How do you feel when people give you the "cold" treatment?

United States
February 18, 2008 7:59pm CST
How do you feel if people give you the "cold" treatment and treat you less then human? Have you ever had this happen? What do you do? I, myself, first approach them about their mannerisms..then I hand it over to Jesus. I have been told that some people are not even happy with themselves.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
19 Feb 08
I think you are probably right on this, littlefranc... I had a boyfriend that always gave me the cold shoulder...silent treatment. I never knew what I'd done but I often appologized just to end the estrangement. After a time, it ate at my confidence. I looked at him and told him that the next time that he gave me the silent treatment that I was leaving. It did not happen for a long time after that. He said he did not want to lose me. then it happened again. I refused to appologize to a crime that I had no clue of. The silence went on for 8 months. I moved out. To this day, he tells my (our) daughter that he loves me. I don't understand it still but have come to realize that the problem is something within him. I have moved on and am relatively happy in my life. He does not seem happy at all.
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• United States
19 Feb 08
The key for a long lasting relationship is not the lack of disagreements but the lack of communication and openness..Disagreements and mini fights maybe even sometimes bigger ones will happen..but when people stop communicating..with each other..the imagination starts to talk and builds a chasm between them so that after a while they are unable to reach each other.. Communication and openness saves many a relationship and family ..but lack of it..tears them apart.
@punlonnjack (1309)
• United States
19 Feb 08
remember that old saying kill em with kindness. i do my best to make them smile cause sometimes people need a little help.they maybe having a bad day and it may have nothing to do with you.althought there are some people you just cant break and i just feel sorry for them and hope someday they will be happy.i try not to take it personally. i know sometimes it hard though.
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• United States
19 Feb 08
Yes..we gotta kill em with kindness..lol .. hopefully though we don't really kill em..too much of a good thing can cause a stomach ache.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
6 Jun 08
My ex-b/f and his mom used to do this to me all the time and it drove me nuts. It's so childish. One of them would get mad about something and the next thing you knew I wouldn't have a dinner plate on the table with the rest of them, no one would give me phone messages or they'd walk in the room and turn the channel like I wasn't even there. When I'd say something about it they'd ignore me and pretend I wasn't there. Thankfully, I'm away from all that now. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
I feel bad and guilty.. but sometimes cold treatment gives them lessons too for them to change and help them realise that they were so wrong.
@casita (237)
• United States
2 Apr 08
When people treat me that way I realize that it is just a part of their own personal evolution. Unless I have treated them in a way that they didn't like. . .offered a different point of view on a subject. . .or something like that. . . . . .well, it's really all about them. I can't control how others behave. I can only control me. . .and sometimes not even that! And it's true that some are not happy with themselves. Quite often, treating others poorly really is only a reflection of themselves. . hence, a part of their own personla evolution.
@KrauseHome (35277)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Well, a lot of times, it depends on how well I know them or not. If I do not know them that well, I might pretty much just ignore them, and say nothing. But in a case a couple of months back at work with someone I work with, I asked her what she had against me, and left it at that. Problem was she said she did not know me due to we just barely overlap shifts for 1/2 hr. before I get off work. But since then, things are a little better. But how can you not help Pray for them for God to open up their eyes some to what they are doing? And yes, there are many in life that are not Happy with themselves, so they feel if they cut down others, this justifies themselves and makes them a better person when in reality, it is only hurting them.
@clinsbull (194)
• China
1 Mar 08
the cold treatment ?i think it was happend to me all long time .some people to do it give u cold treatment ,but some people have a hurt u mind ,excurly,somewhere is different for me .i am live in north west of china,there are people that so cold ,but when i got to the southward ,the people is very hot for me.finally ,when i was happy ,i feel good whether the people to do by me.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
19 Feb 08
lol...I have to say I never notice it till someone else points it out to me. As far as I know, it's happened only with one family and thinking back, I realize what a fool I was because I didn't understand. Another friend pointed it out to me and then I felt like a bigger fool.
• Malaysia
19 Feb 08
no one wants to be given the cold treatment by anybody…that really hurts and make you feel unwanted, unappreciated etc…you'll be wondering what you've done to deserve that kind of treatment. Depending on who the person is, if he/she treats me coldly I'll ask why, if not i'll just ignore and still try to be nice (if i can! haha)