Do you re invent yourself depending on situations?

@ESKARENA1 (18304)
February 22, 2008 4:07am CST
I have been told that i am a completely different person when I am at work rather than when I am at home or relaxing socialy. I had never realised it, but I do seem to have a work persona, I just wanted to know, is there anyone else who does this?
12 responses
@nanayangel (7691)
• Philippines
22 Feb 08
I think that it is important that you behave differently when you're working and when you're at home, or relaxing, or socializing. It's really hard because not everyone can be very flexible when it comes to their own attitude. When working, everything should be done professionaly. If you get emotions mixed up, the business might not go well. You have to keep distance, and establish boundaries with your employees or co-workers even though you're really friendly by nature. When at home, or relaxing, you might want to be more laid-back, affectionate to your family and loved ones, and enjoy even the little things and if possible, stay away from work and stuff. I think that everyone should try to do that although it will be very hard.
@ESKARENA1 (18304)
22 Feb 08
yes, but in doing this are we not selling too much of what makes us who we are?
• Philippines
22 Feb 08
Yeah, that's why I said that it will be really hard. Anyways,we can keep the ones that we should though, our good attitudes like being honest, being resourceful, the stuff that won't hurt. I think that the real us should be seen at home, or whenever we are with our loved ones. They are the ones who really matter after all. Anyway, if you really want to be yourself under any circumstance, then you should be prepared for the consequences. Like for being too friendly in the workplace. I think that if we have goals that we really want to reach, we have to do certain adjustments but that doesn't mean that we have to forget about our values.
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@ricknkae (1726)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Yes I believ many peopel behave differently in various social situations or life events For instance , has never anyone surprise you at how well they handled the loss of a loved one because it was opposite to how you saw their character to be ? or how some people can become heroes (saving a little boy from drowning) when sometimes themselves didnt know they had it in them Ok those are extreme situations but I do believe we have different faces for different peopel and/or situations There are some people who allow to be more yourself than others, some you would like ( or need ) to impress ( your boss LOL) and so on I think mankind is very good at adapting
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
17 Jan 09
agreed i think adaption is all part of evolution blessed be
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@SViswan (12095)
• India
1 Jan 09
I do. And it's not just at work. Even socially, if I meet someone at the work level, it's a different persona that they see of me. REcently, my centre head saw a pic of me on a social networking site and she was taken aback....that just wasn't the kind of person she knew. Especially since I work at a school, I have a different persona at wok and outside.
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
9 Jan 09
i think it is true we all seem to play different roles dependent on situations School teachers have to do it as it is professional detatchment blessed be
@dodoguy (1297)
• Australia
15 May 08
Hi ESKARENA1, In a perfect world, we'd be the same person to everyone and in everything that we do. And we can often be true to our real selves in the company of friends and family. But in a job or other professional situation, we're expected to behave in the manner needed to achieve the best business result - we're expected to be the ideal person for that role, and not necessarily the person that we truly are. So in a work situation, I'd say most people play character roles - very serious roles, so it's not a game. Income and livelihood depend on it. Contrast this with the situation in a rural community, where people might work all day in the fields or gardens. Or most any job that requires labor rather than diplomacy or negotiating skills. I reckon people in those situations might lead far more balanced and honest lives than their white-collared counterparts. We show a certain image of ourselves to other people depending on who we're dealing with and the circumstances of the situation. In an ideal world, being ourselves would be enough. But in the real world, we try to satisfy other peoples' expectations, rather than risk offending them. And expectations at work are so much higher and more focused than they are at home.
@dodoguy (1297)
• Australia
15 May 08
Hi again, There's another dimension to the image that people project, beyond trying to conform to other peoples' expectations. I will definitely behave differently when in the company of people who I don't know, or who I don't trust. I don't care what they might think of me or what their expectations are, but I'll also be careful not to give information about myself that could be exploited. That's another reason why people behave differently in different social contexts. On the one hand, (for example) we act out roles in our workplace to satisfy the expectations of our employer, or similarly to keep the in-laws happy, or to impress our social peers. On the other hand, we want to make sure our privacy is safe. So we limit our behavior in the presence of people we don't know (or trust). Life would be so much simpler on the farm.
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@cripfemme (7719)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Yes, I think everyone does. You have no choice. For example, I don't tell everyone at work or anywheere else all the time that I'm bi, because I don't think that's appropriate. However, I won't lie and if someone asks me I'll tell them. My rule is if you don't want me to tell you the truth don't ask me the question.
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@ESKARENA1 (18304)
24 Feb 08
hahaha nice one. With me, my sexuality is quite obvious, im far too much of a flirt , lol. But, i do think you are right, if people want an authorative answer to their questions they can always ask me. However, i also work in a maximum security prison and have to display a certain amount of professional detatchment in order to do my job, with this in mind I do tend to become another person blessed be
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
22 Feb 08
LOL yea I have a few different "me's" actually....and several yrs ago I did a write up about each of them....Dont confuse this however, with multiple personality disorder...its nothing like that at all..its just me adapting to various aspects of my life... the two most noticable ones though would be the regular me that you "see" in here I guess you could say..and the former street/stripper me...Two totally different ppl without a doubt....but it was necessary especially AFTER I had my kids...
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@avonrep1 (1863)
• United States
22 Feb 08
My friends and in-laws say I am a different person when my kids aren't around. Maybe that is because I homeschool my kids, and they are around almost all the time. I am always mom, and when they aren't around I get to be Michelle again.
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@nowment (1758)
• United States
12 Jan 09
I think most people have different sides of themselves that they show in different situations, In some situtions people will try to show only the best of themselves. In say office / work situation there is only the work person and perhaps some of the better personality traits that peole try to show. With friends, people tend to be more relaxed, yet it is not unless they are around those friends who they are closest with that they show more of their true selves. When we are in our homes we show yet another side of ourselves our homes ar are place to drop the guards and masks we wear when we around others. Often we project what we think it is we want the others to see, but sometimes aspects of our true selves comes through, in maybe a diluted or smaller way. Yet in our homes we feel safe, so we can let down our guard, be more natural, and hopefully feel comfortable enough to express our true feelings. So I am not so sure it is about reinventing ourselves but about what t is we are willing to reveal, and for this reason we all have different aspects of our selves we show in different situaions.
• Philippines
27 Feb 08
Me too, at home I am lazy, i like to eat and sleep, eat and sleep. But at work , according to my co workers I am strict and discipline. Even in clothing, i make it formal for them to respect me as an individual but at home, i wear clothes that are so old with holes on the side in the middle everywhere..do you get what i mean, when im home i am in comfortable mode but on work im in professional mode.
@ashjoe76 (1459)
• India
22 Feb 08
I believe this is the case with me as well. I believe I keep changing colours in accordance with the terrains in which I find myself :) This is a very good discussion topic which made me think about myself - thanks for posting it :)
@Swaana (1208)
• India
22 Feb 08
It happens many times, I have a differnt face at different situations and my work persona is really different from my family one. I am very serious at work and I relax and is cheerful at home and with people who are dear to me. It happens to many. My dad's anger is well known in family circle but if you ask his collegues and his subordinates he is a real cool person who never gets angry for anything.
@paid2write (5204)
22 Feb 08
Yes, I think everyone has to be different according to who they are with and where they are. You may be gentle and warm-hearted with your friends but need to be firm and strong-willed at work.