February 20, 2008 9:35pm CST
im a widow and i had a boyfriend who is widow also, ourrrelationship started by teasing, and hook up by my friends, in a long run, i fall in love with him and im sure he feel the same coz he's a kind of person not showing what he feels for me, hes like also my late hubby they have a similar behaviour, but the only problem i get jealous when she talked about his late wife, and some stuff about her, i just listen to him but my mind dont want to listen him, and i became quite, getting mad and never talk to him while he asking what happen to me why im so quite, sometimes i get jealous that nothing to be jealous, my God i want to get rid this stupid behaviour, JEALOUS
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21 Feb 08
Jealousy is very hard on your health. I can understand why you want to get rid of this health destroying emotion. Ok don't be mad at yourself. You have a problem that you need to get rid of, so work with it. Ask your boyfriend to tell you about his late wife. Talk about her with him. I know it will be difficult for you, but after you do it a few times you will find your jealousy will subside. Keep talking about her with him. Soon you will get over your Jealousy and you will see how silly it was.
21 Feb 08
hi there! welcome to mylot, thanks for the response, i know this is hard for me to get away this kind of feelings i had, when we started our relationship he talked about his wife, i didnt get jealous at that time but later on im getting jealous that almost blow heartbeat, i just cried everytime i get jealous not all his wife with others also..
22 Feb 08
Jealous means YOU LOVE HIM VERY MUCH. if you want to get rid of this, you should tell your boyfriend you are jealous of his late wife. I think he will tell you what's your best. And when you feel jealous, it says you are not sefl-confidence in yourself. You need your boyfriend's confort.
22 Feb 08
I understand it is hard not to feel certain feelings. Though I think he isn't doing anything wrong by talking of someone he cared for that parted. Just as you share your memories of your husband. I know when I mention things about my past relation to my now partner he doesn't like it and I also don't really want to know about his. Seems like you are clear enough to know it is your issue and not anything he is doing. Good Luck