Would you be a surrogate mother?

United States
February 22, 2008 11:04pm CST
Lately in the paper there have been ads looking for surrogate mothers to carry babies for other couples. Compensated, of course. It is the other couple's sperm and egg but for whatever reason that couple can not carry a baby to term themselves. Would you do this for a couple that you knew? What about a couple such as in these ads?
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@Samanthavv (1386)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I thought about it for a while, but decided against it. There are two types of surrogates, one is called a gestational carrier. She is simply an oven. It's someone elses egg and someone elses sperm. A traditional surrogate uses her own eggs, and the mans sperm. So, genetically the child is hers.
• United States
23 Feb 08
I wouldn't make a very good surrogate being as I can't even carry one to term myself LOL. But I admire those woman who can and do. Even if I could have a baby I doubt I could do it. I think, even though I wouldn't be the mother, that I would still get emotionally involved. We've talked about having a surrogate ourselves but since we're not 100% sure what the problem is with me and considering the proceeder costs so much we wouldn't want to take that risk. We'd rather (if we had the money) put that towards adoption - this way we're guaranteed a baby. But we only want to use family members and those who'd be close by as well :) We've had several, several offers of those who'd do it for us though :)
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• United States
23 Feb 08
I know that I'd get emotionally involved and I would spent my life wondering how the child was doing. I think becoming a surrogate takes a strong woman. I just don't think that I'm one of them but I do think that those women who have the fortitude to give a gift like that are amazing women!
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• United States
24 Feb 08
I totally agree :)
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@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
23 Feb 08
I think I could if it was for my sister and she couldn't have kids. However I know she can because she has four LOL I have the one son and having to carry someone elses child inside me I'm not sure if I could do that. It would be hard giving up the child after nine months in my womb even though the egg and sperm were not mine. Does that sound weird?
• United States
23 Feb 08
No. That doesn't sound weird. I think that as women, we have a connection with the child in the womb and it would be sooo hard to give that baby to the biological parents.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
23 Feb 08
nope, sorry - not me. even if I did not have high risk pregnancies I could not consider doing this. I love to be pregnant too.
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• United States
23 Feb 08
I have to agree with you. I think it would be too difficult to give up the baby.
• United States
8 Jun 08
I agree that the only one I could be a surrogate for is my sister. If she ever should ask, I would consider it. I don't honestly think I could carry a baby for 9 months and not become attached. Especially if it were from my own egg.
@weiyi5151 (120)
• China
24 Apr 08
no, i will never be a surrogate mother. because ,i am a man....
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• United States
23 Apr 08
I honestly (and sadly) don't think I could. There is a bond that happens. I would go through all this, and then labor... and then BAM no sweet baby to bring home and cuddle with and love. I could not imagine if I had surrogated my son, he wouldn't be mine and I wouldn't have had the best year of my life!!! For those who can do it, they are amazing amazing women. They give a gift, a wonderful gift, to someone who can't have a baby on their own and I am glad there are women out there able to do this.
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