My hubby ,baths naked with my Son- Please advice

United States
February 21, 2008 5:25pm CST
My Son, is 16months, my hubby is naked when he bathes with him I said I don't like, he says, he is a boy its fine with him What do you suggest,should he or should he not? I really need advice
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• United States
21 Feb 08
I think it is fine. My daughter is 18 months and I shower with her all the time when I am in a hurry. It would be different if you had a little girl but a little boy is fine being with his father naked.
• Canada
21 Feb 08
Once your son reaches 2, your husband should stop doing this. Your son will start to become more aware of himself, and seeing his father will only confuse him further.
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• India
22 Feb 08
Hi zanybrio, It is too bad on the part of your husband.Whether his son is matured or not it is improper to have naked baths. GoodLuck.
@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
22 Feb 08
Interesting. Do you bathe with your clothes on?
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@Galena (9124)
9 Mar 08
is he the father? if so, no problem with it at all. I think it's good for children to see their family members naked, up until a time when they MIGHT start being embarassed. it encourages them to be comfortable with their own bodies.
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@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I think for right now, it's okay with your son being so young, but i would definitely stop it by two two and a half. it would be different if it was your daughter though. but i think he may just be trying to bond with him, so let him for a while longer, but not much longer. good luck and keep us posted. God bless
@cigotri (35)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I think that's fine,when my son was that age he loved to take a bath with my husband and the door was always open.
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@williamjisir (22909)
• China
22 Feb 08
Hello dear zanybrio. I do not think that there is anything improper for your hubby to have a naked bath with your little baby. I remember that the last time my son came to have a shower together with me was three years ago when he was twelve. That day I just went back home for the summer vacation and he was very happy to see me. When I went to the shower-room, he begged me to have a shower with me. I did not allow him at first, but he was naughty and I could not do anything with him. Anyway, it is ok to have a bath or shower with your own son, however old he is for a father, which will enhance more communication between the father and son. lol
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
21 Feb 08
I think it's ok since they are both male and he is still so young. When I was little, I remember occasionally taking a shower with my mom or sister to save time, and we never felt strange about it or anything.
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@ellie333 (21029)
21 Feb 08
Where is the problem? Even now my daughters 16 and 21 will come into the bathroom and talk to me whilst I'm bathing. It is natural. I am a single parent mum and my son who was four yesterday still gets in the bath with mummy. This is natural. It only becomes a problem when others make it one. Ellie :D
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• Australia
16 Mar 08
i bath naked with my son! he isn't very curious yet i think it is easy to distract them bath toys and stuff. As a single parent sometimes it is the easiest way to get us clean and dry quickly. I will wear more clothes as he gets older but right now it doesn't matter much to me either, i guess it is natural.
• Australia
10 Mar 08
I think you and your husband really needs to talk about this properly. And agree on something regarding this. As for our family experience, (im a girl, so im gonna have to use my bro experience) when my brother was just a little kid, he used to go swimming and bathing together with my dad, and everything is just fine. From here my brother learns how to take care of his body they way man should... and he learns what he needs to learn about his body. However I do remember also that as soon as my brother is old enough to take bath on his own, then he will not have a bath together with my dad anymore... So really, there is nothing wrong with your husband having bath naked with your son... if all family members agree to it... this is really something that you need to talk about just the two of you L:)
@Hatley (152481)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Mar 08
I don't think its wrong at the age your son is now but I think maybe he should not do that when the little guy gets to be two or three. then it should be mom's turn to bathe him.
7 Mar 08
I don't think you need to worry, my daughters have always showered with me, in fact they still do, though their boyfriends object sometimes
• United States
27 Feb 08
I think the more important issue is that YOU are the wife and the mother and YOU are uncomfortable with it. It has to be a personal decision between you and your husband, together. Personally, I was not comfortable bathing with my girls after they were a year or so old...my boys never after they were just a month or two old. But, generally speaking, I agree that your son is probably getting to the age where he is too old but it is probably still ok. Has your husband said at what age he thinks it will no longer be appropriate?
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
22 Feb 08
Honestly, I never had this problem because my husband finds it wrong to give my son a bath he thinks its a mother thing he would if he absolutely had to. What I'm trying to say is not all father's have the same out look about it as my spouse does. I understand where you are coming from and I would have a problem with it if I was in your shoes.
@BAHAMA (4)
22 Feb 08
i don't think it is totally inappropriate..especially being a father and son...i think it does though open up doors to warrant more questions and explanations..they are becoming more aware and think it could cause more confustion as this age and is something they should find out about later...just my opinion
@dangnabit67 (2021)
• United States
22 Feb 08
why are you worried? Make it family time and sit in the bathroom with them.