Would you ever consider to adopt a orphan child even if you have your own kids?

@humbleme (1004)
India
February 22, 2008 11:10pm CST
Hello friends, If you have your own kids whom you have given birth, would you ever consider to adopt a orphan child?
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19 responses
23 Feb 08
Hi Humbleme Yes i will adopt a child no matter if i have one kid or more, i will say that we are brought up in a society where we do not consider anyone else more important than our own blood relations, but i will surely adopt a child, coz i feel that we have many to show us love & affection, we have brothers & sisters, besided everything we have our parents who care for us no matter what difficulties they face in life, but when you see a orphan child, you see their eye you will see the longing for love & acceptance in the society, Yes i have always longed to adopt a child no matter if i get married or not,i have always brought people to my house, & spent a lot of time with childrens who have no one inthe society, my parents to like to encourage me in things. i feel that if in the world every family adopts a child there will not be any orphanage in the society, for that to happen every one in the world must be broad minded and accept the orphans as one among the society & one among our family, adopt a child & see how much you will be blessed not only in your life, but you will be seen as differently in the society, your respect will be more too Few parents leave the child in the orphanage coz they feel that atleast their child must have food to eat three times a day, because they are in poverty, why dont we help a child live like we live ...
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@humbleme (1004)
• India
23 Feb 08
Hello cindrel_27,Wow great to read your feelings about adopting a child andi really apreciate it.Thanks again for sharing.
• India
23 Feb 08
i have thought of adopt an orphan child but there are some practicle prolems are there in that. our relations should accept that child as memember of a family even we accept and child already in the home should consider that orphan child as his sibling he will be very childish and will fight for every thing it is better to adopt if you don't have your own child. if it is not there will be a lot of problems
@humbleme (1004)
• India
23 Feb 08
Hello sharmila76_lot,Thanks for your response and your fears are not unreasonable but parents who have more than one kid too loves the second next kid and I think its the efficiency of parents not to let create the feelings of jealosy between two kids by treating them equally and finally the elder accepts the younger if he/she dont get the feelings of neglected or getting less or more love after the arrival of the next.Thanks again.
• United States
26 Feb 08
Sharmilla brings up a good point here, I have adopted 5 and had five of our own, and yes there can be a lot of jealousy.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
26 Feb 08
yes I agree but we find jealosy even between siblings,so would everybody decide not to givebirth not more than one kidfor the fear of jealosy between two siblings?
@maximax8 (28249)
• United Kingdom
28 Feb 08
Yes, I have two sons that are mine biologically and I would love to adopt a daughter. I think many little girls in China live in a home for orphan children. It would be amazing to give one of these little girls a loving family life. I wish that it was easier to adopt an orphan child in my country. But the social services make it difficult to adopt a child from the UK or one from overseas.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
1 Mar 08
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@maximax8 (28249)
• United Kingdom
1 Mar 08
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@maximax8 (28249)
• United Kingdom
20 Apr 08
I have two sons and I would like to give a home to a little girl. I would gladly adopt an orphan child from any country in the world. I would treat her equally with my own children. It is unfortunate that in my home country it is challenging to get approval to become an adoptive parent. However there are many children waiting to be adopted in my home country and overseas. I would choose to adopt internationally if I could. There are so many orphanages in the world where children await a loving family. Every child deserves to have caring parents and a home with parents and perhaps brothers and sisters.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
19 May 08
Hello maximax8,Thanks for your response and interest in adoption.I appologise for my late reply. Thanks again.
@youless (91492)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Mar 08
I have a son now and I always think it will be ideal to have a girl. In fact I like to have a girl because I can dress her well and a girl seems to be better than a boy:) However, it's not easy to adopt an orphan. As there are so many papers to fill out and you may not be qualified to adopt an orphan, especially when you have your own child.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
19 May 08
Hello youless, Thanks for your response and I applogise for the late reply, hahahaha "A girl seems to be better than a boy."lol, Thanks again for sharing.
@julievy (595)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Absolutely I would! I have 2 grown (home-made) sons and am currently considering adopting a teenager. Teens are very hard to place and I would love the opportunity to give one a home and some love that he or she surely deserves. Two of my younger sisters were adopted by my parents when they were teenagers. My mom has said it was one of the most rewarding experiences of her life (in addition to being a foster parent for many years)
@humbleme (1004)
• India
19 May 08
Hello julievy,Thanks for your responseand sharing your views with us and I applolofise for the late reply.Thanks again.
• India
1 Mar 08
s dude ..no doubt in it and i feel its our duty dude
@humbleme (1004)
• India
19 May 08
Hello manigandan18, Thanks for your response and sharing your mind with us.
@bagumbayan (2707)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
Yes, why not, if you have the means to take care of the child. But if you have no time to care for him, or you just pity him, dont adopt. Adopting is loving, so take him as your own.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
1 Mar 08
Hello bagumbayan,Thanks for your response and sharing your opinion with us.Thanks again.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Absolutely! and should there come a time when we can afford to have more kids in the house we'll definately adopted...
@humbleme (1004)
• India
28 Feb 08
Hello Ravenladyj,Thanks for your response.Your point is not invalid, however Responder No7 of this post has given us a solution as its true taking responsibility of a child for his/her whole life is not a joke and needs lot of commitments as well as financial issues are are also related so even without adopting an orphan child we can help them by visiting a nearby orphanage home once a week/month and we can provide them with motherly or fatherly love atleast with our words,and as per materials are concerned we can buy few pencils/pens and notebooks, our own childrens old books,shirts and cloths (if buying new is not possible)which I think is possible to afford for anybody as these little things will not cost tons of money.Thanks again
• Guam
26 Feb 08
Hmmm, i don;t know that;s very hard. Rivalry and jealousy are already present in siblings, what more if you have someone who isn't blood related. If I didn't have kids, without second thoughts I'd adopt, despite the emotional stage it might come into in the future... But I do plan to open up this semi orphanage that's not really an orphanage. Its a home for children who want to study. Once I have enough money for that, it'll be my dream come true.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
26 Feb 08
Hello chicha0522,Thanks for your response,yes I agree your points are not invalid, but we get to see rivalry and jealosy even between siblings for that reason do people stop giving birth to their second or third kid out of fear of future siblings rivalry and jealosy?I wish you best of luck and I wish God will be with you to fullfill your dream of starting "home for children" in future.Thanks again.
• United States
26 Feb 08
We have adopted 5 children, and we have 5 biological children who are all grown, and now have families of their own. We started out to just be foster parent's, but you grow so close to these little/big blessings, that it is very hard to let them go when it is time for them to return to their Bio-parent's. When we had the opportunity to adopt our first who was 15 at the time, we jumped at the chance, she is now 17 and such a blessing. The next 4 are siblings, we had the 3 girl's fostering them, the 2 older brothers were in a group home. When they were free for adoption and parental rights had been terminated, we wanted to keep as many of them as possible together. So at that point we brought the 12 year old boy home. We had a tough decision to make as there was also a 16 year old boy. In the end he made the decision easier for us, he did not want to be adopted, so decided to stay in foster care. My problem there would have been our at that time 15 year old daughter, as she had a crush on him, and we felt that would have added fuel to the flame to have them under the same roof. A lot of people go out of the United States to adopt, and spend loads of money to do it. There are so many children right here who need a good loving home, and if you go through the foster care program, they cover all cost, you win and so do the children. I will never regret adopting, and if my state would allow it I would adopt even more, (we have a 5 child limit for adoption), but if say my oldest would leave then we would be elegable for another one.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
26 Feb 08
Hello olivebranch56,Hats off to your courage,determination and intensions to serve humanbeings,I am really impressed reading your response ,I strongly believe raising children with responsibilty as parents is much morechallenging and worth praise than those parents who just give birth and fails to educate disciplines of life to their child and gives hundreds of excuses to hide their own inefficiency.If there is will there is way.Thanks again for sharing with us.
@kellys3ps (3728)
• United States
24 Feb 08
I have thought about this a lot, and I definately might. I have given birth to six children, all boys. If the opportunity arose to adopt a little girl who was orphaned (or another boy for that matter) I definately would consider it.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
24 Feb 08
Hello kellys3ps,Thanks very much for your response and I really appreciate your feelings and intensions.Thanks again for sharing your mind with us.
@Blondie2222 (21747)
• United States
23 Feb 08
Yes I would very much so consider in adoption. They deserve to have a good home just as much as the one u've given birth too should have....
@humbleme (1004)
• India
23 Feb 08
Hello Blondie2222,Thanks for your response and yes the orphans desrves every thing that a child with parents gets. Thanks again.
• United States
23 Feb 08
I am considering it actually - having my son almost killed me (literally) I want more children - so we might do foster care/adoption after a while.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
23 Feb 08
Hello TRDreamin,Thanks for your response and I really apreciate your positive intensions.Thanks again for sharing with us.
@Swaana (1208)
• India
23 Feb 08
Both of us are ready to do that, inspite of having two kids. Infact when I discussed about this to daughter she was very much accepting and infact she wanted to do it immediatly. But as there are lots of practical problems, we cannot do it, but we have been visiting the homes nearby and are spending time with them, whenever we have time. That is the maximum I am able to do. Whenever I go I try to get something that the kids have asked during the previous visit, like a book, notebook, pencil etc. I think this way I am satisfying my own self personally.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
23 Feb 08
Hello Swaana,Thanks for your response and you have added colours to this discussion by adding another concept and that is if it seems problem to adopt we can atleast visit the nearby orphanage homes and can give the children little portion of our love and our feelings along and can take responsibility to supply some essential goods like pen pencils notebooks etc that you have mentioned which dont need huge money.Thanks very much.
• Philippines
23 Feb 08
Yes why not.We should pity the children who are craving for motherly love and care...
@humbleme (1004)
• India
23 Feb 08
Hello jaribfam,Thanks for your response and sharig your feelings with us.
@diillu (5128)
23 Feb 08
I have been giving a thought in this for quite a some time. In future when I have a family I would consider adopting a child wether it's a girl or a boy and giving him/her a home that she never had. My mother adopted our eldest sister. We never knew she was adopted until some years ago. And I'm happy that my parents did it. So, I would also adopt one child for giving them a home and love they totally desrve.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
23 Feb 08
Hello diillu,Thanks for your response and its great to know your famaly has already adopted and you have accepted your parents decesion with pride.Thanks again for sharing.
• United States
23 Feb 08
I would consider it. I have two children of my own, but I can no longer have children. I don't know if I ever will adopt any, not anytime soon, but I have thought about it and may seriously consider it sometime in the future.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
23 Feb 08
Hello acastlegirl,Thanks for your response and I really appreciate your serious consideration over this issue.Thanks again.
• United States
23 Feb 08
I would and will one day. I was in foster care most of my life and the lady I call mom, the one my kids call grandma took me in and made me part of her family If it was not for her I would not be the person I am today. and I want to do for a child what my mom did for me.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
23 Feb 08
Hello floramwaters,Thanks for your response,I really appreciate your intensions might be you realised parents who brought up child are more important and valuable than parents who only give birth but fails to educate their child the values of life.Thanks again.