Who stays together longer?

@Alize997 (190)
United States
February 22, 2008 9:38am CST
I would like your opinion on this question. Do you believe that people who live togther before they get married are more likely to break up, then people who dont't live together? I had heard a statistic that had said that people who live together before they are married are not going to stay together as long as people who don't live together.
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@etavasi (739)
• Malaysia
23 Feb 08
It's depand on other factor, if it is not a true love,then what you say is true, they will get boring each other. True love is not like that, they will not get bore each other. Even if they have lot of problem they still together. Don't always believe in statistic. It is not true. If you planing to stay together before married, that is nice and good your decision. It is time to get expirence before get married.
23 Feb 08
I would say people who dont live together, simply because they have more to talk about. If you lived together your going to basically know eveything about the other person, leaving out anything that could be used in conversation. In my eyes though, someone who is going to stay together long is a couple that argue, has anyone else noticed this?
@etavasi (739)
• Malaysia
23 Feb 08
I you already know all about the person you love. It is good because it will create more understanding situation for each other abblity on what he or she like or help each other in any problem like money,plan or anything. If you love the person, then why do scare that you know everything about he or she. Are try to cheat he or she? or try to reject after you know everything?
@Galena (9123)
23 Feb 08
I would expect the opposite to be true. if you live with someone, you know what they are like to live with. I can't understand why anyone would marry someone without living with them first.
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
23 Feb 08
I have also heard that statistic many times. I took lots of family studies classes in college and I remember that statistically, people who live together before marriage actually are twice as likely to get a divorce, and that actually fifty percent of people who live together before getting married end up divorced. I know a lot of people think living together first is a good idea so you can get to know each other and stuff, but to be honest, almost everyone I know who lived together first (cousins and a few friends) were divorced within 5 years, and once is in the process of divorce. I'm sure it depends a lot on the individual couple too, but my husband and I chose to not live together first. My husband was married once before and lived with his ex wife before getting married. We are still very happily married and glad about our decision. :)
• United States
22 Feb 08
My personal opinion I think living together first then getting married you last longer. You never truly know someone til you have to live with them. I have had a few different experiences. They were great til I moved in then they changed. It doesnt only happen with bf/gfs either I have it happen with really close friends as well.
@ledouxs (64)
• Canada
22 Feb 08
I persnonally think that if you live together first you marriage will last. See if you live together first you can see the other persons habits and you learn to tolerate them or you can break up with them before the wedding if you can't. Its a chance to get to know the real person instead of jumping in with your eyes closed
@paid2write (5202)
22 Feb 08
I am sure I heard that people who live together first and then get married are more likely to stay married than those who don't live together first. It seems logical, if you marry someone you have already lived with, you know what to expect from your longterm relationship. You would not marry your partner if you knew you could not live with them longterm.
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
22 Feb 08
I think the reason why people who move in together before marriage may not last as long in a relationship, is because when living together, they realize that they are just not compatible enough. I know for me, I would insist on living with a partner before marriage. Marriage is a massive commitment, and I wouldn't want to jump into that without knowing what I was jumping into. What might change those statistics, would be to add a section asking how many of the people who moved in together after marriage are still happy after so many months or years. lol. I would bet that a lot would say no, and that they wished they have moved in with their spouse beforehand, because then they would have known what they were getting.
• Kenya
22 Feb 08
I don't like arguing with science so I believe if the statistics are carried out by a reputable honest person then this is the case. But logically, i expect people who have lived together before marriage to stay together longer coz they have a clue on each others weaknesses.
@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I was engaged to my highschool boyfriend. He and I moved in with 2 friends to share a house right after we graduated. After living together a few weeks, we quickly discovered that we couldn't live together. If we had gotten married first, we probably would have got divorced. I however ended up with one of the other roommates. We had been spending time together before I moved in as friends and after I moved in we started to have feelings for each other. We lived together for 2 years before we got married. This July we will be married for 7 years. And we have 3 beautiful kids together. My vote would be for living together first. That way you know you are compatible to live together before you make that huge commitment. But i'm sure plenty of marriages survive with not living together first also.