mind set toward society at large from formative year to adult. When the combination of other factors like lackluster law enforcement agency , existence of greater window of opportunity, lack of sophisticated forensic science, less value on human life by society,or even leniency on convicted killers by law makers and etc..arrived at the right moment, killer will get the chance to become a serial killer.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
19 Jan 09
very good assessment of the situation
@deebomb (15347)
• United States
16 Jan 09
Sometimes it might be a parents fault if they are cruel to a child. But a lot of children grow up to be very productive adults and they were treated horribly by their parents. I believe that there are just plain evil people out there and that there are no out side influences to cause them to become serial killers. These peo-ple are born evil and there is nothing that can change them before they become evil..
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
17 Jan 09
as a trained professional in psychology I would have to say that it is both, inside and outside influences, but without the inside influences on the genes etc, the outside influence alone is not enough. But having said that in extreme cases it can
@ronaldinu (12454)
• Malta
16 Jan 09
When such horrible happen everybody becomes a professional psychologist trying to determine why such things have happened. I don't think it is the parent's fault. Although the upbringing does have a real weight on the child development later on in life. But I do think that social factors play a major role on people's decisions.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
17 Jan 09
very true and I am a trained professional, there are special profilers that chart out the type of person these people are but somethings are the same as normal people such as usual very shy and keep to themselves, well you know that describes half the population on this planet, and once I had a very shy friend who got very distressed when he read that because he said they could have been describing him
@MsTickle (24782)
• Australia
25 Feb 08
We are all of us much wiser after the fact aren't we. I find it pretty useless to blame parents per se. You just find you should blame the parents of the parents and then their parents before that and so on. Unless a couple are going to go and do a couple of years study on how to successfully raise a decent child it's a moot point in my opinion.
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• Philippines
19 Feb 08
Well, its a case to case basis. Parents who were abusive of their children are to be blamed. Some of them (serial killers) had bad experiences most especially in their childhood at their homes. However, peer pressure and to cope with society's expectations may also be one of the reasons, it may also be caused by depression or disappointment of things they really had high regard with. Parents should monitor their children's activities most especially in their teen years as most of these behaviors develop during these years.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
19 Feb 08
I really don't think all of the parents are to blame but some of them are in how they raise their children. I think children that are raised in abnormal families would have a tendency to be more violent than children in normal families, but sometimes it does not matter how we as parents raise our children, they tend to be whatever they want to be no matter how they are raised, but chances are if they are raised in a good family, then they have better chances to lead a good life.
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