Do u think your friends respond to your discussion as much as you do?

@subha12 (18463)
India
February 18, 2008 10:24pm CST
In mylot do you think that your friends also respond to your discussions as much as you do to their discussions? In my case i must admit there are few who answers most of my discussions. For few friends I have seen I respond to most of their discussions while they do not to mine? Are your friends also like this?
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• Singapore
19 Feb 08
I think it is not right to think of myLot friendship as a total exchange. That would be like, ok, today, I answered 2 of your discussions. I expect that you answer 2 of mine within the next 24hours. You see how "weird" that sounds? Further to that, your discussion may not appeal to your "friends" and they might have nothing to add. Also, there might be times when you yourself can't seem to respond to any of their discussions - does this mean they should refrain from responding to yours since you did not first respond to them? I think we are all here for fun. Just answer whatever discussion you fancy and as much as your time allows. And when you post discussions, just hope your topic would appeal AND your friends (or others) are free AND have things to add to your topics. Don't think too hard, my friend. Life is not meant to be complicated. J/K:P
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• United States
19 Feb 08
That is a very nice way to put it. : I have not seen your user name in a while.. :) Enjoy your night.
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• Singapore
19 Feb 08
Yup, I am not active here anymore.:P
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@cydzzj (356)
• Australia
19 Feb 08
I usually respond my friends discussions as much as possible especially some things I'm really interest in. But there are also some discussions I didn't respond. Because some discussions I really have no idea to talk about them. And another important reason is my English is not good. Sometimes I did not know how to respond them in English. That's also the reason I come here. I just want stay with mylot as long as possible. And improve my English as much as I can.
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@aseretdd (13712)
• Philippines
19 Feb 08
I have more than 100 friends in my list but only a handful would respond to my discussions... well i can't blame the others since they have their own reasons not to... I only start one or two discussion a day... and sometimes i don't even start one... so i can understand if they cannot relate to my discussion... But for some of my friends who start like almost 10 a day... i only choose 2 or 3 to respond to... it would be very difficult for me to respond to all... since i still have other friends' discussion to check out...
• United States
19 Feb 08
I have noticed a few of them that are helping me a lot. I have no method to answering my posts. I do like to follow a friend when they are going at it good. I have done that a few times. Than I will see a friend who responds to a few of mine. I will go to their profile and respond to a few of the posts they start. If I don't have anything to add I have to pass it by. Just as they do when i post and they have noting to add. :)
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@raijin (10380)
• Philippines
19 Feb 08
I don't expect that much from my friends responding on my discussions here, it'll only frustrate me and affect my time of enjoyment here. As long as I receive a response, no matter how many it is then I'm thankful enough. Besides, I mostly enjoy responding here than creating or starting my own discussions. I also don't know if it's that interesting, hard or low-quality topics that I post, but I don't really worry much about it. As long as they (friends) provide me good discussions to respond at and that they also comment under my responses, then I don't see any problem having a great time here..
• United States
19 Feb 08
It definitely goes both ways with my friends. I know that when I go to the home page, I always look at the discussions by my friend first. Then I move on to the categories. I have seen that a lot of the same people respond to my discussions. I know that they are people who are on my friends list. It's only fair to do the same for them.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
19 Feb 08
I try to respond to most of my friends disscussions as long as I know I can answer the disscussion right. I get a little aggervarted when others don't answer my discussions but I figure they are either busy or it doesn't apply to them so i understand.
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@Saicows (113)
• Brazil
19 Feb 08
If you want them to respond your discussions, then you must respond theirs!!! My few friends are awsome and they always there!!!!
@JoeMel (41)
• Australia
19 Feb 08
I just try to answer all my friends' discussions if I can do it. But sometimes I found it's really difficult to do. Because some of the discussions I really have no ideas about them.
@joanana (772)
• United States
19 Feb 08
When I first joined I had a few friends who tried to respond to the discussions I started, but only a few. Most seemed to expect me to follow theirs without ever reciprocating. I even had a oh-so-very-nice message demanding to know why I wasn't posting on their latest discussions. Never mind that I had yet to see them step foot in more than one discussion with something more worth while than a "I don't really relate to this but I agree" sort of comment. Most of my friends seemed to have gone inactive while I was away, and I know several stopped checking my discussions since I was inactive for a very long time. :) But for the most part, I like to check on my friends and see if they've started a discussion I can relate to as well as comment on. I don't always get the same in return, but hey, que sera sera (what will be, will be).
• India
19 Feb 08
Hi subha12, I don't expect both.I will respond to my friend's discussion only if the topic interests me and I expect the same with my friends also.I don't expect that all my topics should be responded my friends. Good Luck.
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
19 Feb 08
Hello dear subha12. I did not pay much attention to that case. But I guess that those active mylotters usually respond to my discussions that can be related to them. I am much of a responder as I have much fewer discussions compared with some creative mylotters. I am very happy that I have got many friends here for different discussions that I can respond to, you included. Happy posting, dear subha.
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@vanities (11351)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Feb 08
well.. some did responded to my posted discussions and some did not but mostly its the new members who did...and i had no complain about it all...as for me i responded to those that i feel worth responding and have knowledge about it..
• India
19 Feb 08
First of all, a very heavy hi to you SUBHA12! Well, I have limited number of freinds here at mylot. All of them are very sweet and often responds to my discussions. Not all of them respond to all my discussions, but most of them respond to most of the discussions started by me. I also not respond to all of their discussions but respond to the discussions started by them that comes under my intrest or the discussions on which I think I have something useful to say.... But, wether I respond to their discussions or not, I surely give their discussions a look to find something intresting and try to respond if I can do. Hope my freinds gives my discussions a look too! But, the responses I get from my freinds on my discussions, I am pretty much sure that they gives a look too to my discussions and respond if they can..... So, I think I am satisfied with the list of my freinds and the list of their responses! Thankyou and Happy Mylotting......
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@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
25 Feb 08
I have about 260 friends...I don't respond to most of them and only about a dozen regularly respond to mine...but I fully understand that because I may not be saying anything of interest to most of them. What upsets me is that people dont respond to their own discussions. People read them and respond to them and the original poster is nowhere to be seen. Also, I try to keep my discussions open. For instance I won't discuss situations in Australia that my US friends are not familiar with...to me, that's silly.
• Indonesia
20 Feb 08
hi, actually I respond more than I start my own discussion. and I think that's fine with me, I just feel weird if my friends would have to respond my discussions when their interests are not the same. and moreover, I just don't feel that a discussion between friends should be only started by myself so that's why I rarely start my own discussion and respond to my friends'. the most important thing to me is that the discussions between my friends and me are still alive from day to day, but when I can't find something to respond, I will start my own one. if they respond, then thanks to them, but if they don't, that's okay with me as long as I can still find any alive discussion to contribute with my responses. even if it isn't my friends'.
@jesskey (45)
• Indonesia
20 Feb 08
i like Mylot Discussions. I am not more hope my discussions get a respond with my friend. I just wanna write. I like write.
• Philippines
20 Feb 08
I really do not expect that my friends here at myLot would respond to all the discussions that I post. Of course I respect their interests. I may not really be able to post discussions based on their interests or that they may not really be interested in the discussions that I post. I also think that there are those who do not really have anything to share about the topics at hand. That's just the way it is. Still, I am glad that most of them share their views and give good advice when needed.
@anonymili (3140)
19 Feb 08
Hi Subha, to be quite honest, there are a few regular friends here who respond to pretty much all of my discussions which I really do appreciate and some that respond to none at all. I don't expect all of my pals to respond to everything as my discussion topics might not relate to them at all and I don't feel obliged to answer every discussion my pals start just because they're my pals. For example, I saw a few discussions some pals started about how to discipline their children asking how the reader would treat their children if they did such and such. As I have no children, I'm in in no way able to answer those kind of questions with any authority and would not really be helping the discussion. I hope this has cleared up for you how I choose to respond to my pals' discussion. Take care hun. x
@Foxfire1875 (2011)
19 Feb 08
I don't mind as I know I don't have the exact same interests as my friends do, so I don't expect them to reply to all my discussions and I hope they know that is why I don't respond to all theirs.