I got some bad news today

@ElicBxn (60053)
United States
February 19, 2008 6:36pm CST
I learned that one of my online friends, and the only person I've ever gotten to join me here, passed away on Valentine's Day. She was a cat lover extraordinair! She was also a nice person. They are saying it was a heart attack related to her diabeties, but her other onlines friends and I think its was a broken heart. GaiaFireLynx was her mylot name. She hasn't been real active lately because of that self same broken heart. The world, if not mylot, has lost a good person.
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@kbourgerie (8775)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I didn't know your friend, being a somewhat new member on this site, but I just wanted to let you know that my thoughts are with you and that I am sincerly sorry that you lost someone who you obviously cared for.
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• United States
20 Feb 08
Well at least you have the comfort of knowing that through the internet you had the privilege of meeting someone you may never have met otherwise.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Absolutely. I feel very privilaged with all the people I have meet online. For every bad egg I've met, I have met 100s that are great people. And many of them are right here on mylot.
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@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Sounds like she was very special to you. My online friends are more family to me than most of my blood relatives.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Thank you, I do know what you mean. Gaiafirelynx was a nice lady, trying to make ends meet with a lot going against her. But she's been trying to get things back together. In the other forum that I meet her in, she will be sorely missed.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
20 Feb 08
You have my sympathy for losing someone you care about. Good friends are few and far between....true ones that you can depend on! The world has lost another good person..and that is very sad!
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I never got to meet Gaia in person, but I'd had a long distance, email/message board relationship with her for the last 3 years. I've tried to be supportive of her recent change in living conditions and help her any way I could from 1000 miles away.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
20 Feb 08
THen you truly were a good friend to her...Here's to her memory! MEMORIES There’s a silence in your life today, A place no one can share. A missing part Within your heart. For one, that was so rare. Where memories now must fill the gap For the voice you’ll never hear A soft refrain, Will now remain Just an echo in your ears. There’s sometimes disagreements, Between the people that we love. But time can heal No one can steal Great lessons from above. So when it’s time to say goodbye There is no easy way. Forgive, forget, Shrug off regret For there’s nothing left to say. There’s a silence in your life today A place no one can share. But they’re in your heart, That missing part. Great love is still so rare. Jill Holmes
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
**sniff** that brought tears to my eyes May I share that with the message board she was on?
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@AmbiePam (45853)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Oh yes, I remember her. I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Thanks AmbiePam, I hate having friends die, even long distance friends. This is the first person I've known to die this year, I can hope it'll be the only one, but I'm not holding my breath. I haven't heard if there's someone to step into take her cat.
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@AmbiePam (45853)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Yes, that would worry me too.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I'll probably be checking with the board and if I don't see anything, I'll ask.
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@Darkwing (21590)
20 Feb 08
I didn't get to meet the friend you mention, but I'm so sorry that she has gone. I'm thinking you're probably right about the broken heart theory, because Valentine's day would be a pressure day, for sure. Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of this friend, and allow me to join you in prayer for her peaceful journey to the Otherworld. Brightest Blessings.
@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
She would've really liked to meet you Darkwing. She was practicing Bastet worship and would've probably found your practices very enlightening.
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@Darkwing (21590)
20 Feb 08
Oh wow... now I feel quite bad because I may have been able to lift her had I only come across her. I guess that's easy to say in hindsight, but I really wish our paths had crossed. Still, what will be will be, I suppose. If we were fated to meet, then I'm sure we would have done. She sounds to have been a really nice person... so sad.
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• United States
20 Feb 08
Even though I do not know either of you. I wish to give you my apologies for the sad news. I am sorry to hear of the loss of your friend and hope that god has welcomed her home. Again my deepest sympathy.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Thank you keeper. I hope that is true, because she was following a path that most Christians would feel was wrong. I can only hope that he can forgive her, she did no harm, and tried to always be a good person, doing what good she could on her limited ablities.
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@trickiwoo (2703)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I am very sorry for the loss of your friend. I am very new to MyLot, so unfortunately I never got the chance to meet her, and that brings me much sadness. I am sure that she will be greatly missed.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Oh my gosh ElicBxn! Really?! I'm really saddened by the news! I'm so lost for words... The only thing I can say is, her broken heart is now mended because she's in the Lord's hands now. She's feeling more love now than she ever thought possible. God bless her. May she rest in peace.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Thanks Cats. I hope so, I really do. She'd taken so many "hits" lately that she really needs to lifted up.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Oh no this is truly sad news as Gaia was one of my on-line friends too here... I think you're so right that she probably did die of a broken heart, and I can't help suspect it was due to her cats she had. I knew she had to make the lousy decision of putting down some of her beloved cats before her move and I don't know if she had already made her move yet--I remember her telling me in a message to me three months ago (and of which I tracked down)one of the cats she had to put down was her beloved Timothy, the one who I believe was the cat nibbling on her ear on her avatar image, but she was going to keep Jezebel
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Yes, Timothy is the cat actually licking her ear in her avatar. He had a stroke 3 years ago and nearly had to be PTS then, it was a spinal stroke and only another lady on the board who's cat had also had one, talked her though that. She moved just before Christmas, she told me in early Dec she had gotten the key to the new place and was going to start moving things. I've posted a quiry on the board as to what has happened to Jezie.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I placed this on her profile page but like to share this here...Which board can you find out about Jezebel?
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I meet her on the AOL Misc cat topics message board - i'm checking it regularly and asked about Jezebel.
@pergammano (7756)
• Canada
20 Feb 08
My sincerest condolences for the loss you are feeling, and my prayers are that she is a kinder, gentler place and you will celebrate the beauty she added to your life.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
thank you pergam, she added beauty to all the world around her, even if some cruel people could never see it.
• Canada
21 Feb 08
Right now, she is sitting across the porch from God, and thanking him for lending her YOU!
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
2 Mar 08
That's very sweet of you to say, Pergammano, you brought tears to my eyes (and I don't cry easily.)
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Hi my friend. I am so sorry to hear about this. I'm sorry you lost a good friend. I feel very sad for you. I don't recall seeing her screen name here but I was gone for a while. I will keep you and her in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Thanks Steph. Gaia was my only referal, but that's not why I'll miss her. I'll miss her because she always had an upbeat thing to say to others no matter how horrible things were for her.
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
20 Feb 08
She sounds like a wanderful person. I am sorry that I did not get to meet her. From what I have read here, she did die of a broken heart because of her cats. That is so sad. I hope she is reunited with them now. That is so sad. That is why it is good to be nice to all of our friends. You never know when your number will be called. May she rest in peace now.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
That's pretty much the way I feel. That she's gone to greet her kitty friends at the Rainbow Bridge.
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• United States
20 Feb 08
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear friend. I send big huggers your way.
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• United States
20 Feb 08
I am still mourning the loss of my dear friend Judy who passed away nearly 2 years ago. I miss her terribly. It helps me to talk to her when I am down. Her voice and laughter comes to me still with such clarity.
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@zeloguy (4915)
• United States
25 Feb 08
I didn't know that diabetes can cause heart attacks. My grandfather has it... I will definately have to look into that more! Sorry for your loss. Zelo
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@zeloguy (4915)
• United States
2 Mar 08
Douglas Adams I don't think had anything to do with diabetes but here nor there we lost a great writer. My grandmother had it and ended up dying of arthritis... another condition I didn't know you could die of... kinda scary when you think of all the ways you can go......
@balasri (26577)
• India
20 Feb 08
I am very sorry to know about the loss of your dear friend.I have come across her discussions and used to be amazed at her love with cats.I really feel very sorry for that gentle soul.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
20 Feb 08
thank you balasri. She did have an amazing love of her cats, her youngest, Jezebel was 13. Gaia was on a very fixed income, but she always did what was best for her cats.
@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Feb 08
Some noble soul.God's will is intriguing always.
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@BYOLA2871 (4376)
• South Africa
12 Apr 08
am so sorry about your loss,though i never met her but i know how it is to loose someone dear to you and i pray she rests in peace and may her family find solace in God to bear the loss
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
12 Apr 08
thank you BYOLA, I hope her mom finds comfort with the loss Even tho she wasn't young, its just not right to bury your children
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
I didn't know your friend but im sad and sorry of what happened to her...Pray for her always.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
12 Apr 08
thank you ciades, any prayers help in my belief
@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I'm so sorry hon. I'm very late on the draw as usual, so I am just finding out about this now. I added her as a friend when you introduced her to us here. She was so sweet and kind. She will be very much missed, for sure. Thank you for posting this hon. Big warm hugs to you.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Thanks for the response. I felt that her friends here should know about her loss.
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@Bev1986 (1428)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I am so very sorry for your loss :( I had an online friend pass away a few years ago. I had never met her personally, but chatted with her a lot. It was extremely hard to learn of her passing! My friends who aren't online could not understand why I was so upset by her loss. They kept making comments about how I didn't really know her! Yes, I did! In fact, I'm sure I knew her better than a lot of her regular friends! We spent hours chatting on line and I know she wrote things to me that she never told anyone else about.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I know exactly what you mean Bev. While I wasn't probably her #1 online friend, we did send notes to each other regularly. I do know that she had gotten to actually meet some of her online friends because they lived not too far from her. I've only met one person, and that was because she had a kitten she found that I went and picked up and brought home. We call him Tony because he came from San Antonio.
@manjari (38)
• India
3 Mar 08
Very sad to know about this.
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Thank you manjari, I appreciate it.
@clinsbull (194)
• China
3 Mar 08
yes,u said great,that the world ,if not mylot ,has lost a good person.i come from china,if u want make friend for me ,i will to be a good person.lol
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@ElicBxn (60053)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Thank you clinsbull.