Careful, my ego is sitting there! :P

By Leca
@lecanis (16664)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
February 25, 2008 9:30am CST
Hehe, I realized that I tend to post discussions assuming that the people reading them will know me and have interacted with me before, even though there are 121,015 people on mylot. I've had several discussions recently that referenced prior information I had given about myself as if expecting people to remember it. And now I'm thinking... "Wow, that's some ego I've got there!" I think it's just because I do know so many people here, and it's awesome to me to actually consider myself popular somewhere. In my offline life, though I had quite a few friends during my party years as a young teen, I've spent about 12 years having minimal social contact outside of religious or work events. Part of that is my own choosing: I like being an individual and doing things my own way. Still, it's neat to me to think I'm popular here on mylot, even though it might not be the case. Do you ever feel your ego needs its own room? Do you revel in the idea of feeling popular sometimes, even if it's just online?
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
25 Feb 08
I don't think I am popular, at least not in the positive sense. I have written posts forgetting that someone who has no idea who I am. So I try to post as though it is my first post, but I am not so good at it...lol
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
25 Feb 08
Well, I always remember you at least. ;) It's hard to remember to post that way, once you fall into a pattern and make a few friends. Maybe I assume it's only going to be my friends who reply to me, but quite often that's not the case, and people are like "What the heck is going on?"
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• United States
25 Feb 08
"Well, I always remember you at least.;)" I don't know if that is good or bad...lol And yeah I know what you mean by posting like only your friends are going to respond, that is why I am not so good at posting like it is my first...
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
25 Feb 08
Hmmm, I meant it to be good, but I can see how it could be bad too. All in how you want to take it. Ah, how I love ambiguity. It's funny sometimes for me especially when I post something really personal and people I don't know respond to it, especially when they are very kind or helpful. It makes me feel like there's hope in humanity after all!
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• United States
25 Feb 08
rotflmao your asking me? The Queen of narcissism? Honey I am continually having to reign in my ego. I am not sure popularity has alot to do with my ego, rather then the small groups of friends I have in any one place, delight in my company. I don't need hundreds of friends. I need and want the approval of the close ones that I love. It is very important to me. In every avenue of my life, off line, online, work, my child's school what ever social circle I find myself in. I am ferociously loyal and loving and I expect as much from the people I call my own.... LMAO yep Some ego I have :))
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
25 Feb 08
*giggles* You are so funny! The Queen of Narcissism, eh? I like that. :P I don't need hundreds of friends either, really, but it's kind of neat to think so many people like me! ;)
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• United States
25 Feb 08
rotflmao :))0 well,,, hmmm actually because of my grandeous ego, I have as many people in all walks of my life that dislike me :)) As a true Queen would do I flip my hair back, pick my head up and throw them a bird :))) Sweetheart you have a wonderful soul. It this very thing that people gravitate to.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
25 Feb 08
Oh, I can just imagine you in your cool Queen-like indifference, how beautiful! lol Thank you. I suppose I am kind of irresistible. *giggles*
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
I do sometimes have a big ego. But I never really noticed it. Too busy having the big head to notice. LOL But it is funny that you make mention of this cause lately I have seen many discussions in relation to other discussions and I have no idea what is going on. I haven't been able to spend too much time on here lately and it has gotten hard to try to figure out the whole scoop cause people just assume I have read every post. You haven't been the only one to do this lately at all. Hope all is well with your son! Vicki
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
25 Feb 08
Hehe, I'm sure that's got to be annoying, trying to figure out what's going on. I'm going to try to start adding more info to mine so people don't have to have seen the others to get it. :P My son is doing okay at the moment, though we still don't have a clue what's going on with him. It's back to the drawing board, and hopefully finding a new specialist.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
Glad he is okay right now and hope you get a specialist that can shed some light on it.
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
25 Feb 08
I guess that's why I use Mylot as part therapy because I know that I am very much liked and that makes me feel good, you know it does wonders for my poor self-esteem and confidence which were ripped apart by my ex. Knowing that I have a lot of friends and sisters here to love me, support me, offer advice and guidance totally unconditionally fills me with wonder, hope and yes my ego does go high because of the incredible responses I get to all my discussions. I am a very very lucky guy and knowing this, knowing that I am popular has helped me back onto the road to recovery. It is the only place that I am popular and the only place that helps me to get over my depression xx
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
25 Feb 08
Once again, we sound very alike. Mylot is therapy for me in a way too, because people are willing to listen to me more so than in my offline life. Also, here I can be honest about my problems and still have people respect me. Offline, because of my PTSD, some people just think of me as "that crazy lady"... of course that can be amusing sometimes too.
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@skinnychick (6907)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I was popular in high school and college- the first time and honestly I wish I hadn't been. It took too much energy to be someone I wasn't. Now I could care less..I have my good friends and they know me for who Iam and those are the important ones. Here on mylot I have some great friends too and if others like what I have to say that's cool too. The one plus is that for people like us who post so personally, our mylot friends get to know the real us.. They even still like us, so being popular here is a great thing! :)
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 Feb 08
I could see you having been popular, skinnychick. You're so bubbly and fun. :) I was too weird to be popular in school, though my senior year I was the "Queen of Freaks", so kind of the head of the un-popular group. Does that count? :P That's true, once we get to know people, we can make some awesome friends here. I know I appreciate my mylot friends, including you! :)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Hey freaks rule! What was cool I had friends from all the cliques..hate that word. But the coolest were the freaks and the stoners- sometimes they were the same people sometimes not! But they were the fun ones!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
27 Feb 08
Woohoo go freaks! :P Yup, where I lived the freak and stoner groups overlapped but weren't the exact same group too. I wound up becoming so darn popular in that group my senior year because a group of freshman freaks found one of my poetry notebooks, and the delicious angst of it had them all head over heels for me. That, and so many of the freaks were interested in paganism, and I was the only one with long-term experience with it.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
25 Feb 08
I think that we all enjoy being appreciated, me especially, after all I am so wonderful (no, I meant to say a conceited, arrogant little squirt). I think that we all choose who we are and what we are like. I am quite gregarious on here, but in real life, whilst I have quite a lot of friends, I like to meet them in small groups. I am quite softly spoken and struggle to get a word in edgeways in a group. Plus, I am sure that I am going a bit deaf, my lower range hearing is definitely not what it was. My 50th is coming up and whilst my friends want a party, I would rather have a small dinner party. It may be my birthday but I know how it will end up. Party Party Party. (No, do not feel sorry for me. I should be more assertive). So, do I let my ego roam free occasionally. Sure do. That's one of the reasons that I like myLot so much.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 Feb 08
*giggles* You are so much fun! :P I think the way I am online is that way I would be offline if it weren't for my social phobia, honestly. The way I act online is pretty much the same as the "me" my close friends see, the ones I don't feel nervous around. I know how the going deaf thing is. I have what is either Meniere's disease or a neurological problem with similar symptoms, and there are days I can't hear at all out of one ear, or once in a while I'll be completely deaf for a short time. It can be a real cramp on your social life. Eh, you should be more assertive indeed. :P
@p1kef1sh (45640)
26 Feb 08
Meniere's makes you feel dizzy doesn't it? You have my sympathy. That can be frightening, especially if you are out and about. I am going to be assertive now.... I used to be indecisive, but now I am not so sure. Boom Boom.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Yup, I have vertigo, occasional hearing loss, ear pain, and lots of other fun stuff. *rolls her eyes* It's getting somewhat better though, now that I'm taking tons of meds as well as getting acupuncture for it. I love my acupuncture. :)
@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
27 Feb 08
You are popular, my friend, lecanis! And, you have definitely earned it!:-) I may not respond to all of your discussions but I do read most, if not all, of them just to have updates about a friend and to rate, which I also do with many of my other friends here. So, I don’t normally get lost even if you are referencing an older discussion and not giving full information. A very few times, I have felt a little ignorance at my part but that mainly had to do with those discussion which you started during my own long absence from here. I,…I don’t feel like being popular here. There are some disadvantages to being popular which I can’t afford personally, so I try to keep a low profile, at least in my own perception. I do have my own little ego though, everyone has, but it is not linked with popularity. My ego is for myself, for the most part, in the sense that I like to be satisfied with myself, no matter how others think or perceive me. I like to write and I like to like my own writing, LOL! Even though, I always find it lacking in one area or another. But then, nothing is perfect and one should keep improving!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Thanks, kamran! :) You seem to have an awfully good memory for things that happen around here on mylot, anyway, so it doesn't surprise me that you don't get lost. You've surprised me more than once by referencing things from quite a while ago, or that I didn't realize you'd read. :P It sounds like your form of ego is a very healthy one, really!
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
28 Feb 08
"...or that I didn't realize you'd read.:P" Interesting and creative things are there to be read, appreciated, and admired...aren't they!?:-)
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@vijigopi (991)
• United States
27 Feb 08
hehe.. this is funny. I too have the opinion that people reading 'your' discussions actually 'know you' and by you I mean only you - Lecanis. In fact, I had the habit of reading every post before I put down my thoughts. I'm saying I had because I found that this habit stopped me from responding to any discussions if I found people that had the same ideas. I was like 'Hmm.. somebody already said what I wanted to.. why should I bother saying that again'. Coming to the point, usually I find that when people respond to your discussions they know quite a lot about your situation and actually ask you about something you have not written about in that discussion. But occasionally, there have been a few(newbies I think) that don't know you and that shows in their response and I'm like 'how come they don't know Lecanis'? And then I find out they are new and then I understand. So, I think you are really popular here in Mylot and you don't need to think that you are not. And I think it's rather annoying if you have to say everything about yourself in every little discussion you start... That's not possible... Go on and be what you are.. BTW, I hope you are doing better now(about your coughing blood, I mean).
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
*giggles* Wow, viji, you make me feel so special here! :) You're right, it isn't really possible to say everything about myself in every post, and it would be annoying to try. I usually just try to recap things that have a direct effect on what I'm talking about, but other times if it's just an update, I figure it's mostly for my friends anyway. I have a cold now apparently, but it's more a head cold than in my chest. I'm still not breathing as well as I'd like to, but I'm seeing my doctor on Monday. I made the appointment already. If I get to the "coughing up blood" point again before then, I'll go to the emergency room, but I don't think I'll have to.
@xParanoiax (6997)
• United States
26 Feb 08
I admit it, I love doing the weirdest, wildest thing I can think of doing or saying and seeing how quickly my reputation spreads or how it's affected. Both online and off. And while I admit, I get minimal popularity, it's my own smallchunk. I don't often think about it, or for any longer than three minutes. But it is something I tend to do, purposefully. Mostly because it's interesting. Because it amuses me...and I am a studier of trends, of people in general. So...maybe it needs more of a small shed than a whole room for itself lol.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
27 Feb 08
Of course! Fun, fun, fun! Reactions are awesome. :) You seem so very astute to me. No wonder you say you're a studier of trends... I've seen you make some really observant comments about various things around here. So I think your ego deserves its shed.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
26 Feb 08
I too have a giant sized ego when it comes to my work. But in this Discussion forum I naturally assume that unless I am descriptive in my discussions people cannot answer me. That is the way I talk too. After all I cannot take people for granted and every individual has one's own work to do than remember me. This is a contradiction to my otherwise strong ego.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 Feb 08
*nods* Sounds like you're the opposite of me. I don't have much ego elsewhere (except perhaps my writing) but I just assume people to know me here. Silly me. Glad to hear that you're so confident in what you do, though. That's great!
@pyewacket (44032)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Well I don't know if it's an inflated ego with me but I would like to think I'm popular at least with my friends here, but lots of times when I make discussions here of some aspect of my life I'm going through, whether bad or good, I tend to give a recap background info just in case someone "new" comes along and doesn't know me well
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 Feb 08
I really like you! :) You do seem to do pretty well with the recapping. I should do that more myself. *bounces around* I should be more like pyewacket!! Woohoo... copycat time!!! It's morning, and I'm in weird mood, don't mind me. ;P
@anniepa (27246)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Yes, Hon, I do and I know just what you mean! By the way, you ARE quite popular and may I add rather "famous" here on myLot, at least within what I think of as our little circle. By that I mean there are a number of my friends here, you included of course, and others like Pye, Oreo, Gabs and Worldwise1 and many more who seem to meet quite often in our discussions so I know just what you mean about how we probably all find ourselves assuming everyone knows us. As for our egos, I think we all need to let our ego get big enough to fill its own room now and then, don't you? I don't mean in a disgustingly conceited, self-centered way but to feel confident in who we are and in knowing our friends know us and accept us for just that. Once more, you are popular here on myLot and anyone who doesn't agree with me, well tough ti++ies for them! Annie
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 Feb 08
Woohoo! I'm famous!!! (I'd better be careful or my huge head will overbalance me and I'll fall over.) :P Thank you, anniepa! Yup, it does seem we move in pretty much the same circle here, considering the people you mentioned. :) You have a point... a little ego can be good sometimes. :) Hehe, you are hilarious! Tough ti++ies to them, eh? Well, I guess I'll have to take your word for it, with that kind of strong language! You must be the authority!
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@aminion (130)
• Canada
25 Feb 08
The thing I find is no one knows me here, and how can they. I am new and the things I write about aren't always about who I really am. I can't show my giving nature by helping everyone out here. People can't see the lear i give when I read something that I don't agree with. No one really knows the true you when they are on the internet I guess that is what people find so comforting.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 Feb 08
When you're new, it's like that. I've been here over a year, I have a huge friend list, and a few of my close mylot friends have always talked to me via messengers or telephone. So it's a little different by now. I actually kind of feel like people know me better online than offline, because my social phobia doesn't get in the way of them getting to know me. I also talk about some things online I wouldn't talk about offline, because it's easier and more comfortable to share here.
@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
29 Feb 08
haha i am the oppisite! I think that people wont remember anything about what i've said in other discussions, so if i make a discussion that is similar or about the same thing again, i'll explain it all over agian, or i'll repeat information, i think taht is pretty annoying to some people too, but i feel like there are so many people here, if i type up only half the story expecting people to already know or remember the other half, its pretty presumptious and i might not get the responses i was looking for!! but i can see how you would do it, cause after a while of being here.. it does seem like its mostly the same friends that reply to dyour discussions most of the time isn't it!? Good luck with your ego lecanis, maybe you could share some of it with me and then we'll both be evened out ;)
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
29 Feb 08
Heh, that's pretty funny. ;P I think if I wasn't sure what you were talking about, I would either ask or check your previous discussions (if you said something like "As I explained in blah discussion). Then again, I tend to do things like that anyway. I'm one of those weirdos that will actually check people's responses to see what they're doing wrong when they whine about making no money. I'm too nice! It does seem like the same people mostly respond to my discussions, that's true, but once in a while I do see new faces. :) Hehe, okay, we'll share! That sounds like a good solution.