Is a house always a home?

@Pose123 (21666)
Canada
February 24, 2008 7:41pm CST
I've noticed that many people use the words house and home as though they always meant the same thing, but do they really? Ask yourself the question, is my house always my home? I'm sure that most people will answer yes, but I doubt if it's true for everyone. Let's get your thoughts on this.
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26 responses
• United States
25 Feb 08
I would feel that way had I not moved. I live in a apartment that is very uncomfortable. I have struggled to find ways to make it feel homey. This place is not my my home it's just where I live.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi giftsandbagscom, Thank you for commenting. Someday you will have a home, it doesn't have to be big and spacious, but where you feel happy and relaxed. Blessings.
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• United States
26 Feb 08
yes I am hoping this comes true. Thanks so much. :)
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
25 Feb 08
You are right, there is a huge difference between a house and a home. A house is merely four walls and a roof. It is a structural word that can be applied universally to any dwelling. A home on the other hand is a sanctuary, it is warm and safe and full of love and offers protection from more than just the weather. It is a place to grow and make memories. I have had a few houses in my time. When I moved there they were never intended as homes, they were just a fill in till my home was ready. I now live in my own home and it is the most wonderful feeling in the world!
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi LouRhi, Thank you for commenting. I'm happy for you, you have found your home. Blessings.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Feb 08
To me a house is a dwelling place. A home is a place where there is love, sharing, and happiness. I believe that this can only truly be, if God is welcome.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi Rozie, Thank you for responding. I agree love sharing and happiness make a home. Blessings.
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@VampAmber (308)
• United States
25 Feb 08
I may only have one house, but I have many homes. Sometimes, it's the house I live in. Sometimes it's my boyfriend's house. Sometimes it's even a friends house. Then, of course, I still consider my old college campus my best "home" ever. Not just the places I lived, but the entire campus. I loved that place so much, and miss it terribly (I only got to stay for three years, and didn't get to finish my degree, due to money issues).
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi VampAmber, Thank you for responding, and I really like your comments. Blessings.
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@ersmommy1 (12598)
• United States
25 Feb 08
I have lived in many HOUSES. And no they were not all homes. There is a special feeling that comes with HOME. A comfort, a feeling of warmth and safety. Not every house can make you feel this way. My current house, while we have had some bad moments, a break in for one, that seriously undermined my sense of security is my home. My 1st house with my husband. The house my child was born into. She took her first bath in our upstairs bathroom. Spoke her 1st words in. Rode her 1st bus away from to preschool.It's the 1st place we ever did major renovations in.Some of "me" of "us" is in the house. That makes it a home. Investment of self!
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi ersmommy, Thank you for commenting. Your response is a very good one. I agree that there has to be something of ourselves in the house to really make it a home. Blessings.
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• United States
25 Feb 08
It depends on if i am mad because something tore up and I have to spend money on it then it is my house. If i am happy with it and not spending money on it it is my home. ha ha ha. I know that doesnt make sense but that is how i feel sometimes
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi cindystoufflet, Thank you for commenting. You would be surprised at how many people feel as you do. Blessings.
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• Canada
25 Feb 08
I understand where you are coming from in the sense that some people reside in places without ever really making them their home. In my personal experiences I only remember living in one place that did not feel like home. It was after I broke up with my first husband...I chose to live in a really small, drafty house so I could keep my little poodle dog with me. I could not connect with the energies there...and I know my dog couldn't either. About 6 months after we moved in she ran away and was hit by a car. I believed she knew how much I disliked that house...and I felt she laid down her life so I could leave. Every other home or apartment I have ever had always feels like home because after that experience I made up my mind that I could embrace a home or apartment and make it feel homey and comfortable and a reflection of who I was. David and I have owned four houses in the seventeen and a half years we have been together and each one has been turned into our 'home sweet home.' We decorated, landscaped and tuned into each house and quickly made it our sacred haven from outside influences. We are currently doing some decorating and painting because our home needed to have some tweaking up to further reflect who David and I are now. We love this place and are blooming where we are planted..and loving every minute of it. Good topic... Raia
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi Perspectives, Thank you for responding. I agree it is up to us to make a house a home. You have to feel comfortable, and it has to have something of yourself in it. Blessings
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• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi again. Yes..I think a house becomes a home when the residents' energies and personal touches reflect who they are and what they love. The colors they choose for walls and furniture..the special objects and sentimental collectibles that have meaning give homes that wonderful vibe that most of us pick up on when we walk in the door of any home that is loved and appreciated. Raia
@subha12 (18452)
• India
25 Feb 08
For me its always the home. I am telling this regarding the house where i live with my parents,\. when I was away from home due to job, i had to stay in shared apartment. those i could have just told house, not home. I needed those shelters to live in. There was no heart in it.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi subha, Thank you for commenting. You express the idea of a home very well. Blessings.
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@buhulon (178)
• Romania
25 Feb 08
i was at college 5 years and a moved every year i say home where i have a bad to sleep i use the word home for my house where i stay with my parents, at college where i stay with rent, at my boyfriend house and at my boyfriend parents house so i have a lot of houses where i stay a lot af home :)) i'm getting dizy :))
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi buhulon, Thank you for commenting. Anywhere that you feel comfortable and related can be a home. It is up to us to make it so. Blessings.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
25 Feb 08
Where I live is my Home. What I live in is my House...or rather apartment in my case. I think anyplace can be a House but where your heart is your home. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi twoey, Thank you for responding. Home is where the heart is, how true. Blessings.
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
25 Feb 08
No a house IMO is NOT the same as a home....A house is just somewhere you live, store your stuff and lay your head down..A HOME however is your safe zone, comfort zone, place of love and memories etc etc...
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi Ravenladyj, Thank you for responding. My sentiments exactly. Blessings.
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@Celanith (2334)
• United States
25 Feb 08
No to me a house is a building that people dwell in it provides shelter and roof, 4 walls and perhaps some amenities and creature comforts. However a home has special touches of love. Photos of family and loved ones. Special decor and arrangements for tranquility, peace, pleasure, Joy and comfort. A good home even humble and small has love and laughter and shared good times. A person can be wealthy and have everything money can buy and live in a fancy house with all the glitter and gold and not have a home and love or laughter. It is the people in the house and how they interact with one another that makes it a home.
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi Celanith, Thank you for your excellent response. I loved it. Blessings.
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• United States
25 Feb 08
I don't consider a house and a home as the same thing. A house is where a person lives and there is no comfortable feeling when you enter it. A home on the other hand is one that soon as you walk through the door you can feel the love in it. You feel comfortable right away as though you had been there all your life even if it is the first time you have been there. You get a warm feeling with a home.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi sunshinelady, Thank you for responding. Your thoughts on this are like my own. Blessings.
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@hmike_d (1529)
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
house, dwelling, home - house, dwelling
A house can be a home though they're quite different. I define house as a place for dwelling. A home is composed of a house absolutely filled with a happy family together with all the comfort, love and aspirations. You can always reside a house but it can't always be like your home.
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
1 Mar 08
Hi hmike, Thank you for commenting. I agree with you. Blessings.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
25 Feb 08
To me a home is a place where you have harmony and love and a house is just a structure made out of log, wood, or cement.
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi Mirita, Thank you for responding. I agree with your comments. Blessings.
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@gemini_rose (16193)
25 Feb 08
I dont class my house as a home yet. When we first bought our house 2 and a half years ago, I had so many plans, so many hopes, its such a beautiful house. But from the moment we moved in things just went wrong. I remember when we got the keys for it, I came round to check it out with my son who was 3 years old at the time, we were looking around when we heard the loudest bang from upstairs, like a door being slammed in anger. I went and looked round but nothing was there no windows open, no reason at all for the bang. I remember distinctly feeling that the house did not want us to move in. 2 weeks after we moved in the water tanks started leaking, we had to have them replaced. I was pregnant at the time of moving in about 16 weeks, flying through my pregnancy, 2 weeks after moving in I became so ill that I could do nothing in the house, my daughter had to fight to stay inside me. My daughter was born safely thank goodness, my husband started an affair 2 weeks after her birth. Only this year have I finally begun to attempt to make this house into a home, but I still feel it does not want us here, I dont know if that sounds mad to you but honestly its how I feel. I dont want to give up without a fight because as I say the house is lovely and will be gorgeous once its decorated how I want it but I just dont know what it is about the place, but nothing has gone right from the minute we moved in!!
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi gemini_rose, Thank you for this very interesting story. I am amazed that you have stayed in the house so long, after having such trouble there. Maybe the house will eventually start to welcome you. I wish you only the best in turning this house into a real home. Blessings.
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• Australia
25 Feb 08
I think their can be houses homes and broken homes. to me a house is somewhere you stay, a home is somewhere you live, and a broken home is the place you end up when the dreams all die.
@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi dont pick your nose, Thank you for commenting. What you say is very true. Blessings.
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@Foxfire1875 (2011)
25 Feb 08
I rent so I don't consider this flat to be my home. If I ever buy a house, then it will be a home not just a house. It seems today that homes are only viewed as investments and are no longer thought as homes which I find quite sad. That is maybe why so many people refer to what should be their homes purely as houses.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Hi Foxfire, Thank you for commenting. I agree there is a difference. Blessings.
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@34momma (13893)
• United States
25 Feb 08
that is a great question. for someone who moved around alot because my parents where in the Army, your home is where you lay your hat. I as an adult with three children have been in the same apartment for the best 10 years. I don't have a house yet, but my place is very much my home
• India
25 Feb 08
My father is also in Army, but I never felt I was away from home because homes aren't made up of concrete but its made by your family. According to me a home is next stage of a house. Its the attachment that you build up with your house that makes it a home. A home gives you the sense of emotional security even when a war is going on in your country's backyard. I witnessed such a thing during 1999 Kargil war in J&K. Our house was within enemy's range but still I wasn't afraid. I used to hear sounds of explosions of artillery shells during that period. We actually cheered our soldiers from our school(much more closer to enemy's shelling range) when we used to hear such explosions. We were fearless of the enemy due to our families and homes. A house wouldn't done that. A house doesn't provide you with sense of security. A home is a place where you can retire and ease yourself up.
@34momma (13893)
• United States
25 Feb 08
wow, when i said Army, I didn't mean that i had to see, hear, or go through any of the things you have to deal with. that has to be something else. wow, just the thought of having to deal with that kind of thing on a daily basis would be alot for anyone.
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
1 Mar 08
Hi 34momma, Thank you for responding. I see what you mean about the army, but I guess home is where you are loved Blessings.
• India
3 Mar 08
s i think so dependig on external conditions
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@Pose123 (21666)
• Canada
3 Mar 08
Hi manigandan, Thank you for your comment. Blessings.