have you ever BETRAYED?

@skbh12 (2950)
Philippines
February 24, 2008 9:26am CST
by someone whom you see as your ever very dearest friend? how painful was it? what did you do? did you take a revenge on that person?
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
24 Feb 08
I've been betrayed pretty badly a few times by people I considered friends. I have never taken revenge, but I have taken steps to keep them from hurting others, and my loyal friends have in a couple of cases taken their own revenge for what happened to me. I don't really do the revenge thing myself, though there were times when I wish I did. I'd rather think about what I can do to stop that person from treating other people badly though. Revenge is a little too bitter for my taste.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
24 Feb 08
your right.. it is better to do the right thing which is not to fight back because they'll soon meet their own karmas... but what if their betrayal is already too much... what will you do? still stay quiet as if nothing has happened? aren't you going to fight for yourself?
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
24 Feb 08
I would never stay quiet as if nothing had happened, I just wouldn't take revenge. There's a big difference there. If someone does something to compromise my trust in them, whatever relationship I have with them is likely over. I make sure any mutual friends who would be affected by my decision know my reasonings, and move on with my life. I am not a doormat, and I would never let people walk all over me. Also, if someone physically attacks me, I certainly fight back. I just don't fight back when it comes to petty social attacks or gossip, because that's really not my arena and I'd rather just stay out of it... instead I just give my side of the story to the few people whose opinions actually matter to me, and leave it at that.
@etavasi (739)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 08
I agree with you. Revenge is not good in our life. That is my opinion. It would not settle the problem but it make it worse again. People will not stop fight each other. Always feel of angry each other.
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• Pakistan
6 Mar 08
Forgiveness to betrayer is a nice way to punish him. It is a moral defeat to betrayer to forgive him. It is in your credit and benefit to recognize a person that who is he or she in fact. Is he or she a real friend or a betrayer? Betrayal helps to make it clear. Thus after knowing about the reality we should forgive and get rid as soon as possible. I use to forgive the betrayers and I think it is a good way to take the revenge.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
haha.. have you ever taken a revenge over that person?? how? would you mind sharing it to me?? we have a betrayer here in this house and i wanted to take vengeance on her.. i have forgiven her. i know it because i started discussing things with her again but just this yesterday i heard something from our helper of what she just did and now i wanted to do something evil against her. i know it is bad but i just want to give her a lesson. haha!
• India
27 Feb 08
yes,I have been betrayed by my own school friend,that friend who was with me for the past 7 years...throughout my adversities and happiness...The incident still makes me weep and disturbs me..as i never expected her to betray me coz of the immense faith that i had on her...Revenge on her is just impossible as i loved her from the core of my heart..today though she did something bad to me i never feel bad or think bad about her..coz my love,dearness for her is far more forward than the anger or the hatred feeling that i have for her..So no chance of any kinda revenge...
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
28 Feb 08
i admire you for your actions because eventhough you friend has betrayed you, you still continued to love her and never thought of taking any vengeance for her action. keep it up.. you will be blessed more by God for continuing to do good deed to those people who has caused you pain..
@IddiKlu (176)
• United States
25 Feb 08
My one time best friend betrayed me after my standing by him for 27 years. That was 22 years ago, and I think that NOT having my friendship is the greatest punishment he could have. No, I did not take revenge; in a way I think he could not help himself, since he was just being himself. He treats his siblings the same way he finally treated me. So it was his personality that was defective. Good riddance!
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
25 Feb 08
thats so sad.. a worst scenario.. your bestest best friend whom you have loved all your life turned into a big heck of a monster... now i realized how blessed i am to have a friend who was always there thru good times and bad times..
@Swaana (1208)
• India
25 Feb 08
I am a real go getter, and I really love to make friends. Many a times, yes many times, I have been betrayed by friends and now I have learnt the lesson the hardest way. I have not taken revenge on them, but have stopped being friends with them. Now I really choose my friends and currently all those who are my friends are really good friends and I am so sure that they cannot betray me at any point of time.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
25 Feb 08
at least you have learned something from the past.. now you are a choosy person when it comes to getting to know new batch of friends.
• India
25 Feb 08
There are occasions in my life when friends tried to betray me. But due to luck and my excellent network of people I always got the informations beforehand and I did my counterstrike and severely damaged their reputations in society by simply exposing them and they didn't even came to know that I did it! My motto in life is to SAVE THE SAVIOUR and BETRAY THE BETRAYER.People trust me with their life but I don't trust anyone except myself. Early setbacks in life, mainly during childhood taught me this lesson. Regarding pain that one feels when betrayed, my philosophy is to make the betrayer feel the pain. Make them feel sorry for what they did or what they were trying to do. Now my life is much more happier than it was before!
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
25 Feb 08
good thing you didnt get busted for exposing their reputation to the society... youre good. haha.. well, all we need is patience will karma will set foot on the ground by itself..
@dragon54u (31298)
• United States
25 Feb 08
Many times. The worst was when my husband's high school girlfriend got in touch with us and we became email friends. A couple years later, he left me for her and that hurt so horribly bad because she pretended to be my friend. (She's still trying to be friends, can you believe it?!) I didn't have to take revenge. Her marriage to him was my revenge because after little more than a year of him she's going nuts and ready to leave. Ha! I'm sad for my ex and hope they keep it together but she's getting her just desserts. And for those who wonder why I'm cutting my ex a break, it's just because you want those you used to love to be happy. It's kind of weird, hating what he did but wanting the best for him. Life is strange!
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
25 Feb 08
woah... i really hate it when someone breaks a family. KARMA! KARMA! KARMA!
• United States
24 Feb 08
I'm kinda going through something like that currently. My best friend likes the guy that I like but she wont admitt it. She doesnt like us to talk she doesnt like for us to hang out. It makes me mad because he doesnt really care for her and she still messages him and what not.I'm not very happy with her and I dont think I'll be talking to her much for awhile. We have always had sparts like this though. I guess she just isnt a very good natured person sometimes. I try to see the best in people. But yeS I would love to seek revenge somehow. just dont know how any ideas? lol haha
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
25 Feb 08
well, you should have read the first two mylot users comment... do you still consider her as a friend? i know it hurts a lot for you to see how your friend turned her back on you but it would be better for the both of you to keep your distance with each other dont you think? take time to think of what has happened between the two of you. contemplate on things before you take action like if you seek revenge,would it benefit you something good? i dont think so.. so let it be.. you know, i know that KARMA is just always around right?
@etavasi (739)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 08
I have friends like what you said before. Long time ago, when my friends betrayed on me i just think on how to take some action on that person. I think it back again, i dont take any revenge on that person. Then i just forget about the person and i just pray to GOD hope one day that person will change they atitude become a nice person.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
24 Feb 08
there's always KARMA for such behavior they impose on others.. well you know, something bad must happen to them first before they get to realize their own mistakes..
@madlees (1381)
• India
25 Feb 08
We consider them as friends and get very close to them but many are not like that. They back bite and betray behind us. What is the point in having friendship with them .. I don't feel like avenging them also, because there is no point. They will keep telling everyone that we are doing that out of spite. If they can talk to others cooly they can tell anything they like that. We cannot follow them correcting each and every word and taking revenge either.. I just leave it for GOD to handle them as he likes. bless you..
• China
25 Feb 08
It has never happened to me,but I am still able to feel the hurt feeling.That must make you doubt everything around you like "if there is a real one faithful to you".Even though you are harmed fatally,you should not lose the confidence of your life viewpoints to take a revenge on that man.This is just my opinion.